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thank you note for funeral flowers

After a funeral or memorial is over you have to think about thanking all those who were involved in some way. The guests who attended, whoever offered their condolences, those who provided food etc. and of course those who sent flowers.

The flowers are an important part of the funeral. For the family of the deceased it is a moving sight to see all the different bouquets and wreaths loved ones have sent. It’s a reminder of how many people cared about the deceased and the lives they touched.

But after the strain and emotion involved in a memorial you might be struggling to write your thank you notes for funeral flowers. If so then the following note examples and tips should help to relieve some of the stress and make it easier.

Thank You for Funeral Flowers Examples

Each note will have a different tone depending on how it is for. Some will be more personal and informal compared to others. But whoever is the recipient you should express your gratitude and show them their flowers were noticed and made a difference.

For Family

Dear Cousin Helen,

We were really pleased to see you at Richards funeral and we all agreed the flowers you sent were our favorites.

Having you at the funeral really meant a lot to us and I know it would have meant the same to Richard too. He really cared about you.

With love,

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Dear Uncle Alistair,

Many thanks for sending a lovely arrangement to Mary’s funeral. I know she would have been really moved by the flowers.

Family is so important at a time like this so we appreciate your presence at the funeral and being there for us. We need to stick together during these difficult moments. Thank you again.

Love,

For Friends

Dear Matthew,

I’m really grateful that you came to Ian’s funeral. The bouquet of flowers you sent was such a lovely thought and were beautiful.

It has been difficult to come to terms with Ian not being here anymore but knowing I have the support of friends like you means a lot. Thank you for your friendship during this time.

Love,

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Dear Amelia,

Thank you for your constant support since my wife passed away. Your help at the funeral and lovely flower arrangement you sent was just amazing and I can’t express my gratitude enough.

Thank you for being such a brilliant friend.

Love,

thank you note for funeral flowers

For Coworkers

Dear Craig and Amanda,

Thank you for sending such beautiful flowers to Jason’s funeral. He enjoyed his work so much and a big part of that were his coworkers like yourselves.

Knowing you had made such an effort would have touched him greatly.

Sincerely,

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Dear James,

Thank you for attending the funeral of my husband and sending flowers. I was very grateful to have colleagues amongst family and friends there to offer support.

It meant a lot to me as I deal with the grief to be surrounded by those who care. Your flowers were a beautiful thought as well. Thank you.

Regards,

thank you note to coworker for sympathy flowers

For Neighbors

Dear Sarah and David,

The stunning arrangement you sent to Jane’s funeral was so appreciated. She would have been so pleased you remembered and picked her favorite flowers.

Thank you again for thinking of Jane and being wonderful neighbors. I’m very touched.

Sincerely,

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Dear Pat,

I wanted to reach out and thank you for the funeral flowers you sent to Anne’s memorial. I know after we became neighbors you and her developed a real friendship and she would have been very moved by your gesture.

Thank you for thinking of her and our family as we remember Anne’s life.

Sincerely,

thank you note to a friend for funeral flowers

For an Acquaintance

Dear Fiona,

Even though you didn’t know Steve very well you still sent a lovely bunch of flowers for his funeral. That really means a lot to our whole family and we are deeply touched that you thought of someone who wasn’t a close friend.

Thank you again,

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Dear Tom,

We appreciate your sending flowers to Shaun’s funeral. Though we may be no more than acquaintances you thought to honor Shaun’s life and pay your respects with a beautiful arrangement and we are very touched.

Thank you, it meant a lot to the whole family.

Do You Send Thank You Notes for Funeral Flowers?

Yes, it’s polite and the correct etiquette to send some form of thank you to those who have bought or sent flowers. Either send a thank you card or note or thank them in person if you have the opportunity.

Whilst it’s not always necessary to thank those who only attended or sent condolences if someone has sent flowers then it’s best to acknowledge that and say thank you.

Do you Send Thank You Notes to Family for Funeral Flowers?

Even with close family it’s still good etiquette and a nice gesture to send them a thank you note or card for funeral flowers. If they have made a real effort with the arrangement they sent then a small card to show your appreciation isn’t too much to ask.

How Do You Address your Note?

First, have a good envelope. It doesn’t have to be too fancy but one that matches your card/note is preferable.

You should use the card that came with the flowers to decide who to address the card to. If it was signed by just one or two names then that’s simple – you address the card to them.

If it was signed by the whole family then address it as such, like ‘Mr and Mrs Jones and Family’.

If each name has been listed individually then you should thank and mention each one. This applies to both within the note itself and on the envelope.

How Long After a Funeral Do You Send Thank You Notes for Flowers?

It depends on when you feel up to it. The usual timeframe is within a few weeks of the funeral. But if you need more time before you are ready to face writing the thank you notes then don’t feel pressured into doing so.

Conclusion

We hope you have found these example thank you notes for funeral flowers helpful. It may be tough after the funeral of a loved one to write thank you cards but those who receive them will appreciate your efforts.

thank you note for funeral flowers

catholic funeral readings

The readings at a Catholic funeral make up an important part of the ceremony. Often taking text from both the Old and New Testament they provide comfort to those mourning and remind them that the deceased will find peace.

That’s why choosing a reading can be difficult. You want to find words that do justice to the deceased or one that meant something to them and their family.

That can be even harder if you aren’t Catholic yourself. Not being familiar with the faith can make deciding on what passage of scripture to use much more difficult.

So it’s probably best to talk with the family as part of the funeral preparations and make a decision together. But you can bring your own suggestions if you have a personal preference.

The funeral readings below are split into ones from the Old Testament, New Testament and specific readings for a mother, father and child.

Table of Contents
From the Old Testament
From the New Testament
For a Mother
For a Father
For a Child

Catholic Funeral Readings

Often in Catholic funerals a reading is given from the Old Testament first followed by one from the New Testament. You may also find there are two readings from the New Testament – firstly from the epistles and then from the gospels.

from the Old Testament

These funeral readings are taken from the Old Testament.

