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Word of sympathy for loss of wife

Losing your wife and partner is a tragedy that will have devastating effects. To have to say goodbye to the woman you loved like no other will be heartbreaking, and such a loss carried with the grieving partner forever. Bereavement is a long and painful process and so having family and friends to gather round and support you as you come to terms with a loss this great is essential.

When someone has lost a wife, perhaps a friend or relative of ours, we want to reach out and offer that person condolences. That can be in many ways; support, assistance, or juusst a message to let them know they’re in our thoughts. But it can be difficult to put these thoughts and feelings into words. Knowing what to say to a friend who has lost a wife or how to phrase it is a daunting task. Especially when it’s such a delicate situation and the bereaved is likely to be in a very fragile state. Words can be powerful so you want to make sure you say the right thing.

That’s why the selection of words of sympathy for loss of wife below will hopefully help you to find the ideal sympathy or condolence message that express how you feel. They can be used exactly as they are or changed so that they fit your situation.

I was so shocked to hear of your wife’s passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers

Your wife was a wonderful woman. She will be greatly missed. My deepest sympathies

I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your wife. My thoughts are with you and your family

Your wife will be missed by all who were lucky enough to know her. May you find peace and love in the memories you cherish. My condolences

My hearts go out to you in your time of grieving. Your wife will be sorely missed. Stay strong

Please accept our condolences on the loss of your wife. She was a special person and we share in your grief

I know nothing I can say will make things better but I just wanted you to know I am thinking of you in these difficult times

We are truly sorry to hear of the loss of your wife. May the love of family and friends help comfort you in this time of grief

Our hearts are saddened to learn of the loss of your wife. Her spirit and generosity will not be forgotten. Please know we are with you

I just heard about your wife’s passing. Please know you and your family are in my thoughts

Your wife was an amazing woman who touched everyone she knew. We are so sorry to learn of her passing and are wishing you peace and comfort during this hard time

I just wanted to offer my condolences for the terrible passing of your wife. You have my most sincere sympathies

Please accept these flowers, our condolences for your loss and hear the words we are not able to speak

We are so sorry to have learned about your wife’s passing. We are here for you however needed

I am so deeply saddened by your loss. Your wife will be in our hearts and memories. Stay strong

Your wife was a one in a million, and her legacy will be there for all to see. I can’t begin to express how sorry I am. Just know I’m thinking of you in this difficult time

We are so lucky to have you as a friend and are saddened to hear of your wife’s passing. Please know you are in our thoughts and have our most heartily condolences

Please accept my deepest sympathies for the loss of your spouse. She was one of the most caring and kind people you could hope to meet. I’m am so deeply sorry she is gone. If you need anything just let me know

My heart goes out to you and your family over the passing of your wife and mother. She was such a positive influence on everyone around her and that infectious spirit will be her legacy. You have my very sincere and heartfelt sympathy

I pay tribute to an incredible woman who was loved by all. She has left footprints in my heart and life and I will miss her greatly. My heart goes out to you and your children. I’m here if you need me

Please accept my sincerest condolences for the passing of your spouse. If I can do anything to help ease the burden don’t hesitate to ask

Try to take comfort and strength from those who care for you. We will be by your side and help you get through this. My most heartfelt sympathies

Your wife’s death is a tragedy and she will be missed by the whole community. Her good work will be a lasting tribute to the sort of person she was. My deepest condolences are with you and your family

Your wife was a dear friend and truly special person. I can’t find the words to express how hard this is. My thoughts are with you and your family and I’m sending my most heartfelt condolences

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your wife’s kind nature and warmth will be missed terribly. I only hope the knowledge that others share your grief may offer a small consolation. My sympathies

Sending my strongest sympathies for your loss. Your wife was much more than just a colleague but a true friend. I will miss her dearly. Don’t hesitate to call if you need anything

Your wife’s passing was far too soon, and although she is gone I am sure her the life she lead will continue to inspire those who knew her. I feel lucky to have spent time and known her. My deepest condolences

May God guide you through this period of grief and help lead you to some peace. Your wife will always be remembered. Please accept my condolences

Your wife was a shining beacon for all in how to live their life. She was a truly special woman who shall never be forgotten. May these flowers serve as an expression of my sympathy for you and your family

I am so saddened to learn of the loss of your loving wife. I know what an unbreakable bond you had, and I can’t begin to understand how difficult this must be. But if you need anything, just give me a call. With sympathy

It was such a shock to hear the tragic news of your wife’s passing. I can hardly believe it. Nobody ever had a bad word to say about her and she will be missed by everyone. Stay strong

I know my words can offer little to help your grief but I will be there for you whatever it is you need. Your wife was a tremendous person and my heart goes out to you during this awful time

Losing your wife is beyond cruel and we can only imagine how trying this is for you. We are reaching to offer our love and support should you need it. Our deepest sympathies during your time of loss

It was with shock and sorrow that I received the news of the death of your beloved wife. My heart and my hands reach out to you and the children, and whenever you need me and for whatever reason please call on me and I will be there for you

Your wife was such a role model to so many people. Her loss is devastating and the whole community is in mourning. Please accept our sincerest condolences

We will always remember your wife’s strength, determination and positive attitude. The world was a better place because of her presence. We will miss her dearly. With sympathy

Your wife was a shining star that lit up our lives. We feel lost without her now. Our most heartfelt sympathies go out to you and your family during this tragic time

Your wife’s passing is a tragedy, but we will try to celebrate her life and remember all the good she did. Please know we’re here if you need us. Stay strong

Sympathy messages for loss of husband

The loss of a husband is an extraordinarily difficult time for a partner to go through. The man they loved so deeply and wanted to spend their entire life with has passed away, leaving behind feelings of grief, loneliness and fear. No one can be prepared for or understand the pain of losing someone so special until it happens to them. All you can hope to do is offer some comfort and reassurance to the bereaved as they grieve.

With that in mind finding the best way to express your sympathy for someone who has lost their husband and choosing the correct words can be difficult. You want to show how much you care, that you are there for them and offer a sense of comfort. All this in just a few words isn’t easy, as well as making sure to avoid anything cliche or inappropriate.

That’s why we’ve provided this selection of sympathy messages for the loss of a husband. Hopefully they will help with ideas of what to say in your sympathy card and inspire some touching words of sympathy for the grieving partner. They can be used as they are or changed to fit your situation.

I’m deeply sorry for the loss of your dear husband. You are in my thoughts and prayers

I was so saddened to hear of your husband’s passing. He was a truly special man and will be sorely missed. You have our deepest sympathy

My heartfelt condolences. Your husband was an incredible man and he has left us far too soon

You have my sincere condolences, and I will keep you close in my thoughts and prayers in the coming weeks. Stay strong

Please accept my deepest sympathies over the death of your husband. He was a wonderful man

Please know that you have our deepest sympathy for the loss of your husband. I know it will do little to help but you are in our thoughts during this tragic time

My heartfelt sympathy for the loss of your husband. His memory will not be forgotten

I was so shocked to hear the awful news. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. Condolences

Your husband was one of the most generous and kind people you could hope to meet. My heart goes out to you and your family

May the love of God give you some peace and comfort during this tragic time. You will be in our prayers

I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. I hope you can find comfort in friends and family. Wishing you all the best and to stay strong

It was such a shock to hear if your husbands passing. I can’t express how sorry I am. Please accept my most heartfelt condolences

Your husband was a one of a kind. Please accept my sincerest condolences over his passing

May you find comfort in knowing that your husband touched so many lives. He will be missed greatly

It was an absolute honour to have known your husband. He was a man of his word, generous to a fault and more caring than anyone I’ve known. He will be sorely missed

Your husband was an exceptional man who always had time for others. The community will not be the same without his presence. My condolences

I just heard the awful news about your husband and wanted to let you know how truly sorry I am. I hope you are holding up ok and if you need anything just let me know

I know I can never hope to understand how you feel but please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. Your husband was an amazing man who has left us far too soon

Your husband had such a positive impact on so many lives. We’re all worse off for having lost him. My most heartfelt condolences

There are no words to express my profound sadness over the loss of your husband. Stay strong

I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband was a great man and he meant so much to us. We share your grief at this very sad and difficult time

I am so sorry to hear of your husband’s death. You and your family will be in my prayers and thoughts

Please accept my deepest condolences for the passing of your spouse. I wish I could do more to help but know that I will always be there if you need me

Your husband was one of the most special people you could hope to meet. I feel lucky to have known him. Please accept my condolences

I hope you can find some comfort and strength in knowing your friends and family are their for you in this truly difficult time. My condolences

Your husband was an inspiration to not only me but all who were lucky enough to know him. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family

I know there is nothing I can say to help ease the pain but know that I am always here to help. You are in my thoughts and prayers, always

My deepest condolence for the loss of your husband. I know how strong your marriage was and the love between the two of you so clear for all to see. I share in your grief and am sending you my love

Sympathy message for loss of husband

Your husbands loss was far too soon, and although he has gone I find myself thinking of him often and being inspired by the life he lead. His memory will never fade. Please accept my sincerest sympathies

Please accept my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your wonderful husband and father. Words can’t do justice to how sad I was to hear of his passing. He will be missed so greatly. My prayers are with you and your family

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Your husband was not just a colleague but a true friend of mine. I can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through. If you need a thing don’t hesitate to come to me. With sympathy

It was such a shock to have learnt about your dear husbands passing. His warmth and kind nature will be missed terribly. I hope that the knowledge others share in your grief will offer some consolation

Sending heartfelt condolences to you over the death of your husband. May the kindness and love of family and friends comfort you during this tragic time

Your husband was a great friend and special person. I can’t truly express how hard this is. My thoughts are with you and your family and I’m sending my most sincere sympathies

May God guide you through this period of grief and help to lead you to some peace. Your husband will never be forgotten. Please accept my condolences

I pay tribute to an inspirational man. His legacy will live on and the wonderful life he lead be an example to so many. Your husband will never be forgotten and the memories we made a constant reminder of his life. My deepest sympathy

Your husbands death is a tragedy and he will be missed by the entire community. His good work will be a lasting testament to the sort of man he was. My most heartfelt sympathies are with you and your family

The hurt and sadness you must be feeling is unfair, but I hope remember that your friends and family love you. Try to share your burden with them and take comfort in their love. I’m always here if you need me. Stay strong

I will always remember your husbands kind smile, and the positive impact he had on all who met him. He was a truly special man. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy over his passing

Having the opportunity to know your husband was an honour and I can’t believe he is really gone. He will never be forgotten and I share in your grief as we mourn his passing. I am praying for you and your family

condolence messages for colleagues and coworkers

When a colleague or coworker loses a loved one, family member or friend it can be a truly awful time. The same is true when it’s family or a partner of a coworker who may have passed away. The grief they will be feeling will be profound, the heartache causing a huge amount of pain.

So if a coworker has suffered a loss, or a colleague has passed away then you may want to reach out and offer them a message of sympathy and support. Thoughtful words can be of great comfort during such testing times. But knowing the right thing to say or write can be very difficult. Finding the best way to express your condolences can be hard and you will want to avoid saying anything that could cause offence.

But a sympathy card is a touching gesture that will always be appreciated. For a coworker or family of a colleague just knowing that friends from work are thinking of them whilst they grieve is a comfort. So don’t let the fear of getting it wrong stop you from expressing your sympathy. Just be mindful of how your words might come across.

With that in mind try some of these condolence messages for colleagues or coworkers that we’ve provided below. They should help to provide you with inspiration to write your own expression of sympathy or can be copied as they are. Remember to let your words flow from the heart and speak with sincerity, and your message will be received with gratitude and appreciation.

Condolence Messages for a Coworker

These words of sympathy would work perfectly in a card or with some flowers as a way of showing your support.

The whole office is thinking of you and here for you however needed

You have become like a part of the family and we were so saddened to hear of your loss. You are in our thoughts

Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers during this time

Thinking of you and wishing you hope in the midst of sorrow, comfort in the midst of pain

I am so sorry for you loss, if there is anything I can do to help during this time don’t hesitate to ask

My heart go out to you in your time of sorrow. Stay strong

I hope this card finds you surrounded by strength and compassion. Know that you are loved and thought of, always

Please accept my warmest condolences, I’m sending thoughts of peace and courage your way

Sending you strength to get through this difficult time. With love

You have my deepest sympathies for your loss

My heart goes out to you during this difficult period. If there is anything I can do then please just ask

My deepest sympathies during your time of loss, my thoughts/prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time

I was deeply saddened to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you

Please accept our warmest condolences, we are deeply sorry for your loss

Though words, however gentle, cannot take your loss away, still may these flowers sent in sympathy help comfort you today

Condolences to Coworker’s Family

You may want to send a sympathy card or flowers to the family of a coworker who has passed away. If so then the messages below will be ideal for showing you care and are thinking of them.

I was lucky enough to work with _______ and got a chance to see what a great man he was. I will miss him dearly and wanted to extend my sympathies to you and the family

Know that we are thinking of you, remembering _______ and celebrating his/her life

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. It was a joy to work with _______ and I will never forget the warmth his/her smile brought to the office each and every day

______ will always be in our hearts and memories

I am so sorry for your loss. My/our thoughts are with you and your family

We are wishing you and your family courage and peace during this time of mourning

Wishing you comfort during this difficult time, and my deepest sympathies go to you and your family

The loss of ______ will be felt by many. May the memories of their wonderful personality and many contributions be celebrated by all

______ will leave a huge hole in all our lives. The office won’t ever be the same without him/her. We will all be thinking of you

______ had a tremendous impact on all who got to know him/her. I will miss him/her with all my heart

Condolence Messages to Colleague on Death of Father

The loss of a father is one of the most difficult experiences anyone will have to go through. So if a colleague is this way then reaching out and showing you’re there for them will be hugely appreciated.

My deepest condolences to you and your family. May the soul of your father rest in peace. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

Please accept my deepest sympathies for the loss of your father

Please accept my condolences on the passing of your father. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time

May the happy memories of your father help bring you some comfort in this difficult time. My deepest condolences

Please accept my sincerest sympathies for the loss of your dad. You will be in my thoughts and prayers

I hope you can find strength in loved ones to help ease the pain. Know I’ll be thinking of you

I can’t imagine what you’re going through but I wanted to reach out and let you know I will be there for you, whatever you need. Many condolences

I would like to express my sorrow and condolences to you and your family. May the soul of your father rest in peace

We pray that in this difficult time, God gives you the strength and courage to bear the loss of your father. My deepest condolences to you and your family

Condolence Messages to Colleague on Death of Mother

Much like losing a father, the loss of a mother is heartbreaking and the cause of so much pain. Having friends and coworkers around to support and help get through the period of grief is essential, so offer you condolences with these sympathy wishes.

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your mother. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

I was truly sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. Please accept my deepest condolences

My thoughts are with you during this time of sorrow following the loss of your mother. If there is anything I can do to help you during this time, please do not hesitate to call me

May the cherished memories of your mother bring you some peace during this truly awful time

My thoughts will be only of you during this terrible time. You have my deepest sympathy

I can’t begin to know what you’re going though but you have my most heartfelt sympathies during this time

Losing a mom is heartbreaking but we hope you know we are by your side during this time of sorrow

No words can take away the pain of such a loss but I hope the knowledge that there are people who care and love you may ease it. Deepest condolences

condolence email samples and examples

Whilst it’s almost always better to send a card of condolence, there are times when it’s not possible. Things like the the time it will take, being able to see the bereaved in person or post it to them, knowing their address etc. All these can play a role in your decision not to send a card. Sometimes it just works out that sending a condolence email is the best option. Simplicity, speed and ease.

