A sympathy note, much like a sympathy card message, should always come from the heart. It doesn’t have to be long or but you should aim to express exactly what you’re feeling. But we understand that this can be difficult for many people. Thinking up the words and making them sound appropriate is not easy. If you find yourself in this position then one of the sympathy notes below may be able to help inspire you in what to say in your own.

A few things to remember though: keep your sympathy notes short and to the point. Don’t well on details or remind them of anything painful. Just express your condolences to them and speak from the heart.

Use some of the sympathy note examples below to either give you ideas of what to write in your own or use them directly.

Words fall short of expressing my sorrow for your loss

We/I are saddened to hear of your sudden loss

Words can’t express how saddened we are to hear of your loss

_____ brought so many gifts to our life. We will never forget _____

With deepest sympathy on the demise of your _______

We are deeply sorry to hear about the death of _______

If my hug was strong enough to take away your pain, I would start now and never stop

I can’t imagine the sadness you must be feeling from your loss

May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead

May you take comfort in knowing an angel is watching over you

We share your grief in this time of bereavement with deepest sympathy and condolence

This planet will not be the same without _______

Just know that my arms are wrapped around you during this time of loss

As you grieve know that we are remembering you and honoring the memory of _______

Hold tight to memories for comfort, lean on your friends for strength, and always remember how much you are cared about

Please accept our heartfelt condolences on the loss of your loved one