Wisdom 4:7-15

The righteous, though they die early, will be at rest. For old age is not honoured for length of time,
or measured by number of years;
but understanding is grey hair for anyone,
and a blameless life is ripe old age.
There were some who pleased God and were loved by him,
and while living among sinners were taken up.
They were caught up so that evil might not change their understanding or guile deceive their souls.
For the fascination of wickedness obscures what is good,
and roving desire perverts the innocent mind.
Being perfected in a short time,
they fulfilled long years;
for their souls were pleasing to the Lord,
therefore he took them quickly from the midst of wickedness.
Yet the peoples saw and did not understand,
or take such a thing to heart,
that God’s grace and mercy are with his elect,
and that he watches over his holy ones.

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Lamentations 3:17-26

My soul is bereft of peace;
I have forgotten what happiness is;
so I say, “Gone is my glory,
and all that I had hoped for from the Lord.”
The thought of my affliction and my homelessness is wormwood and gall!
My soul continually thinks of it
and is bowed down within me.
But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases,
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.”
The Lord is good to those who wait for him,
to the soul that seeks him.
It is good that one should wait quietly
for the salvation of the Lord.

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Maccabees 12:43-46

Judas, the ruler of Israel,
took up a collection among all his soldiers,
amounting to two thousand silver drachmas,
which he sent to Jerusalem to provide for an expiatory sacrifice.
In doing this he acted in a very excellent and noble way,
inasmuch as he had the resurrection of the dead in view;
for if he were not expecting the fallen to rise again,
it would have been useless and foolish to pray for them in death.
But if he did this with a view to the splendid reward that awaits those who had gone to rest in godliness, it was a holy and pious thought.
Thus he made atonement for the dead that they might be freed from this sin.

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Isaiah 25:6-8

On this mountain the Lord Almighty will prepare
a feast of rich food for all peoples,
a banquet of aged wine—
the best of meats and the finest of wines.
On this mountain he will destroy
the shroud that enfolds all peoples,
the sheet that covers all nations;
he will swallow up death forever.

The Sovereign Lord will wipe away the tears from all faces;
 he will remove his people’s disgrace
 from all the earth.

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Ecclesiastes 3:1-11

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
What profit hath he that worketh in that wherein he laboureth?
I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it.
He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.

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Daniel 12:1-3

At that time shall arise Michael, the great prince who has charge of your people. And there shall be a time of trouble, such as never has been since there was a nation till that time. But at that time your people shall be delivered, everyone whose name shall be found written in the book. And many of those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake, some to everlasting life, and some to shame and everlasting contempt.
And those who are wise shall shine like the brightness of the sky above; and those who turn many to righteousness, like the stars forever and ever.

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Wisdom 3:1-9

The souls of the just are in the hand of God,
and no torment shall touch them.
 They seemed, in the view of the foolish, to be dead;
and their passing away was thought an affliction
and their going forth from us, utter destruction.
 But they are in peace.
For in the eyes of men, indeed they be punished,
yet is their hope full of immortality;
Chastised a little, they shall be greatly blessed,
because God tried them and found them worthy of himself. 
As gold in the furnace, he proved them,
and as sacrificial offerings he took them to himself.
 Those who trust in God shall understand truth,
and the faithful shall abide with him in love:

Because grace and mercy are with his holy ones,
and God’s care is with the elect.

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Job 19:1, 23-27

Oh, would that my words were written down!
Would that they were inscribed in a record:

That with an iron chisel and with lead
they were cut in the rock forever!

But as for me, I know that my Vindicator lives,
and that he will at last stand forth upon the dust;

Whom I myself shall see:
my own eyes, not another’s, shall behold him,

And from my flesh I shall see God;
my inmost being is consumed with longing.

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Micah 7:7-9

But as for me, I watch in hope for the Lord,

I wait for God my Savior;

my God will hear me.
Israel Will Rise
Do not gloat over me, my enemy!

Though I have fallen, I will rise.

Though I sit in darkness,

the Lord will be my light.
Because I have sinned against him,

I will bear the Lord’s wrath,

until he pleads my case
and upholds my cause.

He will bring me out into the light;

I will see his righteousness.

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Isaiah 25:6a, 7-9

On this mountain the Lord of hosts

will provide for all peoples

On this mountain he will destroy

the veil that veils all peoples,

The web that is woven over all nations;

he will destroy death forever.

The Lord God will wipe away

the tears from all faces;

The reproach of his people he will remove
from the whole earth; for the Lord has spoken.

On that day it will be said:

”Behold our God, to whom we looked to save us!

This is the Lord for whom we looked;

let us rejoice and be glad that he has saved us!”

isaiah 25:6-8 catholic funeral reading

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from the New Testament

Romans 5:5-11

Hope does not disappoint us,
because God’s love has been poured into our hearts
through the Holy Spirit that has been given to us.
For while we were still weak,
at the right time Christ died for the ungodly.
Indeed, rarely will anyone die for a righteous person
— though perhaps for a good person someone might actually dare to die. But God proves his love for us
in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us.
Much more surely then,
now that we have been justified by his blood,
will we be saved through him from the wrath of God.
For if while we were enemies,
we were reconciled to God through the death of his Son,
much more surely, having been reconciled, will we be saved by his life. But more than that,
we even boast in God through our Lord Jesus Christ,
through whom we have now received reconciliation.

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Corinthians 15:51-55

Listen, I will tell you a mystery!
We will not all die, but we will all be changed,
in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet.
For the trumpet will sound,
and the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. For this perishable body must put on imperishability,
and this mortal body must put on immortality.
When this perishable body puts on imperishability,
and this mortal body puts on immortality,
then the saying that is written will be fulfilled:
“Death has been swallowed up in victory.”
“Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?” The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law.
But thanks be to God,
who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

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Timothy 2:8-13

Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead, a descendant of David — that is my gospel, for which I suffer hardship,
even to the point of being chained like a criminal.
But the word of God is not chained.
Therefore I endure everything for the sake of the elect,
so that they may also obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory.
The saying is sure:
If we have died with him, we will also live with him;
if we endure, we will also reign with him;
if we deny him, he will also deny us;
if we are faithless, he remains faithful – for he cannot deny himself.

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Revelation 20:11-21:1

I saw a great white throne and the one who sat on it;
the earth and the heaven fled from his presence,
and no place was found for them.
And I saw the dead, great and small, standing before the throne, and books were opened.
Also another book was opened, the book of life.
And the dead were judged according to their works, as recorded in the books. And the sea gave up the dead that were in it,
Death and Hades gave up the dead that were in them,
and all were judged according to what they had done.
Then Death and Hades were thrown into the lake of fire.
This is the second death, the lake of fire;
and anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life
was thrown into the lake of fire.
Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth;
for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away,
and the sea was no more.
The Word of the Lord.