But much like with writing a sympathy card, knowing what to say in a condolence email can be tricky. What sort of tone do you use? How long should it be? When do you send it?

So if you’re struggling to write your condolence email then you can use the samples and examples below either as they are or change the details to fit your circumstances. Alternatively follow the tips we’ve provided to help you write your own email.

Table of Contents
Sample Condolence Emails
Condolence Email to Client
Condolence Email to Boss
Condolence Email to Employee
What to Put in the Subject Line
Condolence Email Writing Tips

Sample Condolence Emails

These email templates are suitable for use in most situations and aren’t designed for a specific person like the samples further down.

Dear ______,

I am so sorry for your loss. ______ was a wonderful person who will be so sorely missed. Their warm spirit and generosity was a joy to all who knew them.

Please accept my condolences to both you and your family, and if there is anything I can do don’t hesitate to ask.

My sincerest sympathy,


Dear ______,

I was so sorry to hear about the untimely passing of ______. Whilst understandably I don’t know the details I wanted you to know I’m thinking of you during this awful time.

With sympathy,


Dear ______,

I am so sorry about _____’s death. She was a truly incredible woman who had such an amazing effect on everyone who knew her. I can’t imagine how difficult this is for you.

Her warmth and generosity made us all better people and we consider ourselves lucky to have known her. She will be miss terribly.

Please accept our sincerest condolences,


Dear ______,

I was so sorry to learn about the loss of your ______. Please accept my condolences and know that you are in my prayers. If there is anything I can do to help or you just need to talk then I will always be there for you.

All my sympathy,

Sample Condolence Email to Client

Sending condolences to a client is important as getting the tone wrong or causing offence could damage future business opportunities or relationships. With a condolence email to a client you can either stick to something short and simple or talk in detail the loss. See examples of both below.

Dear ______,

Please accept my deepest condolences for the loss of your mother/father. It was such sad and shocking news.

Whilst I never had the opportunity to meet your mother/father I know how close the two of you were. Over the years we’ve worked together her/his influence has been clear to see.

I know how difficult this must be for you so I wanted to reach out and let you know as a trusted client that I’m here if you need anything. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.



Dear ______,

It was with such sadness I learned of ______’s passing. He/she was a great friend as well as being as a trusted client.

Please accept my most sincere condolences to both you and your family. If there is anything I can do please don’t hesitate to ask.



Dear _____,

We were shocked to learn of your loss. _____’s passing will be grieved by all of us here at the firm. I considered him a personal friend and I will always remember him with great admiration.

With sincere sympathy,


Dear ______,

I’m so deeply sorry to hear of your fathers passing. Please accept my condolences and know that you will be in my prayers.


Sample Condolence Email to Boss

Losing a boss can be upsetting if you were close. You may want to send an email to the company executives that express your sympathy or to the family of the boss who has passed away letting them know how wonderful they were to work for.

Dear ______,

I was so sad to hear about the loss of your wife. My heart goes out to you during this incredibly difficult time.

I only had the opportunity to meet your wife on a handful of occasions but she was always such a kind and funny lady. I know she will be missed dearly.

Everyone is thinking if you and if you need any help with anything then please just ask.

My condolences,


Dear ______,

I am so sorry to learn of ______’s passing. You have my most sincere sympathies at this time. Your whole family is in my thoughts.

_______ was a fantastic boss and the entire office is devastated by their loss. His/her positive attitude helped to motivate all of us and we were never in doubt as to how much he/she valued our contribution and work. We will miss him/her so much.

If you need anyone to cover or take on some extra work at the office I would be happy to do so.

My deepest condolences to you and your family,

Sample Condolence Email to Employee

If you run a business or company then at some point an employee will suffer a loss. Sending them an email to let them know you’re thinkng of them during tough times is a touching gesture and will be appreciated.

Dear ______,

We wanted to reach out and offer our condolences for the loss of your mother. We are sincerely sorry for such a heartbreaking loss.

Please don’t hesitate to let us know if there’s anything we can do to assist you as you deal with your bereavement. Human Resources are available to discuss our bereavement policy with and what else there is that we can do.

Please again accept our sympathy in trying time and remember we are here to support you as you move forward.



Dear _____,

We are very sorry to learn that you have experienced a death in your family. Although we do not know the details, we want you to know that we are thinking about you in your bereavement.

Please accept our condolences.


What to Put in the Subject Line of Condolence Email

The subject line of your email doesn’t have to have anything special in it. It’s always best to fill it in and avoid leaving it blank but the actual words shouldn’t cause you too much worry. A few simple options are:

  • My Condolences
  • Condolences
  • With Sympathy
  • My Heartfelt Condolences
  • My Sincerest Sympathy

Condolence Email Writing Tips

If you would prefer to write your own email rather than using one of the samples above then you can follow some of these tips/guide to help make it sound just right.

  • Be sincere – there’s nothing worse than receiving a letter or email that sounds forced. So ensure that you speak from the heart and genuinely mean what you’re saying.
  • Express your sorrow – be clear how much you will miss the departed and how sorry you are for their loss. This is the reason for your email so make it clear quickly.
  • Offer support – if you can then offering help is a touching gesture and one the recipient will almost certainly appreciate. It can range from being there to talk to or listen through to running errands for them or picking up their children.
  • Being personal – if you were close to the deceased then you might want to talk more personally about them. Perhaps retell a story or anecdote involving them or just mention their best qualities that you admired.

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What to Write in a Sympathy Card: The Ultimate Guide

This is the most comprehensive guide on what to write in a sympathy card. Period.

You’ll find over 130 sympathy messages for friends, family, coworkers and more on this page. As well as a complete guide to writing your own sympathy card messages.

So if you’re struggling with what to say in a sympathy card, this is the post for you.

Table of Contents
Sympathy Message Examples
Short and Simple
For a Friend
Writing your Own Sympathy Message
What Not to Write
Signing Your Card

Sympathy Message Examples

Writing a sympathy message can be hard. Finding the appropriate words and offering your condolences in a fairly short, simple way is difficult for most of us.

These examples should help to show you the sort of sympathy messages and sentiments that you can express in your card.

  • I’m/we’re so sorry for your loss. You are in my/our thoughts and prayers
  • Please know we’re thinking of you during this terrible time. If there’s anything you need we are here for you. Stay strong.
  • I know nothing I can say will help ease the pain but I wanted you to know you are firmly in my thoughts and I’m hoping you can find support in the loved ones around you
  • I’ll always remember ______ with such fondness and warmth. Those memories I have will live on forever and be cherished for years to come
  • You have my deepest condolences for the loss of such a wonderful person
  • Even though the pain will dull with time we will never forget _______
  • It was with great sadness we/I learned of _______’s passing. In these difficult times we/I wanted to offer our sincerest condolences and hope you find love and support
  • My heart goes out to you. Wishing you much love and support
  • It’s beyond cruel to lose someone we loved so dear. We’re so deeply sorry for your loss.
  • We feel blessed to have known _____ and their memory will live on in all of us

Sympathy message for a loved one

Short and Simple Sympathy Messages

You may want to say just a few short words of condolence in your card. Keeping things simple and not saying too much can often be more appropriate.

The following examples are suitable for most situations and can be used in a card or in person.

  • You are in my thoughts during this difficult time. Please accept my sympathies
  • You and your family will be in my prayers
  • Please accept heartfelt condolences
  • I was so saddened to hear of your loss
  • My heart is with you in this trying time
  • Know that you are in my thoughts and prayer
  • You have my sincerest sympathy
  • You are always in my thoughts
  • I hope you can find some peace and comfort
  • May God bless and comfort you

Condolence Messages For a Friend

A friend losing a loved one is never easy. We don’t want to see a close friend grieving or in pain. So expressing your sympathy for their loss and being there for them is part a strong friendship.

Try to show your support and offer anything they may need. And don’t be afraid to show your compassion and empathy in your sympathy wishes to them.

  • Words can’t fully express how sorry I am for your loss. I’m thinking of you at this terrible time and am there for you whatever you need
  • I was so sad to hear of the passing of _____. I know how close you were and just wanted to reach out and offer my condolences
  • Sending you comforting thoughts and wishes. I hope you’re feeling ok and know that I’m here if you need me
  • May your family and friends offer the support, strength and love you need in this tremendously difficult time
  • I can’t begin to understand what you’re going through but am here if you need anyone to talk to.
  • _____’s memory will never be forgotten, and I hope you can find comfort in the people who love you
  • Sending my deepest sympathies for your terrible loss
  • The loss of ______ came as such a shock. I know how hard this must be for you. May you find comfort in those around you and some peace during this tough time
  • Losing someone so special to us is unbearable. My words will have little comfort but please know you’re in my thoughts and prayers during this awful time
  • The memory of _____ and they’re incredible life will remain with us forever. They were truly special and we will miss them so much. My deepest condolences

See more condolence messages for friends.

condolence message

Sympathy Messages for loss of Mother

The loss of someone as important as a mother is heartbreaking for her children. It’s an incredibly difficult time for them and one that should be handled with sensitivity.

Use your message to be positive about the persons mother. Maybe mention a story or anecdote about them. Or just a fond memory you have. Whatever it is, show your respects with a heartfelt message of sympathy for the loss of a mother.

  • Nothing I can say will ease the pain but I hope you can take a small amount of comfort knowing that so many care about you. You have my most sincere condolences
  • Our mothers are the most important and special people in our lives, and yours was truly one in a million. She was an amazing woman and I’m so deeply sorry for your loss
  • To try and comfort you when you have lost your mother is pointless. All I will say is she was an incredible person and I will miss her dearly
  • The love of a mother is an unbreakable bond that will live on forever. You will always have her in your heart and her memory will remain amongst all who knew her
  • You and your family are in my prayers. I’m so sorry for your loss
  • I hope you can take comfort from knowing the incredible inspiration your mother was to others. Everyone who knew her was influenced and inspired by her warmth and kindness. She will be missed so much
  • You have my deepest sympathy for the loss of your mother. She was a remarkable woman and will be sorely missed
  • The time I spent with your mother are some of the happiest memories I have. She was always smiling, so cheerful and just a pleasure to be around. Her loss leaves behind a gaping hole in all our hearts. If you need anything during this time then please don’t hesitate to ask
  • I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you and your family. Please accept my condolences and you will be in my prayers
  • Your mother was loved by all who knew her. Those touched by her mere presence share your grief and we wanted to extend our sincere condolences for her loss

Sympathy Messages for loss of Father

Much like losing a mother, the loss of a father will be devastating to his family. In a time like this it can be comforting for his children to be reminded of the sort of man he was. Reflect on the positive qualities he had and how you admired him. The examples here should give you an idea of how to express those condolences.

  • Your father was a great man and his loss will be felt by so many. He will be missed greatly. You have my deepest condolences
  • I will always remember your dads amazing sense of humor and laughter. He brought joy with him wherever he was. His loss is heartbreaking
  • Here’s to one of the greatest men I knew – your father. I’m going to miss him so much. Please accept my most heartfelt condolences
  • I saw how strong the bond was between you and your father. I can’t begin to understand your pain but wanted to offer my support and any help you might need
  • I hope you will find some comfort in knowing that your dad was beloved by all who knew him. He was a great man and leaves behind a brilliant legacy. I’m so sorry for your loss
  • I’m truly sorry for the loss of your father – a wonderful man. If you need to talk or just someone to listen then don’t hesitate in getting in touch
  • Your father was a kind hearted, warm and generous man. You have my most sincere condolences on his passing
  • We will remember your dad as the life and soul of the party he was. I will celebrate his life and the good times we had. I’m very sorry for your loss
  • You and your family are in my thoughts during this extremely difficult time
  • You will be in my prayers hoping you can find some comfort as you mourn your father

Loss of Son Sympathy Card Messages

There can be nothing as painful as losing a child. Most of us will be unable to comprehend the pain and heartbreak it brings. A parent outliving their son is one of life’s tragedies.

Words will do nothing to help that pain but showing they are loved and have people who care for them may bring some comfort. So use the sympathy messages below to try and offer some solace in such a dreadful time.

  • I have no words to help you heal and can offer nothing other than my support. I’m just so terribly sorry for your loss
  • There are no right things I could say at this time, just that I am here for you
  • There can be no pain more terrible and deep than that of losing a son. My heart, soul and prayers go out to you
  • I was truly blessed to have known your son. He can never be replaced and was such a special person. You have my deepest sympathy
  • The popularity of your son is testament to how much he was loved. He spread happiness everywhere and we were lucky to have had him in our lives. We are so sorry for his passing
  • The joy filled smile of your baby boy is something all who met him will cherish. He was beyond special. Please accept our heartfelt condolences
  • I wish I could say or do something that might lessen your pain. Please don’t think twice about reaching out for help if you need it
  • Your son will not be forgotten and his imprint in our lives last forever. Sending the warmest thoughts and condolences at the incredibly sad time
  • I am beyond sorry for your devastating loss. My heart aches for you and your family
  • Your son was an amazing person who will be remembered for all the great things he did. I wish you some peace during this terrible time

sympathy message for loss of son

Loss of Daughter Sympathy Card Messages

The loss of a daughter will be equally as crushing as that of a son. Try to offer your condolences on the most thoughtful way you can with these sympathy messages.

  • Your baby girl’s memory will last forever in the memory of all that we’re privileged to know her. We are very sorry for your loss
  • My most sincere condolences to you and your family. It is unfair and a tragedy to lose someone as young and vibrant as your daughter. She will be missed greatly
  • Your daughters spirit and soul created memories that will live on after her. The loss is incomprehensible and we are so sorry
  • Please remember that we will be with you during this time of grief. Don’t hesitate to reach out
  • Your wonderful daughter was loved by all. She has been taken too soon and will always be in our hearts
  • It’s hard to think of a world without ______ in it. She was such a vibrant, beautiful woman and I still can’t believe she is gone. You have my deepest sympathies
  • Even now the loss of your daughter is still hard to make sense of. I just can’t believe she is gone. My heart goes out to you during this awful time
  • My prayers are with you and your family. I hope you can find some strength to make it through
  • I only wanted to send this note to let you know if you need someone to listen or a shoulder to cry on I will always be there for you
  • I can only hope you eventually find some peace. My sincerest condolences

Condolences for Loss of Husband

Losing anyone from your life is terrible. But the loss of a spouse is one of the worst. For someone you have loved more than almost anyone and have spent your life with – the pain will be immense.

So if you know someone that has suffered the loss of their husband then these words of sympathy should offer support in their time of grieving.

  • Your husband was a good man, and his passing has affected us greatly. He will be deeply missed. Our condolences
  • I will never forget what a great friend and Dad your husband was. I can’t believe he’s gone and wish you my most heartfelt sympathies
  • Your husband was the definition of a great guy. He made time for everyone and was always a joy to be around. We can’t express how much we will miss him
  • The memories I have of your husband are some of my fondest. Every time I think of him I smile. You and your entire family are in my constant thoughts
  • Your husbands quiet strength and dignity was an inspiration. I looked up to him in so many ways. I’m going to miss him dearly and will be there for you whatever you may need
  • We will celebrate his life and all the good he did. There will be tears but his memory won’t be forgotten. You have our deepest sympathy for your loss
  • I can’t imagine the pain you are suffering, but I will always be here for you, and am just a phone call away
  • Nothing I can say will help gifts make things better but please know that I’m thinking of you constantly. You have my deepest sympathy for your loss
  • I hope loved ones and family can help you find strength to get through what is an absolute tragedy. My sympathies for your loss
  • Sending love and courage to get through the coming days. We won’t ever forget your husband

Condolence Messages for Loss of Wife

As with losing a husband, the loss of a wife will affect their partner and family profoundly. Show your support and reach out to offer some comfort with a touching sympathy card message.

