If you know someone who has lost a loved one then you are probably aware that sending a sympathy card is a kind thing to do. But you might also be wondering: what is a sympathy card? Not everyone is absolutely sure what a sympathy card is and why you should send one. Or where … Read more
When someone has experienced a loss it can feel strange and wrong to also say happy birthday. But birthdays occur every year regardless of other events. So those grieving a loss will still have a birthday and you may want to reach out and acknowledge it. But what do you say? Does it need to … Read more
After you’ve lost your mom and her birthday comes around it can be really difficult. Although the grief of losing a parent never passes it does lessen with time. But when those big days that you would have celebrated with your mom – birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas etc. – arrive it can bring that grief and … Read more
If when an obituary is written the family would prefer an alternative to flowers – a gift, donation to charity etc.- then the phrase “in lieu of flowers” is used. But as it’s not a phrase that is very well known it is often misinterpreted to mean don’t send flowers, rather than what the family … Read more
Unfortunately because of declining health with age or illness we sometimes require a caregiver to assist us. Quite quickly they become invaluable to both the family and the person in need. So when those needing the care pass away it’s understandable to want to thank the caregiver. They have been there to help and look … Read more
When talking about bereavement and loss “sympathy” is a commonly used word. For example – “we offer or extend our sympathy to someone for their loss”. But what exactly is sympathy? What is the difference between empathy and sympathy? And how can understanding those differences help with the way we support and are there for … Read more
Writing a eulogy is really difficult. Finding the right words to express your feelings about the deceased, remembering those special moments and memories of them, not getting overwhelmed by the emotions – that’s before thinking about the things you need to avoid saying and making sure it’s appropriate for the family. There’s so much involved. … Read more
Writing a eulogy comes down to five things: gather your memories and stories, decide on a structure, write it the way you’d actually speak, keep it to three to five minutes and read it aloud before the day. You’re not writing a biography. What you’re tying to do is paint a picture of who they … Read more
‘My heart goes out to you’ is often used when sending or offering condolences to those who have lost a loved one. It’s a touching few words that express your sadness and thoughts to those who are going through such a difficult time. But even though it’s a lovely sentiment you may feel like you … Read more
When you are sending someone a sympathy card, text message or offering your condolences to those who have suffered a loss you may find yourself saying ‘with deepest sympathy’. It’s one of the most widely used phrases and ways to end a sympathy message. It’s a touching sentiment that shows you’re understanding and empathy for … Read more