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Corinthians 15:20-28

Brothers and Sisters:
Christ has been raised from the dead,

the first fruits of those who have fallen asleep.

For since death came through a man,

the resurrection of the dead
came also through a man.

For just as in Adam all die,
 so too in Christ shall all be brought to life,

but each one in proper order:
 Christ the first fruits;
 then, at his coming, those who belong to Christ;
 then comes the end,
when he hands over the kingdom to his God and Father, 
when he has destroyed every sovereignty
 and every authority and power.


For he must reign until he has put all his enemies
 under his feet.
 The last enemy to be destroyed is death,
 for “he subjected everything under his feet. ”
But when it says that everything has been subjected,
 it is clear that it excludes
the one who subjected everything to him.
 
When everything is subjected to him,
 then the Son himself will also be subjected
 to the one who subjected everything to him,
so that God may be all in all.

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1 John 3:1-2

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!
And that is what we are!
The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.
Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known.
But we know that when Christ appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is.

John 3:2-1 catholic funeral reading

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Acts 10:34-43

Then Peter began to speak: “I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism but accepts from every nation the one who fears him and does what is right. You know the message God sent to the people of Israel, announcing the good news of peace through Jesus Christ, who is Lord of all. You know what has happened throughout the province of Judea, beginning in Galilee after the baptism that John preached — how God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Spirit and power, and how he went around doing good and healing all who were under the power of the devil, because God was with him.
“We are witnesses of everything he did in the country of the Jews and in Jerusalem. They killed him by hanging him on a cross, but God raised him from the dead on the third day and caused him to be seen. He was not seen by all the people, but by witnesses whom God had already chosen- by us who ate and drank with him after he rose from the dead. He commanded us to preach to the people and to testify that he is the one whom God appointed as judge of the living and the dead. All the prophets testify about him that everyone who believes in him receives forgiveness of sins through his name.”

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2 Timothy 4:1-8

In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who will judge the living and the dead, and in view of his appearing and his kingdom, I give you this charge: Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction. For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths. But you, keep your head in all situations, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, discharge all the duties of your ministry.

For I am already being poured out like a drink offering, and the time for my departure is near. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day—and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.

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Romans 14:7-12

None of us lives for oneself, and no one dies for oneself.  For if we live, we live for the Lord, and if we die, we die for the Lord; so then, whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s.  For this is why Christ died and came to life, that he might be Lord of both the dead and the living.  Why then do you judge your brother or sister?  Or you, why do you look down on your brother or sister?  For we shall all stand before the judgment seat of God; for it is written:  “As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bend before me, and every tongue shall give praise to God.” So then each of us shall give an account of himself to God.

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Romans 6:3-9

Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.

For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we will certainly also be united with him in a resurrection like his. For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin— because anyone who has died has been set free from sin.

Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him. For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, he cannot die again; death no longer has mastery over him.

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Corinthians 15:20-28

Christ has been raised from the dead, the first fruits of those who have fallen asleep.  For since death came through a human being, the resurrection of the dead came also through a human being.  For just as in Adam all die, so too in Christ shall all be brought to life, but each one in proper order:  Christ the first fruits; then, at his coming, those who belong to Christ; then comes the end, when he hands over the kingdom to his God and Father, when he has destroyed every sovereignty and every authority and power.  For he must reign until he has put all his enemies under his feet.  The last enemy to be destroyed is death, for “he subjected everything under his feet.”  But when it says that everything has been subjected, it is clear that it excludes the one who subjected everything to him.  When everything is subjected to him, then the Son himself will also be subjected to the one who subjected everything to him, so that God my be all in all.

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Catholic Funeral Readings for Mother

John 14:27

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

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Psalms 27:1-4

The Lord is the stronghold of my life—
of whom shall I be afraid?
When the wicked advance against me
to devour me,
it is my enemies and my foes
who will stumble and fall.
Though an army besiege me,
my heart will not fear;
though war break out against me,
even then I will be confident.
One thing I ask from the Lord,
this only do I seek:
that I may dwell in the house of the Lord
all the days of my life,
to gaze on the beauty of the Lord.

psalms 27:1-4 funeral reading

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John 14:1-4

Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going.”

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Psalms 23:1-4

The Lord is my shepherd,
I lack nothing.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,

he leads me beside quiet waters,
he refreshes my soul.

He guides me along the right paths

for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk
through the darkest valley,

I will fear no evil,

for you are with me;

your rod and your staff,

they comfort me.

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Psalms 103:8-13

The Lord is compassionate and gracious,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
He will not always accuse,
nor will he harbor his anger forever;
he does not treat us as our sins deserve
or repay us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his love for those who fear him;
as far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
As a father has compassion on his children,
so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him;

psalms 103:8-13 funeral reading

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Catholic Funeral Readings for Father

Isaiah 57:1

The righteous perisheth, and no man layeth it to heart: and merciful men are taken away, none considering that the righteous is taken away from the evil to come.

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Romans 5:17-21

For if, by the trespass of the one man, death reigned through that one man, how much more will those who receive God’s abundant provision of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man, Jesus Christ!

Consequently, just as one trespass resulted in condemnation for all people, so also one righteous act resulted in justification and life for all people. For just as through the disobedience of the one man the many were made sinners, so also through the obedience of the one man the many will be made righteous.

The law was brought in so that the trespass might increase. But where sin increased, grace increased all the more, so that, just as sin reigned in death, so also grace might reign through righteousness to bring eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

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1 John 3:1

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.

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2 Corinthians 5:1

For we know that if the tent that is our earthly home is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens.