  • Although she is gone the memories of her will live on forever. Hold on to those and keep the memories alive. Sending you our love and prayers
  • Your wife was a truly amazing woman. Her love and warmth was appreciated by all who knew her. I’m so sorry for your loss
  • Sending loving thoughts and thinking of you during this horribly sad time
  • No words could adequately describe the pain you’re having to go through. Your wife will be missed greatly but the light she brought to so many lives not forgotten
  • No words will ever be enough to express the sorrow I feel for your lost wife. But I hope you can take some comfort from knowing I’ll be there for you
  • ______ was a truly wonderful person. When we heard the news our hearts broke. We’re if you need is for anything
  • Your wife is irreplaceable and will never be forgotten. We will miss her more than words can say
  • I can’t comprehend the loss of someone so important like your wife. But her life won’t be forgotten, and her memories will live on in our hearts. Our thoughts are with you
  • Hold on to the countless good times you had. I hope you can stay strong and don’t hesitate to reach out if you need to talk
  • Sending the deepest condolences to you and your whole family

Loss of Brother Sympathy Message Examples

Siblings are often extremely close to one another. So losing a brother will have a dramatic and painful impact on his brothers and sisters.

Show your understanding and empathy with a heartfelt condolence message for the loss of a brother. Use the examples below to help.

  • I was so sad to learn of the passing of your brother. I will cherish the memories I have of him. If you need anything at all I’m here for you
  • I know what a close bond you and your brother had, so his loss must have been so much harder for you. I just wanted to pass on my condolences
  • Learning of your brothers death was such a shock. He was a great friend and everyone was so delighted to have known him. You have my deepest sympathy for your loss
  • Losing a sibling must be incredibly hard and my thoughts are with you as you mourn your brother
  • We are all grieving for this tragic loss. Your brother was beloved by all who knew him and will be revered as a special guy. I hope you can fund strength and love in those surrounding you
  • Your brother was taken too soon and will leave behind a huge hole in many lives. I hope you and your family can find peace after such a tragic loss
  • Sending my love after the loss of your dear brother. Please pass my condolences to your entire family
  • May the memories of your bother provide some comfort during this dreadful time. Please accept my condolences
  • Your brother was as kind as he was brace. It was an honor to have known him. May he rest in peace
  • We were privileged to get to know your brother. That time we have we will always be thankful for. My deepest condolences to you and your while family

Loss of Sister Sympathy Message Wording

Just as with losing a brother, the loss of a sister will be impossible to bear. Her siblings will be bereft with the death of their beloved family member. Try to be there for them and show that through a supportive sympathy message.

  • I cannot imagine a world without your sister. She was so vibrant and bubbly. I just can’t believe she’s gone. I’m going to miss her more than words can say. You have my deepest sympathy
  • i wish I had one more day just to tell your sister what she meant to me. I will miss her every day. I am so sorry for your loss
  • Your sister was an inspiring and brilliant person. I feel like the world is already a less special place without her. May she rest in peace
  • She may be gone but her life lives on through the memories we made together. My condolences to you
  • I will be forever grateful to have known your sister. She was always so upbeat and happy. I will miss her so deeply
  • I just wanted to extended my sincerest condolences to your family for the loss of your sister. She will be remembered for only good
  • I was so sorry to hear of your sisters passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this awful time
  • I know that nothing I can do will comfort you but I wanted to reach out and say how much your sister will be missed. If you need to talk, I’m here
  • We were so deeply sorry to hear of your loss. She was a wonderful woman who’s time was cut so short. Our sympathies
  • I know your site would have wanted you to stay strong even during this time of loss. She was a remarkable person and will be deeply missed

Loss of a Coworker Sympathy Sentiments

Work colleagues may not be as close as family or friends. But losing someone you are used to seeing every day at work can be deeply affecting.

Use these messages to send a sympathy note or card to the family of your coworker expressing your sorrow for their loss.

  • I enjoyed working with ______ so much and his/her cheerful personality was appreciated by everyone in the office. They will be dearly missed
  • ______ made coming to work every day that bit more enjoyable. I’m going to miss him/her. My condolences
  • I was so sad to hear of your loss. Whilst I didn’t work much with _____ I always found him/her to be a generous and friendly. I’m very sorry for your loss
  • ______ was a legend of our office. They will always be in our hearts
  • Wishing you peace and hope in these difficult times
  • The office just won’t be the same without _____. My thoughts are with you
  • We have all felt the loss of _____ at work and we are all sending our condolences
  • I know we weren’t very close but I wanted to extend my sympathy for your loss
  • We lost not only a coworker, but also a friend. They will be missed. Condolences for your loss
  • I will remember ______ with a great fondness. Work won’t feel the same without them. You have my condolences

Sympathy Messages for an Acquaintance

Writing a sympathy message for someone you don’t know well can be even more difficult than to a loved one. Striking the right tone and using appropriate words is important. Use these examples as a guide for what to say.

  • Although we don’t know each other well I wanted to send my condolences for your loss. I hope you will accept my sympathy and thoughts
  • We never had the opportunity to meet but I knew your husband/wife well and wanted to pass on my condolences. Their good nature and kindness will be missed. Wishing you all my sympathy
  • My deepest condolences for your loss. Although I never had the chance to meet your mother/father I remember how highly you spoke of them and how close you were. My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow
  • We may not be all that close but I know how hard things must be for you. Please accept my sympathy for your loss
  • Although our connection is limited I understand the pain a loss like you’ve experienced causes. I will be thinking of you

Loss of Pet Sympathy Card Messages

We love our pets just as much as family. They become equally as important to us, and we grieve their loss in the same way. The passing of a pet is deeply moving and will be felt very strongly by their owners.

So you should offer your condolences and sympathy in the same way you would any other loss. Show respect and understand for the bereaved and their grief.

  • I know how close you and ______ were. I hope the lovely memories you made together can provide some comfort as you grieve. He/she will always be in your heart
  • You and your family are in my thoughts as you mourn the loss of a lovable pet and true friend
  • The loss of a pet is always hard, even more so when they’ve had such a huge impact on our lives. That love and friendship will never die though, and the memories live on in us forever
  • Losing your furry friend in such a sudden way is heartbreaking. Accept my most heartfelt condolences
  • Dogs show the sort of loyalty and unconditional love that makes your heart swell. To lose that is beyond cruel. I’m wishing you my sincerest sympathies
  • I was so sad to learn of the loss of your adorable cat. She was so friendly and I know how much you’ll miss her
  • Having to make the decision to put your beloved pet down is devastating. But you were the most wonderful owner she/he could have had and your courage in putting her/his wellbeing first is admirable. You have my deepest sympathies
  • Losing a family member, which a pet is, is a tragedy. I’ll be thinking of you and sending loving thoughts
  • The wonderful memories you shared with ______ will live on. They will be greatly missed and I’m so sorry for your loss
  • These words will do little to ease your pain but I’m thinking of you as you mourn your loss

Writing your Own Sympathy Message

If you make the decision to write your own sympathy message, rather than using one of the examples above, then you can follow some steps to get the perfect wording and format.

Whilst it may seem daunting trying to find the best words of condolence, it doesn’t have to. Most people will appreciate the time and effort you have taken to write and send a sympathy card.

Even if your words aren’t absolutely perfect, as long as you are sincere and they come from the heart then they will be received with gratitude and warmth.

Try following these guidelines:

Who is the Recipient

The way you write your sympathy message and the tone you take is determined by who it is intended for. A close family member will receive a very different type of message than an acquaintance.

If you aren’t very close to them then a short, simple condolence message is probably best. Avoid being too emotional or sentimental as it could be seen as inappropriate if you aren’t a family member or close friend. The same applies for jokes or anything humorous.

If the card is going to a friend or family member then you should be more open with what you say. You can talk about how much you will miss the deceased, what a great person they were, perhaps retell a short story you remember fondly involving them. You will want your message to be positive in the way it talks of the dead, and should be somewhat upbeat rather than focusing on the suffering they are going through.

Offering Help

Offering support and an ear to listen when someone has suffered a bereavement is a kind gesture. It’s the sort of thing that should definitely be included in a sympathy card, providing the recipient is someone you know well.

Losing someone causes untold grief, but alongside that there are things like a funeral that need to be arranged and belongings sorted. This can be overwhelming for many when combined with the effects of grieving and still having to live your own life (job, children etc).

So when sending your sympathy message, if you can, offer to help in some way. Even something as simple as taking the children to school for them or helping with parts of the funeral will be greatly appreciated.

Card Etiquette

Alongside deciding what to write in a sympathy card there are often questions around the etiquette in sending one. When is the right time to send it? Am I too late? Should I include a gift? And many more.

Hopefully the following will clear up any doubts you have and show the best way to navigate those questions.

When to Send it?

There isn’t any real set time frame for sending a sympathy card. The sooner the better, really. Sometimes that’s easier said than done though, especially if you only find out about the passing of someone a significant time after it has happened. So a few months would still be acceptable. But when possible, aim for sending it as quickly as you can

If you’re concerned you’re too late there is no harm in referencing it in your message – “I’m really very sorry for how late I am with this card”

Should I Send Flowers?

It’s certainly not mandatory and you shouldn’t feel compelled to do so. In most cases a sympathy note or card will be more than enough.

However, if you wanted to send a bouquet of flowers that would, I’m sure, be very appreciated. Sending flowers to offer sympathy for a loss is very common so wouldn’t be an odd gesture. They often come with a small card or note that you could write your message of condolence on.

Is an Email/Using Social Media Acceptable?

A sympathy card should be the priority. Whilst using Facebook to offer condolences is common now, it is very impersonal. Especially if you know and are close to the deceased or family. Where it may be more appropriate is if you didn’t know the deceased well. But a card will always be more thoughtful.

Should I Avoid Religion?

The decision regarding religion will come down to your own judgement. Only you know the recipient and their views towards religion. A very strong atheist is unlikely to appreciate any form of religious message. A devout Christian wouldn’t.

Generally most people won’t take offence to words like “you are in my prayers” but anything more than that may make some feel uncomfortable. The best thing to do is if you’re worried then avoid it, just to be on the safe side.

Following Up

In the future it might be quite nice to send an anniversary card to mark the passing. The anniversary of a loved ones death may bring back those feelings of heartache and grief experienced originally. So receiving a card with more words of support and comfort on that anniversary can be very touching. But it will not be seen as rude to not do this. Just that it might be a nice gesture if you remember.

What Not to Write

There are some phrases and words you should avoid when deciding on what to write in your sympathy messages. You may end up causing offence without meaning to.

  • Don’t bring up the circumstances surrounding the death itself. The memory of a loved ones passing is going to be terrible, so won’t want to be relived or reminded of it.
  • Stay away from words like “died” and “death”, as well as phrases such as “it’s for the best” or “it was God’s plan”. Negative words can be jarring for the recipient and using phrases that presume you know what the bereaved is feeling or what is next for them could come across as very insensitive.
  • Don’t compare your own loss with anyone else’s. Whilst there may be similarities everyone experiences loss and grief differently. Comparing yours with there’s could be seen as taking attention away from their own bereavement.
  • Send a sympathy card rather than using social media or an email. Those aren’t unacceptable ways to offer condolences but a card is much more personal and shows a degree of care and effort that has gone into wishing them sympathy for their loss.

Signing your Card

Choosing how to sign a sympathy card will depend on what sort of message you have used and your relationship with the recipient.

The most common closing will be a simple, short few words. “Sincerely” or anything else formal might not be appropriate for a sympathy card.


  • With caring thoughts
  • My sincerest sympathy
  • With sympathy
  • Our deepest condolences
  • You’re in my thoughts and prayers

If you’re close to the recipient, maybe a family member or good friend, then you can include they’re name in your closing or use the word “love” as well.


  • We/I will never forget _____
  • The life and memory of ______ will remain with us forever
  • With love
  • With loving thoughts
  • ______ will never be forgotten

Whether you choose to write your own sympathy card messages or one of the examples provided here, as long as you speak from the heart and are genuine in what you say the exact words won’t matter. Just show you care and that you are there for the bereaved and they will appreciate the gesture.

Condolence Note Samples and examples

If you want to show your sympathy or support to someone suffering a loss then you may want to write and send a condolence note.

A condolence note is a few short words or sentences offering your condolences and sympathy. Usually written or printed on a small note with a pretty design. It differs from a sympathy letter, which is far more detailed, or a sympathy card, which often contains a single condolence message.

Writing a condolence note doesn’t have to be difficult. You might be worried about saying the right thing or making sure what you write is perfect but remember that the bereaved will appreciate the time and effort of just sending one.

If you’re finding it hard to come up with the right words then these sample notes should give you some good examples of the types of things to say.

So use the condolence note samples and examples below as either a guide to writing your own or use them as they are.

Table of Contents
How to Write a Condolence Note
What Not to Say
Condolence Note to a Friend
Condolence Note for Loss of Mother
Condolence Note for Loss of Father
Condolence Note for Loss of Brother
Condolence Note for Loss of Sister
Condolence Note for Loss of Grandmother
Condolence Note for Loss of Grandfather
Condolence Note for Loss of Child

How to Write a Condolence Note

If you have decided to write your own note rather than using some of the examples below then there are some steps you can follow. You don’t have to stick to them all, and it’s important to use your own judgement as to what’s appropriate. But hopefully it will give you a starting point of how to write your own condolence notes.

  • Start by recognising the loss that has been suffered. Possibly mention the deceased by name, if you knew them well enough.
  • Next you should express your condolences. This can be tricky if you aren’t sure what to say but either use the example notes below for inspiration or our sympathy and condolence messages to help with the best wording.
  • Follow this with a personal touch. Maybe mention their best qualities or a memory you have of them.
  • Offering support or help is always appreciated, if you can. It doesn’t have to be very specific but just something like “I’m there for you” can be very touching.
  • End your note with a heartfelt wish or expression and sign your name.

What Not to Say

  • Never use phrases such as “they’re in a better place”, “it was God’s plan”, “it’s for the best” etc. Whilst you may have the best intention with saying something like this they can be very offensive and upsetting at such a difficult time.
  • Religion can be sensitive so is best avoided. Unless you are 100% sure the recipient will appreciate a note that has a religious element or tone to it then it is probably better to stay away.
  • Avoid bringing up the details of the death of the deceased. Going over those specifics whilst the bereaved is grieving will only remind them of the loss and bring back the pain.

Condolence Note to a Friend

I’m so terribly sorry for your heartbreaking loss. You have my deepest sympathies at this truly awful time.

If you need my help, support or just someone to listen I’ll be there for you.

Love and condolences,


Words cannot describe the sorrow I felt on finding out about _____’s passing. Their generous spirit and warmth was clear to everyone who met them. They will be sorely missed and never forgotten.

Hoping you find the strength and love in friends and family to face the tough days ahead.


Condolence Note for Loss of Mother

I was so saddened to hear about the death of your mother. I can’t begin to imagine how difficult this is for you.

She was a wonderful woman who had time for everyone. Her selflessness and generosity will be missed by all who knew her.

Please know that I’m thinking of you and sending my prayers. You have my deepest sympathies.


I just wanted to extend my most heartfelt condolences for the loss of your mother.

Losing your mom is one of the hardest times you can go through. I can’t begin to imagine how hard this is, and very little I can say will help. But remember how much love and support you have around you. All your friends, including me, will be there for you.

Stay strong,

Condolence Note for Loss of Father

My deepest sympathy for the loss of your father.

He was a great man who touched all who knew him. His honesty, compassion and sense of right were such an influence to everyone that was lucky enough to get to know him. The loss will be felt amongst so many of us.

Please accept my most sincere and deepest condolences.


I can’t express how sorry I was to hear of your dads passing. All I have are the most fond memories of him. He was the definition of a ‘great man’.

I hope you’re coping and don’t think twice about reaching out.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Condolence Note for Loss of Brother

I was so sad to learn of your brothers passing. He was one of the most funny and genuine people you could hope to meet and lit up every room he was in.

I know how painful this must be for you so if you need anything please, just ask.

I’m so sorry for your loss.


Your brother was one of my closest friends and losing him is more painful than I could ever have imagined. So I can’t begin to comprehend what you’re feeling.

I just wanted to let you know how special he was, and how much he’ll be missed. I’ll never forget the time we spent together.

My deepest sympathies.

Condolence Note for Loss of Sister

Your sister was a truly special person. Her willingness to help anyone in need her and always find the good in others was an inspiration to us all. The world is a less happy place without her.

Please accept my sincerest condolences for your loss.


I didn’t get to know your sister very well but everything I’ve heard is what a remarkable person she was. I know her loss will leave a hole in so many people’s hearts.

If you’re struggling or need to talk I’ll be there for you at any time.

Be strong,

Condolence Note for Loss of Grandmother

My deepest sympathies for the loss of your grandmother.

She had the heart of an angel and was always there for whoever needed her. I still can’t believe she’s really gone.

Please don’t think twice about asking for anything you need. I’m always at the end of the phone or just a short drive away.


I never knew your grandmother but I do know how hard losing someone so special to you is.

Remember your friends and family are there for you and will be with whatever you need.

Take as long as you need.

Condolence Note for Loss of Grandfather

I was deeply saddened to learn of your grandfathers passing. His wisdom and kindness was ever present and something everyone found so touching.
And I’ll never forget that twinkle in his eye!

I hope you’re doing okay and can be there for anything you need.

Wishing you peace and comfort.


Although I didn’t know your grandfather well I know how close you were. The loss of someone so special is always heartbreaking.

Nothing I can say will offer much comfort but I wanted to reach out and pass on my condolences.

You are in my thoughts and heart in this trying time.

Condolence Note for Loss of Child

I was so sorry to learn of the passing of your son/daughter.

I know these words alone will do little to console you I just wanted you to know that I/we are here for you if you need anything. Please don’t hesitate to ask.

Your sons/daughters memory will live on forever.

Our/my deepest condolences


I can’t even start to have any understanding of what you’re going through. My words will mean nothing so all I wanted to say was that I will be there for you, whatever it is you need. You’re not alone.


Condolence Note

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Funeral poems

Are you looking for a selection of beautiful funeral poems? Do you need a touching or heartfelt memorial poem to read at the service?

Finding the perfect funeral poem can be tricky. You want something that speaks from the heart and conveys how you felt about the deceased. But memorial poems that say exactly what you’re feeling and express those thoughts are hard to come across. You can always try writing your own but unless you’re talented with words that can be very difficult. It’s a lot easier to use one of the amazing funeral poems already out there.

So if you’re looking for a great choice of poems to say goodbye at a funeral then these memorial poems will help you to make a lasting impression and send off a friend or family member in the best way.

Table of Contents
Short Funeral Poems
Happy Funeral Poems
Famous Funeral Poems
Funeral Poems for Mom
Funeral Poems for Dad
Funeral Poems for Grandma
Funeral Poems for Granddad
Non-Religious Funeral Poems

Short Funeral Poems

If you’re giving a reading or eulogy then you may find that you need a short poem; something that is simple and to the point. As well as being easy for you to read. These poems are brief and express your feelings in few but powerful words.

When We Lose a Loved One

When we lose a loved one
Our world just falls apart
We think that we cant carry on
With this broken heart
Everything is different now
You’re upset and you’re annoyed
Your world it seems is shattered
There’s such an awful void
There’s got to be a reason
And we have to understand
God made us and at any time
Hell reach down for our hand
There might not be a warning
We won’t know where or when
The only thing were certain of
Is well meet them once again.



My candle burns at both ends;
It will not last the night;
But ah, my foes, and oh, my friends It gives a lovely light!

Edna St.Vincent Millay


And when the stream that overflows has passed,
A consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory;
Images and precious thoughts that shall not be
And cannot be destroyed.

William Wordsworth, from The Excursion


What though the radiance which was once so bright
Be now forever taken from my sight,
Though nothing can bring back the hour
Of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower;
We will grieve not, rather find
Strength in what remains behind.

William Wordsworth, Intimations of Immortality


If I Should Die Before the Rest of you

If I should die before the rest of you
Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone
Nor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,
But be the usual selves that I have known.
Weep if you must
Parting is hell.
But life goes on.
So sing as well.

Joyce Grenfell


Into the freedom of wind and sunshine
We let you go
Into the dance of the stars and the planets
We let you go
Into the wind’s breath and the hands of the star maker
We let you go
We love you, we miss you, we want you to be happy
Go safely, go dancing, go running home

Ruth Burgess


There is No Night Without a Dawning

No winter without a spring
And beyond the dark horizon
Our hearts will once more sing ….
For those who leave us for a while
Have only gone away
Out of a restless, care worn world
Into a brighter day

Helen Steiner Rice


You’ve Just Walked on Ahead of Me

And I’ve got to understand
You must release the ones you love
And let go of their hand.
I try and cope the best I can
But I’m missing you so much
If I could only see you
And once more feel your touch.
Yes, you’ve just walked on ahead of me
Don’t worry I’ll be fine
But now and then I swear I feel
Your hand slip into mine.

Joyce Grenfell


Our Memories Build a Special Bridge

When loved ones have to part
To help us feel were with them still
And soothe a grieving heart
They span the years and warm our lives
Preserving ties that bind
Our memories build a special bridge
And bring us peace of mind

Emily Mathews


Do Not Stand At My Grave and Weep

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there.
I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn’s rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there.
I did not die.

Mary Frye


May the roads rise up to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
May the rains fall soft upon fields
And until we meet again
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.



God Saw You Getting Tired

God saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be
So he put His arms around you
And whispered “Come to me.”

With tearful eyes we watched you
As you slowly slipped away
And though we loved you dearly
We couldn’t make you stay.

Your golden heart stopped beating
Your tired hands put to rest
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the best

Frances and Kathleen Coelho


Happy Funeral Poems

Sometimes a funeral can be a place of happiness and joy. Often families want to celebrate the life of their departed loved one. Remembering the good times and not dwelling on the loss. In this case upbeat and happy readings can often be the best best poems for funerals. If so then try some of these happy memorial poems and remember the positives and good times.

She Is Gone (He Is Gone)

You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her
Or you can be full of the love that you shared

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember her and only that she is gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

David Harkins



I’d like the memory of me to be a happy one.
I’d like to leave an afterglow of smiles when life is done.
I’d like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways,
Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days.
I’d like the tears of those who grieve, to dry before the sun;
Of happy memories that I leave when life is done.

Helen Lowrie Marshall


Turn Again To Life

If I should die and leave you here a while,
Be not like others sore undone,
Who keep long vigil by the silent dust.
For my sake turn again to life and smile,
Nerving thy heart and trembling hand to do
Something to comfort other hearts than thine.
Complete these dear unfinished tasks of mine
And I perchance may therein comfort you.

Mary Lee Hall


Then Joy Stepped In

Said she, ‘I will not live with grief from morrow unto morrow.
My heart cries out for some relief, ‘Good-bye, my little sorrow.’
She closed the windows of her home and pulled down every blind.
‘I’m going forth, ‘ she cried, ‘to roam. You, Grief, can stay behind.’
‘And I’ll be gone the livelong day, expect me back to-night.’

Grief wanly watched her go away into the warmth and light;
With quickened step and brightened eyes she mingled with the throng.
Instead of pale Grief’s moans and sighs she heard Endeavour’s song.
She saw a sister, crossed the road and asked her how she fared:
Then helped to lift her heavy load and in the burden shared.

Throughout the day Self was suppressed whilst Service took its place.
When she returned at night to rest – of Grief there was no trace!
But Joy stepped forth and sweetly said,
‘May I now be your friend instead?’

Wilhelmina Stitch


All Is Well

Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,

Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was,
Let it be spoken without effect, without the trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?

I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.

Henry Scott Holland


Happy funeral poem

Famous Funeral Poems

Some of the most famous poems have been in regards to loss and bereavement. They make for great readings at funerals or when remembering a lost loved one.

Funeral Blues

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message ‘He is Dead’.
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now; put out every one,
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun,
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood;
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

W H Auden


And Death Shall Have No Dominion

And death shall have no dominion.
Dead man naked they shall be one
With the man in the wind and the west moon;
When their bones are picked clean and the clean bones gone,
They shall have stars at elbow and foot;
Though they go mad they shall be sane,
Though they sink through the sea they shall rise again;
Though lovers be lost love shall not;
And death shall have no dominion.

And death shall have no dominion.
Under the windings of the sea
They lying long shall not die windily;
Twisting on racks when sinews give way,
Strapped to a wheel, yet they shall not break;
Faith in their hands shall snap in two,
And the unicorn evils run them through;
Split all ends up they shan’t crack;
And death shall have no dominion.

And death shall have no dominion.
No more may gulls cry at their ears
Or waves break loud on the seashores;
Where blew a flower may a flower no more
Lift its head to the blows of the rain;
Though they be mad and dead as nails,
Heads of the characters hammer through daisies;
Break in the sun till the sun breaks down,
And death shall have no dominion.

Dylan Thomas


Holy Sonnet X

Death be not proud, though some have callèd thee
Mighty and dreadfull, for, thou art not so,
For, those, whom thou think’st, thou dost overthrow,
Die not, poore death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
From rest and sleepe, which but thy pictures bee,
Much pleasure, then from thee, much more must flow,
And soonest our best men with thee doe goe,
Rest of their bones, and soules deliverie.
Thou art slave to Fate, Chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poyson, warre, and sicknesse dwell,
And poppie, or charmes can make us sleepe as well,
And better than thy stroake; why swell’st thou then;
One short sleepe past, wee wake eternally,
And death shall be no more; death, thou shalt die.

John Donne


I give you this one thought to keep.
I am with you still. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on the snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not think of me as gone.
I am with you still in each new dawn.




It felt so cold, the snowball which wept in my hands,
and when I rolled it along in the snow, it grew
till I could sit on it, looking back at the house,
where it was cold when I woke in my room, the windows
blind with ice, my breath undressing itself on the air.

Cold, too, embracing the torso of snow which I lifted up
in my arms to build a snowman, my toes, burning, cold
in my winter boots; my mother’s voice calling me in
from the cold. And her hands were cold from peeling
then dipping potatoes into a bowl, stopping to cup
her daughter’s face, a kiss for both cold cheeks, my cold nose.

But nothing so cold as the February night I opened the door
in the Chapel of Rest where my mother lay, neither young, nor old,
where my lips, returning her kiss to her brow, knew the meaning of cold.

Carol Ann Duffy


Touching memorial poem

Funeral Poems for Mom

The loss of a mother is incredibly difficult. Finding the right poem or verse to read at her funeral can become very important. Hopefully the choice of poems here will help to mark her passing in the way you feel is most appropriate.

The Mother

There will be a singing in your heart,
There will be a rapture in your eyes;
You will be a woman set apart,
You will be so wonderful and wise.

You will sleep, and when from dreams you start,
As of one that wakes in Paradise,
There will be a singing in your heart,
There will be a rapture in your eyes.

There will be a moaning in your heart
There will be an anguish in your eyes;
You will see your dearest ones depart,
You will hear their quivering good-byes.

Yours will be the heart-ache and the smart,
Tears that scald and lonely sacrifice;
There will be a moaning in your heart,
There will be an anguish in your eyes.

There will come a glory in your eyes,
There will come a peace within your heart;
Sitting ‘neath the quiet evening skies,
Time will dry the tear and dull the smart.

You will know that you have played your part;
Yours shall be the love that never dies:
You, with Heaven’s peace within your heart,
You, with God’s own glory in your eyes.

Robert Service


My Mother

In infancy’s unconscious day,
I weak and helpless long did lay,
Who o’er my form did watch and pray,
My Mother.

Who nourished me with fondest care,
And bore me forth to take the air,
And plucked me fruits and flowers rare,
My Mother.

Who daily, as I older grew,
Still taught me lessons bright and true,
And virtue’s path kept in my view,
My Mother.

Oh, may I truly, every year,
Return with love and tender care,
The blessings I from thee did share,
My Mother.



She Walks in Beauty

She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that’s best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes;
Thus mellowed to that tender light
Which heaven to gaudy day denies.

One shade the more, one ray the less,
Had half impaired the nameless grace
Which waves in every raven tress,
Or softly lightens o’er her face;
Where thoughts serenely sweet express,
How pure, how dear their dwelling-place.

And on that cheek, and o’er that brow,
So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
The smiles that win, the tints that glow,
But tell of days in goodness spent,
A mind at peace with all below,
A heart whose love is innocent!

Lord Byron


The life that I have is all that I have
the life that I have is yours
The love that I have for the life that I have
is yours and yours and yours.
A sleep I shall have, a rest I shall have
Yet death will be but a pause
for the peace of my years
in the long green grass
Will be yours and yours and yours

by Leo Marks


You can only have one mother
Patient kind and true;
No other friend in all the world,
Will be the same to you.
When other friends forsake you,
To mother you will return,
For all her loving kindness,
She asks nothing in return.
As we look upon her picture,
Sweet memories we recall,
Of a face so full of sunshine,
And a smile for one and all.
Sweet Jesus, take this message,
To our dear mother up above;
Tell her how we miss her,
And give her all our love.

Irish Funeral Prayer


Irish funeral poem for mom

Funeral Poems for Dad

Just like losing your mother the loss of a dad is a terribly difficult time. We hope these poems can help make the readings at the funeral that extra special.

To My Father

A giant pine, magnificent and old
Stood staunch against the sky and all around
Shed beauty, grace and power.
Within its fold birds safely reared their young.
The velvet ground beneath was gentle,
and the cooling shade gave cheer to passers by.
Its towering arms a landmark stood, erect and unafraid,
As if to say, “Fear naught from life’s alarms”.
It fell one day.
Where it had dauntless stood was loneliness and void.
But men who passed paid tribute – and said,
“To know this life was good,
It left it’s mark on me. Its work stands fast”.
And so it lives. Such life no bonds can hold –
This giant pine, magnificent and old.

Georgia Harkness


The Broken Chain

We little knew that morning that God was going to call your name,
In life we loved you dearly; in death we do the same
It broke our hearts to lose you, you did not go alone.
For part of us went with you, the day God called you home
You left us peaceful memories, your love is still our guide,
And though we cannot see you, you are always at our side
Our family chain is broken, and nothing seems the same,
But as God call us us one by one, the chain will link again.