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Romans 8:35-39

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written:

“For your sake we face death all day long;
    we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

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Catholic Funeral Readings for a Child

Lamentations 3:22-26

The favors of the Lord are not exhausted,
his mercies are not spent;
They are renewed each morning,
so great is his faithfulness.
My portion is the LORD, says my soul;
therefore will I hope in him.
Good is the LORD to one who waits for him,
to the soul that seeks him;
It is good to hope in silence
for the saving help of the Lord.

lamentations 3:22-26 catholic funeral readings

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John 19:25-30

A reading from the holy Gospel according to John
Standing by the cross of Jesus were his mother
and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas,
and Mary Magdalene.
When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he loved
he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son.”
Then he said to the disciple,
“Behold, your mother.”
And from that hour the disciple took her into his home.
After this, aware that everything was now finished,
in order that the Scripture might be fulfilled,
Jesus said, “I thirst.”
There was a vessel filled with common wine.
So they put a sponge soaked in wine on a sprig of hyssop
and put it up to his mouth.
When Jesus had taken the wine, he said,
“It is finished.”
And bowing his head, he handed over the spirit.

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Matthew 18:1-4

At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who, then, is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?”
He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.

matthew 18:1-4 funeral reading for catholics

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1 Samuel 1:27-28

“I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he will be given over to the Lord.” And he worshiped the Lord there.

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We hope these Catholic funeral readings have helped you to find the perfect reading for a loved ones funeral.

catholic funeral readings

short verses for funeral cards

If you’re sending a funeral card the standard message of condolence you include in it can be a bit bland or boring. A touching verse for a funeral card will make a more personal and moving way to express your sympathy.

Verses can be heartfelt, inspiring or just sum up the way you felt about the deceased.

So use these short verses as part of a eulogy, in a funeral card or however you feel is appropriate to commemorate and remember a loved one who has passed away.

Short Verses for Funeral Cards

You gave us years of happiness,
Then sorrow came with tears.
You left us lovely memories,
We will treasure through the years.

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As long as hearts remember

As long as hearts still care

We do not part with those we love

They’re with us everywhere

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Those we love don’t go away,
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed, and very dear

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If tears could build a stairway

And memories a lane,

I’d walk right up to heaven

And bring you back again

short verse for funeral card

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Always a smile, instead of a frown,

Always a hand, when someone is down,

Always true, thoughtful and kind,

Wonderful memories you left behind.

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A daily thought,
A silent tear,
A constant wish that you were here

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Your gentle face and patient smile,
With sadness we recall.
You had a kindly word for each
And died beloved by all

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May the roads rise up to meet you,

May the wind be always at your back,

May the sun shine warm upon your face,

May the rains fall soft upon fields

And until we meet again

May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

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Looking back with memories,
Upon the path you trod.
We bless the hours we had with you
And will leave the rest with God

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We hold you close within our hearts
And there you shall remain,
To walk with us throughout our lives
Until we meet again

memorial verse for funeral

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Loving you is easy,

We do it every day,

Missing you is a heartache,

That never goes away.

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Like a shadow in the moonlight

Like the whisper of the seas

Like the echoes of a melody

Just beyond our reach

In the shadow of our sorrow

Past the whisper of goodbye

Love shines through eternity

A heartbeat from our eye

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As each day dawns, we think of you;

As each night falls, we pray for you.

And throughout our lives, no matter where;

In our hearts you are always there.

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God called your name so softly,

That only you could hear.

And no one heard the footsteps

Of angels drawing near.

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Loved with a love beyond all telling, Missed with a grief beyond all tears

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Just a prayer from the ones who loved you,
Just a memory fond and true,
In our hearts you will live forever,
Because we thought the world of you

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When loved ones have to part

To help us feel were with them still

And soothe a grieving heart

They span the years and warm our lives
Preserving ties that bind

Our memories build a special bridge
And bring us peace of mind

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You were always someone special,
Someone kind and true
Who will never be forgotten,
For we thought the world of you

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Your life was one of kindly deeds,
A helping hand for others needs,
Sincere and true in heart and mind,
Beautiful memories left behind

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Remembering you is easy,
We do it every day.
It’s the heartache of losing you
That will never go away

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No matter how life changes,
No matter what we do,
A special place within our hearts,
Is always kept for you

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In life we loved you dearly,
In death we love you still.
In our hearts you hold a place,
No one could ever fill

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You were always there when we needed you.
No task too great or small.
With loving heart and willing hands,
For us you did it all.

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Your life was love and labour,
Your love for your family true.
You did your best for all of us.
We will always remember you

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You were someone special,
Someone set apart.
Your memory will live forever,
Engraved within our hearts

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There’s aways a reason for living.
Though sad your heart may be.
There’s always another horizon
Beyond the one you see

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As long as our hearts keep beating.
As long as our eyes shed tears,
We will always love and miss you.
No matter how many years

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Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
Love leaves a memory no one can steal

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Softly in the morning,
You heard a gentle call.
You too the hand God offered you,
And quietly left us all

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Your life touched so many others
and will be remembered forever more.
To leave the world a better place
than it had been before

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Short Memorial Verses


When those we love go away,
they never really leave us; 

they are with us now, wherever we are. 

Those whom we have cherished, live on forever, 
for love wraps itself around the heart.
Although it’s difficult now,
someday beyond our tears 
and all the world’s wrongs; beyond the clouds 
and all that we can see and touch,
we shall all understand.

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Life can never stay the same

No matter how we try

Our hands can never stop

The clock of life from ticking by

But love remains, unchanging

In the care of sorrowing hearts

For as the love of life is stilled

The love of memory starts

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Life is but a stopping place,

A pause in what’s to be,

A resting place along the road,
to sweet eternity.
We all have different journeys,

Different paths along the way,

We all were meant to learn some things,
but never meant to stay..
Our destination is a place,

Far greater than we know.

For some the journey’s quicker,

For some the journey’s slow.
And when the journey finally ends,

We’ll claim a great reward,

And find an everlasting peace,

Together with the Lord.

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A light went out on Earth for me

The day we said goodbye

And on that day a star was born,

The brightest in the sky

Reaching through the darkness

With its rays of purest white

Lighting up the Heavens

As it once lit up my life

With beams of love to heal

The broken heart you left behind

Where always in my memory

Your lovely star will shine

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No winter without a spring

And beyond the dark horizon

Our hearts will once more sing

For those who leave us for a while

Have only gone away

Out of a restless, care worn world

Into a brighter day

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God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not to be

so he put his arms around you

and whispered,
“Come to Me”
With tearful eyes we watched you

and saw you pass away

and although we love you dearly

we could not make you stay.
A Golden heart stopped beating

hard working hands at rest.

God broke our hearts to prove to us

He only takes the best.