He never made a fortune, or a noise
In the world where men are seeking after fame;
But he had a healthy brood of girls and boys
Who loved the very ground on which he trod.
They thought him just little short of God;
Oh you should have heard the way they said his name –

There seemed to be a loving little prayer
In their voices, even when they called him ‘Dad.’
Though the man was never heard of anywhere,
As a hero, yet somehow understood
He was doing well his part and making good;
And you knew it, by the way his children had
Of saying ‘Father.’

He gave them neither eminence nor wealth,
But he gave them blood untainted with a vice,
And opulence of undiluted health.
He was honest, and unpurchable and kind;
He was clean in heart, and body, and in mind.
So he made them heirs to riches without price –
This father.

He never preached or scolded; and the rod –
Well, he used it as a turning pole in play.
But he showed the tender sympathy of God.
To his children in their troubles, and their joys.
He was always chum and comrade with his boys,
And his daughters – oh, you ought to hear them say

Now I think of all achievements ‘tis the least
To perpetuate the species; it is done
By the insect and the serpent, and the beast.
But the man who keeps his body, and his thought,
Worth bestowing on an offspring love-begot,
Then the highest earthly glory he was won,
When in pride a grown-up daughter or a son
Says ‘That’s Father.’

Ella Wheeler Wilcox


As We Look Back

As we look back over time
We find ourselves wondering …..
Did we remember to thank you enough
For all you have done for us?
For all the times you were by our sides
To help and support us …..
To celebrate our successes
To understand our problems
And accept our defeats?
Or for teaching us by your example,
The value of hard work, good judgment,
Courage and integrity?
We wonder if we ever thanked you
For the sacrifices you made.
To let us have the very best?
And for the simple things
Like laughter, smiles and times we shared?
If we have forgotten to show our
Gratitude enough for all the things you did,
We’re thanking you now.
And we are hoping you knew all along,
How much you meant to us.



My Father

He was a jolly little man full of fun and laughter,
He played jokes on his fellow men
And to him it did not matter.
Education he had not,
But what he learned he never forgot.
He wrote what he knew all about cancer
so that someday, there will be an answer.
He joined the Canadian Medical Corps.
And served in the Second World War.
He risked his life, to save others,
This man, that I call my Father.
Seein’ my Father in me is the title of a song
Which I can relate to as I do see my Father in me.
I have a French accent just like my Father,
I love walking, just like my Father,
I love being with people, just like my father.
But most of all, is my love for children, like my Father.

Anita Guindon


Grandfather funeral poem

Funeral Poems for Grandma

A Wonderful Grandmother

We had a wonderful grandmother
One who never really grew old
Her smile was made of sunshine
And her heart was solid gold

Her eyes were bright as shining stars
And in her cheeks fair roses you see.
We had a wonderful grandmother,
And that’s the way it will always be.

But take heed, because
She’s still keeping an eye on all of us,
So let’s make sure
She will like what she sees.



God Looked Around His Garden

God looked around his garden
And found an empty place
He then looked down upon the earth
And saw your tired face

He put his arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful,
He always takes the best.

He knew that you were suffering
He knew you were in pain
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.

He saw the road was getting rough
And the hills were hard to climb.
So he closed your weary eyelids
And said, “Peace be thine”.

It broke our hearts to lose you
But you didn’t go alone.
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.

Melissa Shreve


Legacy of Love

A wife, a mother, a grandma too,
This is the legacy we have from you
You taught us love and how to fight
You gave us strength, you gave us might.
A stronger person would be hard to find,
And in your heart you were always kind.
You fought for us all in one way or another
Not just as a wife not just as a mother.
For all of us you gave your best
And now the time has come for you to rest.
So go in peace, you’ve earned your sleep,
Your love in our hearts we’ll eternally keep.




Such wonderful memories of Nanny
The Nanny we all used to know
We kept you too long and there waiting
The angels have said you can go
Bright golden gates that are shining
Full of family to bid you hello
So blow us a kiss as you’re leaving
Our sadness we’ll try not to show
Such wonderful memories of Nanny
We all have our favourites you see
As you enter those gates you’ll be thinking
They’re all there thinking of me!

Laura White


Grandmother funeral poem

Funeral Poems for Grandad

His Journey’s Just Begun

Don’t think of him as gone away
his journey’s just begun,
life holds so many facets
this earth is only one.

Just think of him as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.

Think how he must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.

And think of him as living
in the hearts of those he touched…
for nothing loved is ever lost
and he was loved so much.

Ellen Brenneman


Grandfather Kept a Garden

Our Grandfather kept a garden.
A garden of the heart;
He planted all the good things,
That gave our lives their start.
He turned us to the sunshine,
And encouraged us to dream:
Fostering and nurturing the seeds of self-esteem.
And then the winds and rain came,
He protected us enough;
But not too much because he knew
We would stand up strong and tough.
His constant good example,
Always taught us right from wrong;
Markers for our pathway that will last
a lifetime long.
We are our Grandfather’s garden,
We are his legacy.
Thank you Grandfather, we love you.



We Had a Wonderful Grandfather

We had a wonderful grandfather,
One who never really grew old;
His smile was made of sunshine,
And his heart was solid gold;
His eyes were as bright as shining stars,
And in his cheeks fair roses you see.
We had a wonderful grandfather,
And that’s the way it will always be.
But take heed, because
He’s still keeping an eye on all of us,
So let’s make sure
He will like what he sees.



Our Granddad

It broke our hearts to lose you,
but you never went alone,
for a part of us went with you,
the day god took you home.

A million times we missed you,
A million times we cried,
If love could have saved you,
you never would have died.

To the grave you travel,
Our flowers placed with care,
No-one knows the heartache,
as we turn to leave you there.

If tears could build a stairway,
and memories could make a lane,
we would walk right up to heaven,
and bring you home again.

We love you Granddad,
sleep well in heaven with the angels.



Non Religious Funeral Poems

Not all funerals or memorials are religious. They may just be a celebration of someone’s life. If this is the case then a religious poem may not be appropriate. Thankfully there are many non religious memorial poems available and you can choose from the selection below.

Not, How Did He Die, but How Did He Live?

Not, how did he die, but how did he live?
Not, what did he gain, but what did he give?
These are the units to measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of his birth.
Nor what was his church, nor what was his creed?
But had he befriended those really in need?
Was he ever ready, with words of good cheer,
To bring back a smile, to banish a tear?
Not what did the sketch in the newspaper say,
But how many were sorry when he passed away?




Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you planned:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.

Christina Rosetti


When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me
I want no rites in a gloom filled room
Why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little, but not for long
And not with your head bowed low
Remember the love that once we shared
Miss me, but let me go.
For this is a journey we all must take
And each must go alone.
It’s all part of the master plan
A step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick at heart
Go the friends we know.
Laugh at all the things we used to do
Miss me, but let me go.
When I am dead my dearest
Sing no sad songs for me
Plant thou no roses at my head
Nor shady cypress tree
Be the green grass above me
With showers and dewdrops wet
And if thou wilt remember
And if thou wilt, forget.
I shall not see the shadows,
I shall not fear the rain;
I shall not hear the nightingale
Sing on as if in pain;
And dreaming through the twilight
That doth not rise nor set,
Haply I may remember,
And haply may forget.

Christina Rosetti


Love is Immortal

Love is pure energy and
No matter how hard you try,
You can never kill love
Because pure energy can’t die
The feeling of love can fade,
And the body can cease to give,
But the energy created by love
Is immortal and continues
To live.



Little Snowdrops

The world may never notice,
If a snowdrop doesn’t bloom,
Or even pause to wonder,
If the petals fall to soon,
But every life that ever forms,
Or ever comes to be,
Touches the world in some small way,
For all eternity
The ones i still long for,
we here and then were gone,
But the love that was then planted,
Is a light that still shines on,
and though our hearts are empty
Our hearts know what to do,
Every beating of our hearts,
Say of our love for you.

Non religious funeral poem

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Pet loss poems

Have you lost a pet and are looking for something to comfort you? Do you know someone grieving the loss of their pet and want to offer support and condolences? One of the best ways is with pet loss poems. They can communicate feelings and emotions in a far greater way than our own words. So have a look through our range of pet loss poems below.

The loss of a pet can be such a difficult time. They so often become one the most important things in our lives – members of the family, there to comfort us at our lowest points, the source of such happiness. So when we lose them it’s just awful. Nothing to can prepare you for that loss. And very little can help to comfort or console you as you grieve. But we still try. We reach out to others who have lost a pet. We want to comfort them. Mainly because we know what they’re going through. But how do we show we understand and offer that sympathy for their loss?

A great way is with a pet loss poem. Poems go beyond a simple message and express the feelings we may be struggling to articulate ourselves. They can be touching, heartfelt, stir emotions or work as a way to come to terms with the loss.

So if you or someone you know is grieving the passing of a beloved animal friend then a pet loss poem may help to deal with that grief and bring a small amount of comfort amongst the pain.

Short Pet Loss Poems

These are some short and simple pet loss poems. They are perfect for including in a sympathy card or note, perhaps with a gift. You could also put these on something like a fridge magnet or framed with a photo of your lost pet to remember them.

A Bridge Called Love

It takes us back to brighter years,
to happier sunlit days
and to precious moments
that will be with us always.

And these fond recollections
are treasured in the heart
to bring us always close to those
from whom we had to part.

There is a bridge of memories
from Earth to Heaven above…
It keeps our dear ones near us
It’s the bridge that we call love.



Don’t Cry for Me When I Am Gone

So, though I give you all my heart,
the time will come when we must part.
But all around you, you will see,
creatures that speak to you of me;
a tired horse, a hunted thing,
a sparrow with a broken wing.
Pity – and help (I know you will)
and somehow, I will be with you still;
and I shall know, although I’m gone,
the love I gave you lingers on.



They Will Not Go Quietly

They will not go quietly,
the pets who’ve shared our lives.
In subtle ways they let us know
their spirit still survives.
Old habits still can make us think
we hear them at the door
Or step back when we drop
a tasty morsel on the floor.
Our feet still go around the place
the food dish used to be,
And, sometimes, coming home at night,
we miss them terribly.
And although time may bring new friends
and a new food dish to fill,
That one place in our hearts
belongs to them…
and always will.



Her Journey’s Just Begun

Don’t think of her as gone away –
her journey’s just begun,
life holds so many facets –
this earth is only one.

Just think of her as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.

Think how she must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.

And think of her as living

And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost –
And she was loved so much.

Ellen Brenneman


Golden Eyes

When golden eyes no longer glow,
and we both know it’s time to go,

Don’t look at me with eyes so sad,
but think of better times we had,

When sunlight did upon us shine,
and happy days were yours and mine,

And through the grass we both did run,
and on our backs we felt the sun,

Think not of this dark final hour,
think not of when our lives turned sour,

Think not of hopelessness and pain,
but think of joy and laugh again,

For in that final act of love,
you released me to heaven above,

Where finally from pain I’m free,
where one day you will join with me,

Where together again we will rejoice,
and you and I as with one voice,

Will in perfect harmony sing,
of the joy and pain that love can bring,

And remember me just as I will,
always think of you until,

At last again I see your face,
grieve not, I am in a better place.

Carol Walker


Pet loss poem

Long Pet Loss Poems

These are much longer and more in depth poems. They can be used for memorial and funeral readings.

Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies who has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; his eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….



Tribute to a Best Friend

Sunlight streams through the window pane
unto a spot on the floor….
then I remember,
it’s where you used to lie,
but now you are no more.
Our feet walk down a hall of carpet,
and muted echoes sound….
then I remember,
It’s where your paws would joyously abound.
A voice is heard along the road,
and up beyond the hill,
then I remember it can’t be yours….
your golden voice is still.
But I’ll take that vacant spot of floor
and empty muted hall
and lay them with the absent voice
and unused dish along the wall.
I’ll wrap these treasured memorials
in a blanket of my love
and keep them for my best friend
until we meet above.


The Last Battle

If it should be that I grow frail and weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then will you do what must be done,
For this — the last battle — can’t be won.
You will be sad I understand,
But don’t let grief then stay your hand,
For on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship must stand the test.

We have had so many happy years,
You wouldn’t want me to suffer so.
When the time comes, please, let me go.
Take me to where to my needs they’ll tend,
Only, stay with me till the end
And hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time you will agree
It is a kindness you do to me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.
Don’t grieve that it must be you
Who has to decide this thing to do;
We’ve been so close — we two — these years,
Don’t let your heart hold any tears.



I Walk With You

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.

I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
“It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.”
I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.

I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.

I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.
I want to reassure you, that I’m not lying there.

I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said “it’s me.”

You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.

It’s possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, “I never went away.”

You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew …
in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.

The day is over and I smile and watch you yawning
and say “goodnight, God bless, I’ll see you in the morning.”

And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I’ll rush across to greet you and we’ll stand, side by side.

I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out . then come home to be with me.



Four Feet in Heaven

Your favorite chair is vacant now…
No eager purrs to greet me.
No softly padded paws to run
Ecstatically to meet me.

No coaxing rubs, no plaintive cry
Will say it’s time for feeding.
I’ve put away your bowl, and all
The things you won’t be needing;

But I will miss you little friend,
For I could never measure
The happiness you brought me,
The comfort and the pleasure.

And since God put you here to share
In earthly joy and sorrow;
I’m sure there’ll be a place for you
In Heaven’s bright tomorrow…

Alice E. Chase


May I Go Now

May I go now?
Do you think the time is right?
May I say goodbye to pain filled days
and endless lonely nights?
I’ve lived my life and done my best,
an example tried to be.
So can I take that step beyond
and set my spirit free?

I didn’t want to go at first,
I fought with all my might.
But something seems to draw me now
to a warm and loving light.
I want to go
I really do.
It’s difficult to stay.

But I will try as best I can
to live just one more day.
To give you time to care for me
and share your love and fears.
I know you’re sad and afraid,
because I see your tears.

I’ll not be far,
I promise that, and hope you’ll always know
that my spirit will be close to you
wherever you may go.
Thank you so for loving me.
You know I love you too,
that’s why it’s hard to say goodbye
and end this life with you.

So hold me now just one more time
and let me hear you say,
because you care so much for me,
you’ll let me go today.

Written for a beloved pet & friend

Susan A. Jackson


I’m Still Here

Friend, please don’t mourn for me
I’m still here, though you don’t see.
I’m right by your side each night and day
… And within your heart I long to stay.
My body is gone but I’m always near.
I’m everything you feel, see or hear.
My spirit is free, but I’ll never depart
As long as you keep me alive in your heart.
I’ll never wander out of your sight
I’m the brightest star on a summer night.
I’ll never be beyond your reach
I’m the warm moist sand when you’re at the beach.
I’m the colourful leaves when Autumn’s around
And the pure white snow that blankets the ground.
I’m the beautiful flowers of which you’re so fond,
The clear cool water in a quiet pond.
I’m the first bright blossom you’ll see in the spring,
The first warm raindrop that April will bring.
I’m the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine,
And you’ll see that the face in the moon is mine.
When you start thinking there’s no one to love you,
You can talk to me through the Lord above you.
I’ll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees,
And you’ll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze.
I’m the hot salty tears that flow when you weep
And the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep.
I’m the smile you see on a baby’s face.
Just look for me, friend, I’m every place!

Chelsea Hanson

Dog loss poem

Dog Loss Poems

The poems above were more general in their tone and aimed at the loss of a non specific pet. The poems below are all for dogs and reflect why they’re called a mans best friend.

Four Feet

I have done mostly what most men do,
And pushed it out of my mind;
But I can’t forget, if I wanted to,
Four-Feet trotting behind.

Day after day, the whole day through
Wherever my road inclined
Four-feet said, “I am coming with you!”
And trotted along behind.

Now I must go by some other round,
Which I shall never find
Somewhere that does not carry the sound
Of Four-Feet trotting behind.

Rudyard Kipling


Lend Me a Pup

I will lend to you for awhile
a puppy, God said,
For you to love him while he lives
and to mourn for him when he is gone.
Maybe for twelve or fourteen years,
or maybe for two or three.
But will you, till I call him back
take care of him for me?

He’ll bring his charms to gladden you
and (should his stay be brief)
you’ll always have his memories
as solace for your grief .
I cannot promise that he will stay,
since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught below
I want this pup to learn.

I’ve looked the whole world over
in search of teachers true
And from the folk that crowd life’s land
I have chosen you.
Now will you give him all your love
Nor think the labour vain
Nor hate me when I come to take my pup back again.
I fancied that I heard them say

“Dear Lord Thy Will Be Done,”
For all the joys this pup will bring,
the risk of grief you’ll run.
Will you shelter him with tenderness
Will you love him while you may
And for the happiness you’ll know forever grateful stay.
But should I call him back
much sooner than you’ve planned
Please brave the bitter grief that comes
and try to understand.

If, by your love, you’ve managed
my wishes to achieve,
In memory of him that you’ve loved,
cherish every moment with your faithful bundle,
and know he loved you too.



A Good Dog Never Dies

A good dog never dies, he always stays,
he walks besides you on crisp autumn days
when frost is on the fields and winter’s drawing near,
his head within our hand in his old way.



Treasured Friend

I lost a treasured friend today
The little dog who used to lay
Her gentle head upon my knee
And shared her silent thoughts with me.

She’ll come no longer to my call
Retrieve no more her favourite ball
A voice far greater than my own
Has called her to his golden throne.

Although my eyes are filled with tears
I thank him for the happy years
He let her spend down here with me
And for her love and loyalty.

When it is time for me to go
And join her there, this much I know
I shall not fear the transient dark
For she will greet me with a bark.



Losing a dog leaves a hole in your heart,
You simply just wait for your life to restart.
The hurt is so deep that you wonder just how,
You’ll ever recover from pain you feel now.

But time is a blessing and memories are gold.
The years that you loved her and watched her grow old,
Are gifts that she leaves you to treasure and then,
One day you’ll see her and love her again.

Glenda Gillis


Cat loss poem

Cat Loss Poems

Cats are just as popular as dogs and losing one just as painful. These poems look at the impact our feline friends have on our lives and how we miss them.

To Love Again

Oh what unhappy twist of fate
Has brought you homeless to my gate,
The gate where once another stood
To beg for shelter, warmth and food?

For from that day I ceased to be
The master of my destiny,
While she, with purr and velvet paw
Became within my house the law.

She scratched the furniture and shed
And claimed the middle of my bed,
She ruled in arrogance and pride
And broke my heart the day she died.

So if you really think, oh cat
I’d willingly relive all that,
Because you come forlorn and thin
Well don’t just stand there – come on in!



Heavenly Nap

You lived your nine lives here with me
my loyal, loving friend,
Then God took you up to Paradise
to live life number ten.

I’ll bet you’re peacefully lying
upon an angel’s lap.
Purring there, without a care
having a heavenly nap.

I’ll miss you for a little while,
but our friendship will not end.
Time will pass, and then at last
you’ll be on my lap again.

Ron Tranmer


They will not go quietly,
the cats who’ve shared our lives.
In subtle ways they let us know
their spirit still survives.

Old habits still make us think
we hear a meow at the door.
Or step back when we drop
a tasty morsel on the floor.

Our feet still go around the place
the food dish used to be,
And, sometimes, coming home at night,
we miss them terribly.

And although time may bring new friends
and a new food dish to fill,
That one place in our hearts
belongs to them… and always will.

Linda Barnes


Cat loss poem

Other Animal Loss Poems

Whilst dogs and cats are the most popular pets it would be wrong to ignore all the other animals that touch our lives. Horses, hamsters, rabbits and many more can be just as important to their owners as cars and dogs are to theirs. These poems should

For Horses

Don’t Cry for the Horses

Don’t cry for the horses that life has set free.
A million white horses forever to be.
Don’t cry for the horses now in God’s hand.
As they dance and they prance in a heavenly band.
They were ours as a gift, but never to keep.
As they close their eyes forever to sleep.
Their spirits unbound. On silver wings they fly.
A million white horses against the blue sky.
Look up into heaven, you’ll see them above.
The horses we lost, the horses we loved.
Manes and tails flowing they gallop through time.
They were never yours – they were never mine.
Don’t cry for the horses. They’ll be back someday.
When our time is gone, they will show us the way.
Do you hear that soft nicker? Close to your ear?
Don’t cry for the horses. Love the ones that are here.

Brenda Riley-Seymore


Again the early-morning sun was generous with its warmth.
All the sounds dear to a horseman were around me
the snort of the horses as they cleared their throats, the gentle swish of their tails,
the tinkle of irons as we flung the saddles over their backs – little sounds of no importance,
but they stay in the unconscious library of memory.


Wynford Vaughan-Thomas

The hooves of horses!
Oh! witching and sweet
Is the music earth steals from the iron-shod feet;
No whisper of lover, no trilling of bird,
Can stir me as much as hooves of horses
Have stirred.

Will H. Ogilvi


Horse loss poem

For Rabbits

Invisible Bunny

Wake up Mum, wake up quick!
I have to stop your nightmares or you’ll get sick.
I’m still here Mum I’ve not gone
Instead I’m just in spirit; I’m now an invisible bun.
Don’t cry Mum
I can’t bare to see you sad,
You were my best friend
The best a bunny could have.

When you sleep in the night
I’m lying by your side
I listen to your heartbeat
And I nuzzle you with pride.
Sometimes I bring my bunny friends
Just to let them see
The one who was my Mum
The special one to me.

In the morning when you wake Mum
I miss your lovely smile,
You can still wave
You see, I can still see you, although you can’t see me?

I follow you around
I’m the shadow in the corner of your eye,
I’m still your little bunny
And I will never die.

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Expert Grief Support

Unfortunately we all experience loss at some point in our lives. With it comes the grief of losing a loved one and the void they leave in our lives. The way in which we deal and cope with that grief though will differ from person to person. But one thing that we all need is the support and help of family and friends. Struggling with a bereavement alone is a burden no one should have to endure.

If you know someone coping with a loss it can be hard to know what to do. You want to comfort them, offer support and try to help in any way you can. But knowing what to say or do, what’s appropriate and what isn’t, and how to best be there for them during such a difficult time is itself tricky.

In order to try and help understand the right way to approach such a tough subject we reached out to some of the top grief professionals and counsellors and asked them their advice on how best to support someone who is grieving. We were overwhelmed with the responses. The answers were insightful, practical and went above and beyond in the detail they included. In fact this article is now over 6000 words long (and even has some video content)!

So please have a read of the answers below for a huge range of incredible advice and tips. And if you’re looking for extra support or help dealing with grief and loss then a good place to start is the websites found in the author bios of each contributor.

Dr Jill Grossdr Jill Gross Tom GoldenTom Golden Marty Tousleydr Marty Tousley Dr Arielle Schwartzdr Jill Scott
Dr Melissa EstavilloDr Melissa Estavillo Ashley MielkeAshley Mielke Debbie RambisDebbie Rambis Jimmy EdmondsJane Harris
Dr Erin ThompsonDr Erin Hope Thompson Meg EifrigMeg Eifrig Victoria JonesVictoria Moore Jones Susan HarrisonSusan Harrison
Shirley EnebradShirley Enebrad Gary RoeGary Roe Tammy AdamsTammy Adams Adriana MarchioneAdriana Marchione
Kristi HugstadKristi Hugstad Virginia A. SimpsonVirginia Simpson Melinda RuppertMelinda Ruppert Georgena EgglestonGeorgena Eggleston
Robbie KaplanGary Roe Teresa DonigerTeresa Doniger Tony McLarenBreathing Space Logo Dr Tina BarrettDr Tina Barrett
Yvonne TullochYvonne Tulloch Janet RobertsJanet Roberts

Dr Jill Gross - Psychologist, Grief Counselor, Therapist


Reaching out/Bringing It Up/Acknowledge The Loss: People often refrain from contacting the bereft because they are afraid of upsetting him or her. Your loved one is already upset—what better time to hear from a trusted friend? I’ve heard so many grievers say they would rather their friends say the wrong thing than say nothing at all.

Listen: You can’t take your loved one’s pain away. Your loved one knows this. Grief longs to be witnessed and attentive listening is a way to show your loved one that you care.

Send a card: Sending a card is a respectful, pleasant surprise for those who may need some space but still want to know they are thought of. Do this about a month after the memorial or funeral service is over, the loved ones have gone home, and the casseroles have stopped coming, as this is one of the loneliest time for mourners. It’s also nice to send cards on birthdays, anniversaries, and/or any other occasion that may remind your loved one of the person s/he lost.

Sharing positive memories: Not only does talking about the deceased validate your loved one’s grief, it connects them with the things they loved most about the person they lost. If you didn’t personally know the deceased, encourage your friend to talk about a favorite characteristic, quirk, or memory involving the deceased.

Drop off food/flowers: Hunger is a basic sign of our aliveness. Providing food is a loving way to acknowledge and nurture your loved one’s aliveness when he or she may not be able to do this for him or herself. If your friend associates a certain dish our cuisine with the deceased person, surprise your loved one by dropping that dish off, with a card and flowers.

Take nothing personally: Grief is a highly individualized process and has little to do with anyone but the griever. Further, none of us is our best selves when we are acutely grieving. Thus, two of the best gifts we can give mourners are patience and grace. Much of what people do when they are grieving isn’t personal; try not to take it personally.

Donations to charity in the deceased’s honor: This is a lovely idea, particularly if the cause also means something to the griever.

Tom Golden, LCSW - Psychotherapist, Grief Educator & Author


Marty Tousley - Grief Counselor


First, learn about the grief experience, and let go of some of the harmful myths you may have heard about grief and healing. Don’t assume that the person who seems to be experiencing little pain is “doing well” with grief. Take some time to review your own personal experiences of death and grief, recalling who died, what was helpful and not helpful to you, and how you felt about it.

Acknowledge the loss. Either in person, by telephone or in writing, let the mourner know who you are, how you became aware of the loss and that you care.

Listen with your heart, with honest concern and curiosity, respectfully and without judging, without criticism, without giving advice, without being the expert with all the answers.

Understand the uniqueness of grief: Everyone is different, and is shaped by experiences in his or her own life.

Be patient; the grief process takes a long time; let the mourner proceed at his or her own pace.

Recognize that, although you cannot take the pain of loss away, you can enter into it with the person and hold space for him or her.

Remain available long after the death occurs, when the mourner will need you the most.

Dr Arielle Schwartz, PhD


We are not meant to grieve alone. Grief is deeply vulnerable, profoundly raw, and at it’s core a social communication. When we show up for another the most important thing we can offer is our presence. Simply that. It is not necessary to say the “right” thing because there is no “right” thing to say. It is not necessary to have the answer because there are no answers. It is important to simply let the other know that we are there and that we are not afraid. The other needs to know that they do not have to take care of us in their time of grief. Sometimes this involves being there and sitting in silence, breathing or offering a nod of reassurance. Sometimes this involves attending to the needs of the moment. Like doing the laundry or the dishes–attending to the details of daily living by keeping a sense of normalcy and rhythm within the environment. Overall, holding space for someone in grief is about attending to the outer container so that the the person in grief can go on the inward journey needed during this vulnerable time.

Dr Melissa Estavillo - Clinical Psychologist and Counselling


For many of us, the word grief is something that brings up a vast array of emotions from pain and confusion, to discomfort and avoidance. As Americans of the 21st century, we are blessed to live in a country and time that can shield us from the pain and loss frequently felt by others of another time or another place. Our great fortunate has allows many of us to live long and healthy lives; however, often leaves us at a loss for words when the tragedy of loss or death does occur.

Older theories of grief leave us with a basic framework of loss but fail to paint the real picture of what normal grief looks like or what we can do to help. One of the first and most well known theorists on grief, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, identified 5 stages of grief which she sated we progress through in a linear order: first Denial, then Anger, on to Barganing, leading to Depression, and ending with Acceptance. And while many of these emotions are felt by a grieving person, this cannot begin to capture the true essence of an individual’s process of grief. At lease it did not for Dr. Kubler-Ross, who on her death bed expressed the combined feelings of fear, anger, confusion, and peace, a grouping of emotion that only true grief can combine.

Like many things in life, grief is complex. It is an entity with very little edges, boundaries or similar pathways. It comes, it goes, and can surprise us 5 months, 5 years, and even 50 years later. It is a journey that no two individuals can experience in the same way, even in the face of the same loss.

Therefore, the question is often raised as to how we can experience this complicated emotion and how can we be there for others going through it.

  1. Grief is like a wound. It cannot heal if it is not allowed to air out. Allow yourself and others the space to grieve freely; however that may look and whenever it may come out.
  2. Grief takes time. Just about the time we may feel that we are over a loss, we can be flooded with grief again. Like waves washing up onto the shore, our grief may come and go. And like a scar, though healed, will always leave a mark.
  3. Grief cannot be fixed. Instead it is a journey that we must go though without short cuts or fast tracks. While spiritual sayings, religious scripture, and more positive thinking may feel like the perfect antidote to help people come to terms with the pain of grief, it often times is not. Though these things may be true at their core, when said as a means to bypass grief or damper the tension that true grief brings, it cheapens their meaning and trivializes the feelings of those in pain.
  4. Grief is healthy. Grief that leaves us in a state of confusion, plummets us into the depths of sadness, makes us question our deepest beliefs, and shake our fists in anger and rage–this grief is the mark of our humanity, the evidence of our ability to love and lose and love again. Respect its complexity. Sit in its tension. Just listen.

For those of us who have lost: Imprint Exercise

Often we do not take the time to reflect on how an individual has impacted our lives and influenced parts of who we are. Although our loved one is gone, parts of them remain alive and vibrant in each of us. Many of these imprints may be wonderful and some may be painful too. Take some time to reflect on the imprints that these individuals have left on your life in the following ways.

  1. My love one has impacted my mannerisms and gestures in the following ways:
  2. My loved one has impacted my way of speaking and communicating in the following ways:
  3. My love one has impacted my work and pastime activities in the following ways:
  4. My loved one has impacted my basic personality in the following ways:
  5. My loved one has impacted my values and beliefs in the following ways:
  6. My loved one has impacted my feelings about myself in the following ways:

Ashley Mielke, B.A., M.Sc. MFT - Psychologist & Certified Grief Recovery Specialist


Grieving people want and need to feel heard, feel seen, and feel felt. It is so important to hold space for them to share their feelings and speak their emotional truth without judgement, criticism, or analysis. It is difficult for us to witness pain and suffering in those we care about, so naturally we wish to mend those feelings by offering advice or intellectualizing their grief. Instead of saying comments like, “don’t worry, it’ll be okay, “just give it time”, or “keep busy”, we really just need to listen with our hearts and provide a space that is safe to share and express normal and natural feelings. This expression, in a trusting relationship, is an essential key to our emotional healing. It doesn’t take any special skills or training to listen from the heart, it just takes a willingness to let go of the need to make everything better for the other person. Simply offering a hug and saying nothing at all can be a powerful act of love, acceptance, and compassion.