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They say there is a reason,

They say that time will heal,

But neither time or reason,

Will change the way we feel.
For no one knows the heartache,

That lies behind our smiles,

No one knows how many times,

We have broken down and cried.
We want to tell you something,

So there won’t be any doubt,

You’re so wonderful to think of,

But so hard to be without.
We cannot bring the old days back,

When we were all together,

The family chain is broken now,

But memories live forever.

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There is a bridge of memory. 

From earth to heaven above. 

It keeps you always near us, 
it’s called the bridge of love. 

May you always walk in sunshine 
and God’s love around you flow, 
for happiness you gave us, 
no one will ever know.

It broke our hearts to lose you, 
but you did not go alone, 
for part of us went with you. 

The day God called you home.

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When those we love go away,
they never really leave us;
they are with us now,
wherever we are. 
Those whom we have cherished,
live on forever, 
for love wraps itself 
around the heart.

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Some people come into our lives and quickly go. 
But there are those that move our souls to dance. 
They awaken us to new understanding
with the passing whisper of their wisdom. Some people make the sky more beautiful to gaze upon. 
They stay in our lives for awhile,
leave footprints on our hearts
and we are never, ever the same.

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Your gentle face and patient smile
with sadness we recall,
you had a kindly word for each
and died beloved by all.
The voice is mute and stilled the heart, that loved us well and true.
Ah, bitter was the trial to part 
from one so good as you.
You are not forgotten loved one
nor will you ever be. 
As long as life and memory last
we will remember thee.
We miss you now, our hearts are sore,
as time goes by we miss you more.
Your loving smile, your gentle face
no one can fill your vacant place.

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One gift, above all others
God gives to us to treasure
one that knows no time, no place
and one gold cannot measure.
The precious, poignant, tender gift
of Memory that will keep 
our dear ones ever in our hearts
although God gives them sleep.
It brings back long remembered things
a song, a word, a smile
and our world’s a better place
because we had them for a while

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Funeral Verses from the Perspective of the Deceased

Grieve for a while for me if you must.

Then let your grief be comforted by trust.

It’s only for a while that we must part.

So bless the memories within your hearts.

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Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.

I have sent up my gladness on wings, to be lost in the blue of the sky.

I have run and leaped with the rain,
I have taken the wind to my breast.

My cheek like a drowsy child
to the face of the earth I have pressed.

Because I have loved life,

I shall have no sorrow to die.

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When I must leave you

For a little while-

Please do not grieve

And shed wild tears

And hug your sorrow to you

Through the years,


But start out bravely

With a gallant smile;

And for my sake

And for my name

Live on and do

All things the same,


Feed not your loneliness

On empty days,

But fill each waking hour

In useful ways,


Reach out your hand

In comfort and in cheer

And I in turn will comfort you

And hold you near;


And never, never

Be afraid to die

For I am waiting for you in the sky!

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If I should die and leave you here a while,

Be not like others sore undone,

Who keep long vigil by the silent dust.

For my sake turn again to life and smile,

Nerving thy heart and trembling hand to do
Something to comfort other hearts than thine.

Complete these dear unfinished tasks of mine

And I perchance may therein comfort you.

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As I journey toward life’s sunset,
mourning you who went before.
Faith assures me, I’ll be with you,
when I reach the other shore

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Grieve for a while for me if you must.
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It’s only for a while that we must part.
So bless the memories within your hearts

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I’m writing this from Heaven

Where I dwell with God above

Where there’s no more

tears or sadness

There’s just eternal love.
When you are walking down the street

And you’ve got me on your mind

I’m walking in your footsteps

Only half a step behind.
And when you feel that gentle breeze

Or the wind upon your face

That’s me giving you a great big hug

Or just a soft embrace.
And when it’s time for you to go

From that body to be free

Remember you’re not going

You are coming here to me.

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I am home in Heaven, dear ones;

Oh, so happy and so bright!

There is perfect joy and beauty 
In this everlasting light.

All the pain and grief is over, every restless tossing passed;

I am now at peace forever,
Safely home in Heaven at last.

Did you wonder I so calmly trod the valley of the shade?

Oh! but Jesus’ love illumined every dark and fearful glade.

And He came Himself to meet me
In that way so hard to tread;

And with Jesus’ arm to lean on,
Could I have one doubt or dread?

Then you must not grieve so sorely,
For I love you dearly still

Try to look beyond earth’s shadows,
Pray to trust our Father’s Will.

There is work still waiting for you,
So you must not idly stand;

Do it now, while life remaineth
­You shall rest in Jesus’ land.

When that work is all completed,
He will gently call you Home;

Oh, the rapture of that meeting,

Oh, the joy to see you come!

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I’d like the memory of me to be a happy one,
I’d like to leave an afterglow of smiles when day is gone. 

I’d like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways,
Of happy times, and laughing times, and bright and sunny days.

I’d like the tears of those who grieve to dry before the sun,

Of happy memories that I leave when life is done

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Short Bible Verses for Funeral Cards

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Matthew 11:28

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I have fought the good fight,
I have finished the race,
I have kept the faith. 
Henceforth there is laid up for me
the crown of righteousness. 



Timothy 4:7-8

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Fold him, O Jesus, in Thy arms,

And let him henceforth be

A messenger of love between

Our human hearts and thee

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The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. 
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: 
He leadeth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul:
He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake. 
Yea, though I walk through the valley of 
the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: 
for Thou art with me:
Thy rod and Thy staff they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil: my cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me 
all the days of my life: and I will dwell 
in the house of the Lord for ever.

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Jesus said: “I am the light of the world. He that follows me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.”

John 8:12

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Sacred Heart of Jesus
have mercy on his (her) soul.

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We hope these short funeral verses for cards have helped you when sending a card or delivering a eulogy or memorial.

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quotes for remembering a loved one at christmas

When you have lost a loved one it’s often the holidays which are the hardest times. Things like birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas are when you miss them the most.

A great way to remember your departed loved one or help deal with the grief you’re feeling is some moving quotes. They can help you to express how you’re feeling or pay tribute to whoever is no longer with you.

So use these quotes to remember loved ones at Christmas and give you strength to get through the pain of the holidays without them.

Remembering Loved Ones at Christmas Quotes

If you’re struggling to get through the holidays without a loved one then hopefully these quotes will provide some comfort or help you express the grief you’re feeling.