Debbie Rambis - Executive Director at The Compassionate Friends


Helping someone who has lost a child, grandchild, or sibling can be very perplexing to others who have not experienced such a devastating loss. Because it is generally a loss that occurs outside of the natural order of life, we ourselves do not know how to tell someone to help us. No one wants to think about losing any loved one! But as our grandparents and parents age, we start to plan even though it is nothing we want. You may have experience times when you mind has sidetracked itself wondered how you might take on holidays without the support of our parents or grandparents. But, when someone starts to think of losing a child, one’s mind immediately stops and changes focus as no one ever wants to think about this! Due to this, all of us are totally unprepared in knowing how to grieve or knowing how to support someone who is grieving.

My best advice is to be proactive. If you say, “Call me if you need anything,” you are likely to never receive a call. After my son’s drowning, I did not want to get out of bed. However, life around me went on. The mail started to stack up in the mailbox, the trash needed emptied, and things in the refrigerator went stale. If you are close enough, stop by and explain you are there for only a few minutes to empty trash, tidy the bathroom, and start a load of clothes. If you are too far away, contact one of the many food delivery services, such as Uber Eats or Grub Hub, to provide a warm, already prepared meal.

One of the most important ways to support is simply to remember. That sounds like a very easy one but you may not realize all that needs remembered. For example, for over a year every week when it was Wednesday (the day my son drowned) was horrible. For years, I always cringed on the second of every month, the date he drowned. As our mind come to terms with the finality, it you remember these triggers, you can make it softer for us. To do this, make a calendar reminder to send an email, to do a quick text, or to make a phone call. The message does not need to be lengthy but rather simply letting the person know you are thinking of them and the loved one that died.

Just be there for the person grieving. You do not have to say anything. It is enough to be present and to offer a should to lean on. Do not be afraid to say their name or to recall a fond memory. We will cry but you are not making us sad. The best present is to say their name! Finally, remember that No One Need Walk Alone. The Compassionate Friends is there to provide support to parents, grandparents, and siblings who have lost a child at any age from any cause.

Jane Harris & Jimmy Edmonds - The Good Grief Project


We always say in our Q&As after screenings that the greatest help is when people come alongside us in our grief, rather than trying to make us better (which is often for their benefit so they don’t have to worry for us any more). There is no getting better, it’s about finding a place inside you where your grief can live, as part of you and finding acceptance of that.

Dr Erin Hope Thompson - Director of The Loss Foundation


When people don’t know what to say to someone who is grieving they may say nothing at all or offer platitudes, e.g. “Time is a healer”. Or they may not want to bring it up in case it upsets the person they are speaking to, however, we suggest it’s better to not go quiet on loss, and encourage people to say something rather than nothing. Instead of trying to find the “right” thing to say, reach out to someone to let them know you are thinking of them, or to let people know that you don’t know what to say but that you are there for them. If you have any memories of the person who died, it can be really nice for those left behind to hear them. It reminds them that the person they loved lives on in the memory of others.

Meg Eifrig, MA - Licensed Clinical Professional Counsellor


Continue to show up for the grieving person. Often times the person who is grieving does not have the energy to reach out or return your call/text/email. Please don’t take this personally. Continue to call/text periodically, but don’t overwhelm. This lets the person know you have not forgotten them and that you plan to be there even after most people have moved on into their day to day lives. You can even write, is it OK for me to keep reaching out to you? Instead of asking “how are you?” You can say,” I am here to listen whenever you are ready.” Or I will stop by on (specific date) and bring some groceries or a meal. There are times when grieving people need some space and times when they just need someone to be there with them, even if it is to sit in silence. If visiting them is an option, make a point of doing that. If you are bringing them something, let them know it is ok if they are not up for a visit. You can leave your gift or food in their mailbox or in a cooler. Make sure they know nothing is required of them.

One of the many struggles for grievers is that they often do not know what they need or how to articulate it. Make time to find out what your grieving person needs. Perhaps there is a way for them to let you know when they want to talk about their loss and a way for them to let you know when they don’t. In my work, I sometimes hear clients say that they appreciate when someone asks questions first. For example,” I have a video/photo of your loved one. Would you like me to send it to you now or would that be too hard today?” This allows for the person to say, “Hey not today but please keep that video or photo for when I am ready.” It can take some time for the grieving person to
re-orient themselves enough to figure out how to express their needs. Be patient.

Victoria Moore-Jones - Life Coach & Grief Specialist


The best possible thing you can do in any situation of loss and grief when trying your best to help, is to just LISTEN. Be there and just be someone who can offer empathy and a listening ear. Everyone usually does the opposite, and this causes so many long term problems as well as leaving the griever feeling isolated and alone. Well meaning people often inadvertently cause harm by saying some euphemism of some sort or trying to fix or advice. Grievers do not need this as they are grieving, they are not broken. Just listen to how they feel and continue offering no words of advice just hugs abound and words of empathy as and when needed. Try to make sure your loved one is not left alone as being around people is the best thing after loss, not isolation or ‘time alone.’
These things offer a simple and very powerful first response to aid those in grief.

Susan K. Harrison - Coordinator of Spiritual Care, Erie Shores


LISTEN, Listen and listen some more
Be willing to sit with a grieving person in silence, let them talk when they want, let them express whatever emotions they are feeling (without judgment)
Invite a grieving person to tell you stories about the person they lost; some ways to encourage those stories are to ask curious questions like: how did you and your loved one spend time together? Did they have a sense of humor? Did they have a nick name for you? What will you/are you missing most about them? Did they have any quirky characteristics or habits?
Recognize that grief is a normal healthy response to loss, not an illness we need to cure or fix.
Grief comes to everyone uniquely; for some grief comes in waves, for others it shows up in fits and starts, for some it is sadness, for others it shows up as anger, for others it may be a compulsive need to clean or organize; everyone’s grief is different, and their way of grieving is normal for them, even if it’s different than how we would do it.
For many people grief feels like a fog in the early weeks and months – they may not be themselves personality wise, or their habits change, or they may seem extra forgetful, and it’s hard to make decisions – even little mundane decisions — they need our patience and understanding
Grief takes time, and for many it feels like the world is rushing them to “get over it” just when they are starting to come out of the initial fog. Many people get lots of support in the initial days and weeks after a loss, but they are hurting just as much 3+ months later, and they need us to be able to listen and be present to their sadness and loss, as much as the earlier days.
Remember grieving people especially at the holidays, birthdays, anniversary dates – not just the first year after a loss, but consecutive years after a loss.
When we lose someone we also lose access to their friends and their work place stories/acquaintances, extended family connections, and other social circles they were a part of and brought to our own lives — sometimes we lose access to social status or our place of residence and other big lifestyle changes – this makes our losses so much bigger than the loss of that individual relationship.

Shirley Enebrad - Author, Speaker, and Certified Grief Counselor


In my opinion, the best way to support a person who is grieving is when you write the note in the sympathy card offer to be there to listen whenever he or she is ready to talk about the death and what emotions are coming to the surface. “It’s okay to feel angry, sad, relieved, hopeless, confused or whatever, so just know that I will be here night or day to listen. I care and I want to help.” You can also tell him or her that you will check-in periodically to see how he or she is feeling, and then do it.

Gary Roe -
Author, Speaker, and Grief Specialist


Show up and listen. Be quick to listen and slow to speak. In fact, you don’t have to say anything at all. Just your presence is a huge gift. A kind hand on the shoulder, a warm hug, and a compassionate look in your eyes can speak volumes. Don’t try to fix it. This can’t be fixed. Don’t try to make them feel better. You won’t be able to. Instead, put all your agendas aside and, as much as possible, enter their world and walk with them in their grief. Even if you only do this for a few seconds, most likely they will feel cared for and supported. This is one definition of love – meeting people where they are and walking with them in their stuff.

Adriana Marchione - Filmmaker, Arts Therapist and Educator


I would not say that I’m an expert on grief, but I do know grief and loss from a very intimate perspective having experienced the loss of my husband at a young age. My late husband was a musician and I myself am an artist and arts therapist with close to 30 years of experience working in the language of the arts. When I had to face devastating loss, it was affirmed to me that the arts could help lighten the emotional weight. The arts in general can offer release and deepen understanding about life’s most difficult situations by expressing one’s feelings through music, song, paint, poetry, dance. We are given the opportunity through creativity to tell our story of loss with an honest voice. Shakespeare appeals to us as someone who knew grief intimately, “Give sorrow words. The grief that does not speak Whispers o’er the fraught heart and bids it break.” It is important to remember that we are built for loss. It is an inevitable part of life, and if we can find resources to help us move through it, true healing can happen. The arts are an ancient language, primal and accessible to us all. Our modern society often doesn’t respect the time we need to grieve or make transitions, but art helps us get beyond time and ordinary reality. Creativity allows us to listen more deeply to what needs to be felt and expressed. We can take art in through books, poetry, theater, film, or let expression out by journaling, drawing, dancing, singing and the list goes on. Art has never let me down; it has been a safe and steady companion through life, and a refuge in grief.

Tammy Adams -Certified Grief Recovery Method® Specialist


In our North American culture we have been socialized as a society to believe that life is about “getting” things. Regardless of the education or experience the majority of us have not been taught or prepared to deal with “losing” things. We fail to realize that grief is emotional and we do our best to support others from an intellectual perspective. While the cause of the loss is intellectual. To the person who is affected it is 100% emotional. It is not their mind that is broken it is a heart that is broken.

Grief is a normal and natural reaction, the feelings you and I have following a loss are also normal and natural. The problem is we have all been socialized to believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural. We are supported with tools that were never designed to move individuals through their pain to the other side of their grief.

The most important thing to understand is that there are not stages of grief that every griever will experience. Each and every broken relationships will be grieved on an individual basis based on the griever’s unique relationship with that person.

4 out of 5 things grievers hear after a loss are not helpful. A study released in 1984 concluded that there are 141 comments that are so common that there is a 95% chance that a grieving person is likely to hear most of them within 72 hours of the death of a loved one. Of these 141 comments only 19 comments are actually helpful because they are being offered from an intellectual perspective.

Things to NEVER say

  • I know how you feel
  • Be strong for…
  • Be grateful you had them so long
  • Keep busy
  • He or she had a full life
  • It was just God’s will
  • You should be over it by now
  • It just takes time

Things TO say

  • I can’t imagine how you must be feeling
  • I can’t imagine how heartbreaking…that must be for you?
  • What was your relationship like?
  • Could you tell me about it?
  • What happened?
  • How did you find out?

In the end grievers just want to be heard. The best support you can offer a griever is to be “a heart with ears”. No criticism, suggestions, or analysis. Just simply to listen, for as long as it takes.

Kristi Hugstad - Grief Recovery Specialist


Sometimes just a display of affection, a hug, holding their hand, offering a shoulder to cry on, is more powerful than anything you can say.
Instead of saying, “call me if you need anything, I’m here for you” just show up. Be there without them having to ask. Bring them food, mow the lawn, observe what they need help with and make sure it gets done. Recruit friends and neighbors and assign tasks. This way everyone feels they are doing whatever they can to express their love and concern.

Virginia A. Simpson, Ph.D., FT - Bereavement Care Specialist


Through my work and the privilege of listening to so many stories, I have come to wonder where people get their ideas about how another person is supposed to grieve. Here’s a test for you:

1. How long does it take to recover after someone you love has died?
2. When should a person begin to “get on with their lives?”
3. Do you think it’s better to mention the deceased’s name to the grieving person or to avoid mentioning the name so that you won’t make that person cry?
4. Do you think it’s a good idea to tell a grieving person how strong they are?

You can figure out the answers to these questions by understanding what grieving people want you to know about them.

1. I am not strong. I’m just numb. When you tell me I am strong, I feel that you don’t see me.
2. I will not recover. This is not a cold or the flu. I’m not sick. I’m grieving and that’s different. I will not always be grieving as intensely, but I will never forget my loved one and rather than recover, I want to incorporate his life and love into the rest of my life. That person is part of me and always will be, and sometimes I will remember him with joy and other times with a tear. Both are okay.
3. I don’t have to accept the death. Yes, I have to understand that it has happened and it is real, but there are just some things in life that are not acceptable.
4. Please don’t avoid me. You can’t catch my grief. My world is painful, and when you are too afraid to call me or visit or say anything, you isolate me at a time when I most need to be cared about. If you don’t know what to say, just come over, give me a hug or touch my arm, and gently say, “I’m sorry.” You can even say, “I just don’t know what to say, but I care, and want you to know that.”
5. Please don’t say, “Call me if you need anything.” I’ll never call you because I have no idea what I need. Trying to figure out what you could do for me takes more energy than I have. So, in advance, let me give you some ideas:

(a) Bring food.
(b) Offer to take my children to a movie or game so that I have some moments to myself.
(c) Send me a card on special holidays, birthdays (mine, his or hers), or the anniversary of the death, and be sure and mention her name. You can’t make me cry. The tears are here and I will love you for giving me the opportunity to shed them because someone cared enough about me to reach out on this difficult day.
(d) Ask me more than once to join you at a movie or lunch or dinner. I may say “no” at first or even for a while, but please don’t give up on me because somewhere down the line, I may be ready, and if you’ve given up, then I really will be alone.

6. Try to understand that this is like I’m in a foreign country where I don’t speak the language and have no map to tell me what to do. Even if there were a map, I’m not sure right now I could understand what it was saying. I’m lost and in a fog. I’m confused.
7. When you tell me what I should be doing, then I feel even more lost and alone. I feel bad enough that my loved one is dead, so please don’t make it worse by telling me I’m not doing this right.
8. Please don’t call to complain about your husband, your wife, or your children. Right now, I’d be delighted to have my loved one here no matter what they were doing.
9. Please don’t tell me I can have other children or need to start dating again. I’m not ready. And maybe I don’t want to. And besides, what makes you think people are replaceable? They aren’t. Whoever comes after, will always be someone different.
10. I don’t even understand what you mean when you say, “You’ve got to get on with your life.” My life is going on, but it may not look the way you think it should. This will take time and I never will be my old self again. So please, just love me as I am today, and know, that with your love and support, the joy will slowly return to my life. But I will never forget and there will always be times that I cry.

Melinda Ruppert, LCPC - Grief and Loss Counseling


The most important thing is to be present and to listen. If you are unable to see or talk to the person and have to provide support from afar then a comforting note or card is perfect. Be sure not to say “I know just how you feel” or use any platitudes (God doesn’t give you any more than you can handle, for example) that could be perceived as insensitive. It is always best to take your cue from the grieving person and let them guide you in knowing what to say/not say. If you know of something that would be helpful to the grieving person (running errands, dropping off groceries etc) just do it, it can put a lot of pressure on the person if you say “Let me know if you need anything.”

Georgena Eggleston, MA, LSP,CRS
Trauma Specialist/Grief Guide


1. Take 3 minutes to sit in silence and breath filling your heart with love before you knock on the door to visit, send a text, make a phone call, make a meal or write a greeting card.
2. REMEMBER… Grief is NOT a disease to cure or a problem to fix. It is NOT a life sentence.
3. Then ask in person, phone or text, How are you in this moment? Remember this is the ONLY moment we have.
4. Then listen and reflect. For example. They say: “Exhausted.” You reflect” Yes, grief IS exhausting.” They say “Oh this hurts so much.” You acknowledge their pain with ” Yes, this is SO painful.” Simply BE with them. Present to them. This is THIER process and you are there because you love them and you, too will grow from this.