  • “My only wish this Christmas is to be reunited with you once again. I miss you so much.”
  • “Christmas will come and go but you will always be in my heart.”
  • “I’ll always feel you close to me even though you’re far from sight, I’ll search for you among the stars that shine on Christmas night.”
  • “There may be presents and decorations but Christmas just won’t be the same without you this year.”
  • “Even though you’re gone I still feel your presence with me, bringing warmth and comfort to my cold Christmas nights.”
  • “We are celebrating Christmas and keeping you in our hearts and mind. We love you and miss you more every day.”
  • “I miss the bond between us and I miss your kind support. You’re in my mind and in my heart and every Christmas thought.”
  • “May you be celebrating Christmas up in heaven as we raise a glass to you down here.”
  • Not a day goes by I don’t think of you, but at Christmas it really hits home. You’re gone and I long to have you back.”
  • “Those we love can never be more than a thought away. For as long as there’s a memory, they live in our hearts to stay.”
  • “Without you here our hearts are heavy. We will be praying for you this Christmas season.”

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Holidays Without Loved Ones Quotes

  • “Although it’s sad to reminisce on Christmases we knew, this year I shall celebrate in memory of you.”
  • “We still hang a stocking for you. It always brings a tear to my eye.”
  • The Christmas star shines brightly upon all those missing loved ones in heaven.”
  • “I still place your present under the tree, hoping on Christmas morning I’ll come downstairs and see your smiling face opening it. I miss you so much.”
  • “Putting the star on top of the Christmas tree reminds me of you: the shining light you were in my life.”
  • “Miracles are very rare, but for Christmas, one would do, to hear the doorbell ring and to have you walk smiling through.”
  • “Praying and thinking of you this Christmas. Wherever you are you are in my heart.”
  • “Christmas memories are some of the fondest I have of you. Even though you’ve gone I still smile when I think of those holidays together.”
  • “When I wake on Christmas Day, I’ll look to Heaven above, I’ll remember every smile, and think of you with love.”
  • “I wish you peace at Christmas time, wherever you may be. And thank you for the memories, they mean the world to me.”
  • “Putting up the tree and decorations reminds me of you. May all our Christmas cheer shine brightly up to heaven.”

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Quotes for Missing Family Members at Christmas

When it’s a family member you are missing at the holidays then use these quotes to remember and pay tribute to them.

  • Christmas isn’t the same without you mom. I miss you with each day that passes and only wish I could spend one more Christmas with you.
  • You loved Christmas dad, and it feels so quiet without you this year. It’s going to be really hard to enjoy it as we miss you so much.
  • The holidays are going to be filled with a sadness I haven’t ever experienced now that you’re no longer with us. Missing your warmth this Christmas, grandma.
  • There’s a new star in heaven this year, and it’s shining down on us throughout the holidays. We miss you dear brother.
  • The holidays are empty without you, sis. I’ll be lighting a candle for you.
  • We will remember and pay tribute to you mom by having the traditional Christmas you always loved. Everything will be just as you would have wanted it and we will celebrate your life.
  • I don’t think I can enjoy the holidays without you, dad. Not seeing your smiling face and how much this time of year meant to you breaks my heart. May you always be looking down on me.
  • You were the light of my life and I am grateful for every moment I had with you. No gift, holiday or Christmas could ever compare to you.
  • No presents or Christmas cheer will make up for you not being here. Merry Christmas up in heaven, mom. I wish I could see you one last time.
  • My aunts Christmas cheer brought the holiday spirit to everyone. We are so sad she isn’t here to celebrate with us.
  • For my best friend who sadly is no longer with us – you were a one in a million and this Christmas I am thinking of you. May you rest in peace.

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We hope these quotes for remembering loved ones at Christmas have been helpful in coping with the pain of losing someone. The holidays are always difficult to get through when you’ve lost someone so special but look to the support of family and friends to be there when it all becomes too much.

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what to say when it's someone's first holiday without a loved one

A first holiday without a loved one can be filled with real grief and sadness. It coming so soon after having lost someone makes it harder to celebrate and enjoy the festivities.

So how do you approach it if you know someone in that situation? What do you say when it’s someone’s first holiday without a loved one?

You certainly shouldn’t say nothing. Don’t ignore them or the fact that it’s the first holiday after their loss. Instead think about the words you’re going to use a bit more carefully.

It’s easy when you’re sending a regular greeting card and message or talking to someone over the holidays who hasn’t experienced a loss. But the cheery greeting you would use in those circumstances wouldn’t be appropriate for someone still grieving a bereavement.

So if you’re struggling with what to say or write in a card then the following examples should help you to find the right words.

First Holiday After Losing a Loved One Messages

When you are sending a greeting card or talking to someone over the holidays who has received you lost a loved one keep that in mind. You won’t want to say “Merry Christmas” or “Happy Holidays” because it’s not likely to reflect how they’re feeling.

Instead try one of these example messages to help you say something more appropriate.

  • Sending you love and strength for the holidays. I know it’s the first since you lost [name] and I wanted you to know I’m thinking of you and always here if you need anything.
  • I understand that getting through the holidays is going to be complicated for you this year. So I’m here for you if need me.
  • Put yourself first this holiday season. Don’t feel like you have to anything you don’t want to. Give yourself the time and freedom to grieve and process what has happened.
  • Whatever feels right and comfortable this year you should go with. Don’t try to make the holidays the same as they were before.
  • I know it will be hard this year. But remember those wonderful memories you have and use them to help you get through.
  • If you need a friendly ear or shoulder to cry on over the holidays then I’m right here. If it’s all getting too much then don’t hesitate to ask for help. I will always be there.
  • May the love of family and friends help you through this holiday season.
  • You shouldn’t have to put others first over the holidays. Think of yourself and focus on your needs.
  • Keep those treasured memories close to you and remember the best times. This year it will be different but I’m here if it gets too much.
  • It’s not about making the holidays wonderful. It may just be about getting through.

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READ MORE: Christmas Sympathy Messages: What to Say to those Grieving

Christmas Wishes After the Loss of a Loved One

Christmas is a really difficult tune for those grieving someone. When you send a card be respectful of those feelings and try to offer them some comfort or at least demonstrate you understand they might be struggling.

  • May you find peace this Christmas and be able to find whatever you need to move forward.
  • I am thinking and praying for you during this very difficult time. I hope the love of those closest to you can bring some peace.
  • I’ve been thinking about you a lot but at this time of year even more so. I hope you’re coping ok and that the holidays don’t cause too many unwanted feelings and memories.
  • If I could I would take away the pain you’re feeling this year. You’re in my thoughts.
  • Wishing you peace and rest this holiday.
  • Please know that we love you and are here for you this holiday. You aren’t alone.
  • I’m never more than a text message or phone call away. Just because it’s the holidays don’t feel bad about reaching out.
  • This Christmas you will be in my thoughts as you face the first holidays without [name].
  • Everything about the holidays seems harder when someone you love is missing. But if they could see the effort you’re making they’d be really proud.

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READ MORE: Christmas Card Etiquette After a Death in the Family

Quotes for those Grieving a Loss Over the Holidays

These quotes are fitting for those who are missing a loved one over the holidays.

  • “Until you have buried someone you love, you won’t understand how hard a holiday, death day, birthday or any other day is without them.”
  • “There are no rules for surviving holiday grief. Do what you need to do to survive. Honor your loved ones how you need to and do what feels best for your fragile, aching heart. You are missing a huge piece of you, so do whatever you need to do to find a sliver of peace.” – Angela Miller
  • “Because someone we love is in Heaven there is a little bit of Heaven in our homes at Christmas.”
  • “Memories come and some may fade, yet there’s special ones that stay. Those that live within the heart, that are with us each day. These memories are treasured, of the happy times shared and in this world there is nothing, that could ever be compared. You are missed so very much, at Christmas and each day, happy thoughts of you both, are never far away.”
  • “When Christmas is hard – It’s hard to rejoice when your heart is hurting, and it seems like the world is celebrating around you.  But the same God who loved us enough to send His only Son understands you better than anyone else and he’s closer to you now than anyone else can be.” – Holley Gerth
  • “Those we love can never be more than a thought away for as long as there’s a memory they live in our hearts to stay.”
  • “There’s a little place within my heart, that’s with me every day, a place where all my memories, are safely tucked away. It is the perfect place for me, at special times to go, for words alone could not explain, how much I miss you so. And now that once again, Christmastime has come around, it’s where the sweetest memories and thoughts of you are found.”

Reaching out to someone during their first holiday without a loved one is difficult. You don’t want to upset them or say the wrong thing. But it’s important you make the effort because they will need the support of friends and family most at times like this.

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what to say to someone whose dog died

The loss of a dog, like losing any pet, is completely heartbreaking. Dogs provide us with so much love and affection that when they finally leave us we are overcome with grief.

So if you know someone whose dog has died you will want to be there for them. But it can be hard to know what to say.

They will be grieving and mourning the loss of someone very special to them. So finding the right way to offer comfort is important to show you care and want to help.

If you are struggling then the following guide and examples of what to say when someone’s dog dies should help you to be there for whoever has lost a beloved pet.

What to Say to Someone Whose Dog Died

What to Say in Person

If you can it’s always preferable to be there in person for someone after they lose a pet. Offering your condolences and being there so they have support is going to make dealing with their grief easier. If you aren’t sure what to say in person then the following examples should help:

  • I understand that nothing I say will be able to ease your pain but I want you to know I’m always here for you.
  • You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I’m so sorry for such a terrible loss.
  • You loved them with all your heart and sadly grief is the price we pay for that love. My condolences.
  • You gave [dogs name] a home and the love they needed. Hold on to those treasured memories and try to find comfort in them. I’m very sorry for your loss.
  • I know they were a true part of your family and they leave behind such a huge hole. You have my deepest sympathy.
  • I want to help in any way I can. I will be there for you and by your side the whole time.
  • May you find the strength to get through this tragic time. If you need a shoulder to cry on then let it be mine.
  • I will miss [dogs name] dearly. He/she was the kindest and most loyal companion and I’m so sorry he/she is gone.

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READ MORE: Touching Dog Loss Quotes

What to Write in a Card

If you are going to send a sympathy card with a message after the death of someone’s dog then use these ideas of what to say to express your sadness and support:

  • Thinking of you and sending my support. With love and sympathy.
  • It is never long enough, is it? You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
  • I’m hoping you find comfort and peace during an incredibly difficult time.
  • You were blessed to find him/her and he/she will be so greatly missed.
  • Losing a member of your family is always devastating and your beloved [dogs name] was just that. My heartfelt sympathy for your loss.
  • If there is anything you need, from help to just talking, I’m here for you.
  • I’m so sorry you have lost your best friend. My condolences.
  • They were lucky to have you as an owner and you were lucky to have them.

READ MORE: Pet Condolence Messages

What NOT to Say

Making sure you avoid saying the wrong thing is equally as important as what you do say. It can be tricky navigating the right’s and wrong’s of talking to those grieving but the following examples should definitely not be said:

  • “It happened for a reason.”
  • “It’s for the best.”
  • “You can always get another dog.”
  • “Just give it time.”
  • “Don’t you think it’s time you moved on.”
  • “This was God’s plan.”
  • “They are in a better place now.”

What NOT to do

As well as what you shouldn’t say there are also a few things you should avoid doing:

  • Don’t compare your own loss with theirs. Everyone feels and experiences grief differently and they may feel like you are making it about yourself or trying to lessen the pain they are feeling.
  • Don’t avoid saying the deceased dogs name. They will want you to acknowledge the loss and part of that is talking about the dog they loved, including its name.
  • Don’t use euphemisms about death. It’s better to speak plainly and not dance around it. You shouldn’t be thoughtless or harsh but you also shouldn’t pretend like it hasn’t happened or be afraid to fully confront it.
  • Don’t try to get them to talk if they don’t want to. Silence is an important part of grieving if they just want someone to be with them without saying anything then that’s what you should do.
  • What Else Can You Do

    Being there for whoever it is grieving a dog that passed away is the most important thing you can do. They will need love and support to get through a very difficult time.

    Talk

    Some people prefer to be alone after losing a beloved pet. But others need friends to talk to.

    Having someone they can reminisce with, remember the good times and talk about how they’re coping is going to be vital to the grieving process.

    Listen

    You should make sure you aren’t talking too much though. Often those grieving need someone to listen as much as talk.