Robbie Kaplan - Condolence Expert & Author


The most helpful way to support friends and loved ones grieving a loss is by being present. Show up for the funeral or memorial service and the luncheon, reception, or Shiva following the service. Maintain a presence in the life of the bereaved through emails, phone calls, visits, and notes. If you can sustain a presence in your friend or loved one’s life, you will not only help them mourn their loss, but provide a continuum so your relationship will survive this life-altering experience.

Teresa Doniger, LPC - Grief and Trauma Psychotherapist


What I often hear clients tell me is that responses such as “I am sorry for your loss” fall flat because the person grieving does not want or need others to be sorry. People who are grieving sometimes simply want and need another person’s presence and company, a non-judgemental ear to listen to them, and the patience and respect of others to allow the grieving person to take as much time as they need before “jumping back into” the normal swing of things.

A statement such as: “I am here for you.” Or, asking “How can I help?” Or, simply showing up with food, flowers or other things that the grieving person enjoys can go much farther than the typical response of, “I am sorry for your loss.”

Tony McLaren - National Coordinator of Breathing Space


Grief is our natural reaction to loss and can include a whole succession of feelings and emotions. Some people may experience feelings such as shock, denial, anxiety or confusion. Other common emotions include anger, blame, guilt and regret. Sadness and depression can leave us feeling isolated and alone. Others may even experience a sense of relief after a death. As part of our grief, we may also experience physical symptoms such as insomnia and muscle pains. For many, coping with losing a loved one is the most distressing experience we will ever face.
Grief is a very personal journey, which cannot be hurried. Being with an individual and offering support to someone whilst they manage their feelings and emotions can be invaluable. Remember that there is no particular ‘time-frame’ that someone should follow to ‘get over’ their grief.

How you can offer support

  • Make yourself available – the feelings above are a normal and unpleasant part of grief. By helping that person accept their thoughts and feelings and confide in you, it can help them to work through their emotions. Be sure though to watch your time boundaries, as you cannot be with someone all of the time.
  • Empathetic listening – if a person has taken the time to share their personal feelings with you, be open to their perspective and attend to the conversation at hand. Make the effort to seek to appreciate how they are feeling and try not pass judgement.
  • Normalise grief – dispel concerns that something is wrong with how that person is grieving. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and everyone deals with death differently. As strange as some emotions may seem, accepting and recognising those feelings can help people learn from them.
  • Signpost to support – there are many organisations which can provide helpful support to anyone experiencing grief or supporting someone through bereavement. Organisations such as Cruse Bereavement Care (England, Wales and Northern Ireland) and Cruse Bereavement Scotland, offer advice and guidance.
  • Self care – remember to make time for yourself. It can be emotionally exhausting to be a close support to someone who is grieving, so it’s important to look after yourself during this difficult time too.

Dr Tina Barrett, EdD, LCPC - Executive Director of Tamarack Grief Resource Center


When someone in your family or friendship circle experiences a death, there are several things you can do to be supportive.

  • Consider your personal grief history and how it influences your perspective on loss.
  • Be careful not to assume that your friend or family will feel exactly as you do now or like you did in a similar situation.
  • Follow the lead of the grieving person.
  • The person experiencing the loss will give vague guidelines about how they want to express themselves.
  • Do not be afraid to ask about their loved one or speak their name.
  • Listen attentively.
  • If the friend is not talking about loss, don’t assume the loss has not affected them.
  • Reach out and show affection.
  • Let them know they are loved and cared for. Offer your presence and support as the person experiences their individual grief response.
  • Encourage your family member or friend to share their memories and feelings.
  • Track and honor significant dates and holidays.
  • Be honest and loving in responding to questions and conversations.
  • Provide opportunities with your family member or friend for silence, talk, creative outlets, and movement.
  • Offer help in a specific way (i.e. “Can I walk the dog or help with shopping?) Allow time to grieve, and then more time.
  • Provide resources for support groups.
  • Allow and encourage questions- it is okay to not have answers.
  • You cannot fix it. Just being there to support them is enough.

Rev Canon Yvonne Richmond Tulloch MA -
Founder & Chair of


My summary of the best way to help a grieving person is ‘show up, shut up and shower’. In other words have the courage to be in touch and visit, listen to what has happened and is going on for them, and shower them with practical help and good things. Asking the person what happened and listening to their story will help them to process their loss, and by being there for them and journeying with them (for as long as it takes) with loving thoughts and care, you will help them to get through the hardest of times and enable them in due course back on their feet. Also, tell them early on about the’s website, which signposts the bereaved to appropriate and local support services ( Grieving people need to understand what they’re going through and find others who have survived their situation if they are to have hope.

Janet Roberts -
Executive Director Centering Corporation and Grief Digest


One of the best ways to support someone who’s grieving is helping them to find resources that can guide them through their loss

Every year, many people say to me, “This book changed my life!”

When it comes to finding the perfect book, journal, DVD, or CD to help you through the grieving process, I believe, knowledge is power. Stories, or facts about grief, can be healing and can give you the supportive information you need to find the light at the end of the tunnel.

If you are not sure where to start, I have compiled a list of questions you can ask yourself while searching for information, support, and hope through resources of all kinds.

  1. How much reading do you want to start off with? (There are four-page pamphlets to books with hundreds of pages.)
  2. Do you want to dive into a good book or start off with a little bit of help at a time?
  3. Do you find comfort in personal stories or just supportive information?
  4. Do you want real information from someone who has been through it? Or do you want to know the facts about grief?

Certainly, you don’t have to limit yourself to just books. Journals are a very healing way to write out your feelings—you can put the memories you don’t want to forget on paper.

Or, maybe you don’t feel like reading at the moment. You might prefer to watch a DVD about a an individual who survived an unthinkable tragedy and has somehow found the strength to carry on. If that is too much to think about, a relaxing CD designed to help those who are grieving, written and composed by someone who understands, might be the right choice for you. The great thing about having some selected grief resources at your fingertips is that they are available to you 24/7. And, if some of the content inspires you, you can go through it as many times as you need to during the day or at 3 am when you can’t sleep.

Does a book sound overwhelming? You don’t have to read the whole book at once. Sometimes a page a day is just the right amount for you. Can’t get enough of books? Check out the selection at your local library . We’ve all heard the phrase, “There’s nothing like a good book.” Well, it’s true. Actually, I think it should say: “There’s nothing like a good grief resource.”


If you’ve got this far then you’ve probably read and digested a whole lot of advice. While everyone had different ideas on how to support someone grieving there were some key takeaways that kept coming up:

Be there – it may seem obvious but just being present and with the person grieving, offering a shoulder to lean or cry on is so important. Throughout all of the professionals advice this came up time and time again. If you take one piece of advice away from this that should be it.

Listen – listening was almost as universally recommended as being present. If it’s sitting in silence or offering an empathetic ear, just let them express themselves and be there to listen, in a completely non judgemental way, to whatever it is they need to say.

Offer Help – being there to help with the day-to-day normality of life that has to carry on whilst they grieve is also so important. Offer to help with things like the cooking, or alternatively bring some food for them. Run some errands that need doing, offer to pick up their kids from school etc.

Supporting anyone who is grieving is complex and there is no one size fits all for doing so. But hopefully you will have learnt and taken some advice from all the amazing contributions and be better prepared for being there to support your friends and family when they lose a loved one.

For further grief advice and help please use these resources:

Sympathy Prayers to Pray for a Loss

When someone loses a loved one we want to find a way to comfort them and pay our respects. A really good way to do this is by praying – specifically in this case with sympathy prayers. Prayer helps us to express our love and understanding for others, to empathise with what they are going through and to wish them the strength during such a difficult time. Prayer is an act of love towards others, as well as being something that can bring together people – which is essential during a time of loss.

Praying can also be beneficial to the person grieving. If they join you or others in prayer it can help bring them peace, relief or hope for the future. Losing a loved one hurts more than almost anything so finding something that can offer respite is a real godsend. And having others pray for you can feel like some of the burden that you’re going through is lifted. Strength is given through prayer, and support is what anyone grieving needs.

So if you need some inspiration or ideas for a condolence prayer then please take a look at the examples below.

Sympathy Prayers

Prayer of Comfort and Strength

For all those who woke this morning
to the loneliness of bereavement –
the empty bed or chair,
an unaccustomed quietness,
a life now incomplete –
may they know your presence
in the stillness of the day,
and through the love of friends
who offer their condolence.
And in the darker moments
may they reach out to hold your hand
and feel the warmth of the One
who has already passed from death to life
to welcome others into God’s Kingdom.

Prayer of Comfort for the Bereaved

God of love and mercy,
embrace all those
whose hearts today
overflow with grief,
unanswered questions
and such a sense of loss.
Grant them space
to express their tears.
Hold them close
through the coming days.

Prayer for Loss

You hold time within your hands, and see it all, from beginning to end. Please keep and carry these precious people in their sadness and loss. Cover them with your great wings of love, give their weary hearts rest and their minds sound sleep. Lord, lift their eyes so that they may catch a glimpse of eternity, and be comforted by the promise of heaven.
We ask all this in the precious name of Jesus.


Prayer of Condolence

We pray for all whose lives
have been touched by tragedy,
whether by accident
or a deliberate act.
For those who mourn,
immerse them in your love
and lead them through this darkness
into your arms, and light.
For those who comfort,
be in both the words they use
and all that’s left unspoken;
fill each heart with love.
We ask this through Jesus Christ,
whose own suffering brought us life,
here and for eternity.


Prayer for those who Mourn

Almighty God,
source of all mercy and giver of comfort;
Deal graciously with those who mourn,
casting all their sorrow on you,
they may know the consolation of your love;
through your Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.


Prayer of Bereavement

O God, come to my assistance;
O Lord, hurry to help me. Please take the consuming anguish I feel right now;
take it from me and hold me in Your arms.
Heal my broken heart and bind up my wounds (Psalm 147:3)


Prayer of Comfort

Jesus, You said, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted”
I am mourning; send me Your comfort now.
Wrap around Your arms around me and hold me tight.
Send angels of mercy to me.
Shower Your comfort on me through those around me,
and keep far from me those whose words and actions are no comfort


Prayer of Condolence

Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them.
May their souls and the souls of all the faithful departed,
through the mercy of God, rest in peace.


Prayer of Loss

Thank you for the lives
of all those loved ones
who, whilst no longer
walking beside us
or holding our hand
along life’s journey
as once they did, live on
in the collective memory
of those they have left behind.
Enjoy their company, Loving God
until we shall meet again


Prayer for Comfort in Loss

Dearest Jesus, who wept at the death of your friend
and taught that they who mourn shall be comforted,
grant us the comfort of your presence in our loss.
Send Your Holy Spirit to direct us
lest we make hasty or foolish decisions.
Send Your Spirit to give us courage
lest through fear we recoil from living.
Send Your Spirit to bring us your peace
lest bitterness, false guilt, or regret take root in our hearts.
The Lord has given.
The Lord has taken away.
Blessed be the name of the Lord.


Prayer of Loss

Embrace in your loving arms
all who are grieving the loss
of family and loved ones
through tragic circumstance;
where lives are in turmoil,
hope turns to despair
and pain is all that’s felt.
Be with them in their sorrow,
uphold them with your strength,
and through the generosity
of love shown by othersv and your presence within their hearts
may they know they are not alone,
in their struggle through today.

Prayer for the Bereaved

Jesus, please be with my friend reading this prayer. You know every wound, every joy, every fear, every dream. Heal old wounds. Heal new wounds. Rejoice alongside. Alleviate every haunting fear. Fulfill God-sized dreams in Your timing (and help us be patient in the waiting). Help us all to see the power of Your resurrection this month. Give us eyes to see where new life springs in our hearts. Rejuvenate when we’re weak. We need You Jesus.


Prayer for Loss

O sweet mother Mary,
who knew the sadness of mourning those your heart loved most,
Jesus, your Son,
and Joseph, your devoted spouse,

Pray for us in our time of loss.


Prayer of Strength

God of love, may I come quickly to thee, when I am in need of protection and sympathy.
Guard me against sorrow that is drawn from the imagination.
May I not allow grief to drag me into misery, but with strength and courage may I find happiness in thy daily will.


Prayer for the Mourning

Bless those who mourn
the death of relative or friend
and feel that with this loss
their lives are incomplete.
Bless those who mourn,
and fill these empty hearts
with pleasant memories,
the sound of laughter,
sunshine and happier days.
Bless those who mourn,
and heal their brokenness
with the soothing balm
of your gentle touch,
that they might know
shalom, wholeness, peace

Prayer for Strength and Faith

Lord, at the moment nothing seems to be able to help the loss I feel.
My heart is broken and my spirit mourns.
All I know is that Your grace is sufficient.
This day, this hour
Moment by moment
I choose to lean on You,
For when I am at my weakest Your strength is strongest.
I pour out my grief to You
And praise You that on one glorious day
When all suffering is extinguished and love has conquered
We shall walk together again.

Prayer of Comfort for the Bereaved

Bring comfort to those
coming to terms
with the unexpected
loss of a loved one.
Bring healing to those
alive but broken
by serious injuries
and related trauma.
Bring unity to those
working for peace
and understanding
between communities.
Bring your warmth
to those whose hearts
are cold and empty,
and bring your blessing
on all who in such times
are there to share your love.

Prayer for Strength and Wisdom

Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life


Prayer for Comfort

Comfort me with Your love O God
Wrap me up in Your strong embrace
Shelter me from the storm O Lord
Envelop me in Your tender care

By day I pour out my heartbreak to You
By night I give you my racing thoughts

In You I take refuge
In You I will not be afraid
For you hold me strong, You hold me safe

Calm my fearful heart O God
Still my anxious mind O Lord

For all my life is found in You
All my being is given to You
All my hope begins in You

Prayer for Comfort in Difficult Times

O merciful Father,
who hast taught us in thy holy Word that thou dost not willingly afflict or grieve the children of men:
Look with pity upon the sorrows of thy servant for whom our prayers are offered.
Remember him, O Lord, in mercy,
nourish his soul with patience,
comfort him with a sense of thy goodness,
lift up thy countenance upon him,
and give him peace;
through Jesus Christ our Lord.


Prayer to Comfort Sorrows

“Be merciful to me, Lord, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with sorrow, my soul and body with grief” (Psalm 31:9)
My heart is broken, my mind exhausted. I cry out to you and hardly know what to ask. All I can do is tell you how I feel and ask you to “keep track of all my sorrows… collect all my tears in your bottle… and record each one in your book” as I pour them out to you (Psalm 56:8)


Prayer for Peace and Comfort

Jesus, You told Your followers, “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe in Me as well… Peace I leave with you; My peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives” (John 14:1, 27).
I need Your peace. I need “the peace of God, which transcends all understanding” to guard my heart and mind (Philippians 4:7).
I need peaceful sleep. I ask for peaceful thoughts and emotions to rule my days and nights.


Prayer for Comfort in Loss

I commend you, to almighty God, and entrust you to your Creator.
May you rest in the arms of the Lord who formed you from the dust of the earth.
May holy Mary, the angels and all the saints welcome you now that you have gone forth from this life.
May Christ who was crucified for you, bring you freedom and peace.
May Christ who died for you admit you into his garden of paradise.
May Christ, the true Shepherd, embrace you as one of his flock.
May he forgive all your sins, and set you among those he has chosen.
May you see your Redeemer face to face, and enjoy the vision of God, forever.