    When dealing with losing someone special to you there can be a lot of mixed emotions. It helps to have someone who will just sit and listen as you try to make sense of what has happened.

    So be that person for whoever is grieving the passing of their dog.

    Offer Support

    If you can then offering to help in some way is a gesture they will greatly appreciate. This could be something like cooking and bringing them food whilst they’re grieving, doing the grocery shopping, helping with the memorial arrangements etc.

    If you offer then this gives them the chance to accept if they want your help or decline if they aren’t comfortable with sharing something that is very personal. But giving them that option is a touching way to really show your support.

    You must be sure you can follow through with anything you offer though. Don’t promise to help in some way then let them down.

    Conclusion

    Hopefully you now feel more prepared and ready with what to say to someone whose dog died. Losing a precious dog is always going to be so hard for the owner but having friends and family there for them will help to get them through the worst.

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    what to say when scattering ashes

    If a loved one has passed away and been cremated then they may have asked for their ashes to be scattered. But many people struggle to know what to say when scattering ashes.

    Fulfilling the request of the deceased is so important to family and friends. And if that is to scatter their ashes then it usually calls for a few words.

    But knowing what to say when scattering someone’s ashes brings with it added treasure. You want to say something profound and that gives them a fitting send off.

    If you’re looking for some ideas of what to say then keep reading. You’ll find examples of things to say when scattering ashes, quotes you can use, prayers and touching poems.

    What to Say When Scattering Ashes

    If you prefer to write or decide what you want to say yourself then the tips below will help you find the right words. Or further down there are examples of what to say you can use or change to fit your circumstances.

    Use their Personal Story

    You can read out a shortened history of the life of the deceased as their ashes are scattered. Mention highlights and achievements they had as well details of their family. This lets those in attendance remember the life of the deceased, all they did with it and to think of them as more than just the ashes they see being spread.

    Share Memories

    Share with others the best memories you have of the deceased. It could be funny stories involving them, times when they showed what a special person they were or just something that stands out to you. But sharing those moments that were important to you and you think represent the deceased is a great way of honoring them as their ashes are scattered.

    Speak from your Heart

    Whatever you choose to say it should come from the heart. You can use the poems and quotes below to help add to what you want to say but the main part of it should be honest and genuine words that come from you.

    Be Mindful of Religion

    If you differ in religion from the deceased then it’s important to consider their and their families religion when you speak. You should keep in mind that what you say could cause offence or go against their beliefs. So consider them before speaking.

    Let Others Talk

    When you are at a scattering of ashes then often multiple people get the chance to speak. If that’s the case then you should try to keep what you say fairly short. You don’t want to hog the limelight or talk for too long so that others don’t get a fair chance to say what they want.

    Practice What You’re Going to Say

    Prepare beforehand. Decide what you’re going to to say and then practice before the scattering. Make sure you read it aloud so you can hear if it sounds right.

    By practicing you will feel more comfortable with it and there’s less chance of forgetting or making a mistake. You may even want to write it down. Definitely don’t go in unprepared though. Trying to come up with something heartfelt and moving on the day is only going to backfire.

    Think About After the Scattering

    It’s understandable to focus on what you will say during or before the scattering. But once the act of scattering the ashes is complete, and it’s something that only takes a short time, you will need to have more to say afterwards. So think beforehand about what you will say after the scattering as well as before.

    Example of What to Say

    This is a sample of the type of thing you could say. Use it as a starting point for choosing what you will say yourself.

    Dear friends and family,

    We come together today to scatter the ashes of [name], say goodbye and remember a wonderful life of a truly special individual.

    [name] leaves behind a legacy of love and happiness, one he/she spread to everyone they met. The warmth and love he/she brought to so many lives will never be forgotten.

    We honor his/her life and everything he/she achieved.

    So please, let us gather round and say farewell for the last time.

    [ashes are scattered]

    [a quote, prayer, poem etc. could be read at this point].

    Goodbye [name]. You will always live on in our hearts.

    Scattering Ashes Quotes

    If you want to include a moving or thoughtful quote in what you say as you scatter ashes then the following quotes

    • “To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” – Thomas Campbell
    • “Every man’s life ends the same way. It is only the details of how he lived and how he died that distinguish one man from another.” – Ernest Hemingway
    • “To us, the ashes of our ancestors are sacred. And their resting place is hallowed ground.” – Chief Seattle
    • “Even death is not to be feared by one who has lived wisely.” – Buddha
    • “Lives are like rivers: Eventually they go where they must. Not where we want them to.” – Richard Russo
    • “Perhaps they are not stars but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones shines down to let us know they are happy.” – Unknown
    • “Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard, but always near. Still loved, still missed and very dear.” – Unknown
    • “In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” – Abraham Lincoln
    • “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” – Alfred Lord Tennyson
    • “Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.” – Amelia Burr

    For more ideas try our A Life Well Lived Quotes, Funeral Quotes and Goodbye Quotes to Say Farewell to a Passed Loved One

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    Scattering Ashes Prayers

    A prayer is also a fitting way to express yourself when spreading someone’s ashes. These prayers are specifically suited to the moment a friend or loved ones ashes are scattered.

    The Lords Prayer

    Our Father, which art in heaven,
Hallowed be thy Name;
Thy kingdom come;
Thy will be done
in earth, as it is in heaven:
Give us this day our daily bread;
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive them that trespass against us;
And lead us not into temptation,
But deliver us from evil;
For thine is the kingdom,
the power, and the glory,
For ever and ever.
Amen

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    For Grief

    When you lose someone you love,
    Your life becomes strange,
    The ground beneath you gets fragile,
    Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
    And some dead echo drags your voice down
    Where words have no confidence.
    Your heart has grown heavy with loss;
    And though this loss has wounded others too,
    No one knows what has been taken from you
    When the silence of absence deepens.

    Flickers of guilt kindle regret
For all that was left unsaid or undone.
    There are days when you wake up happy;
Again inside the fullness of life,
Until the moment breaks
And you are thrown back
Onto the black tide of loss.
    Days when you have your heart back,
You are able to function well
Until in the middle of work or encounter,
Suddenly with no warning,
You are ambushed by grief.
    It becomes hard to trust yourself.
All you can depend on now is that
Sorrow will remain faithful to itself.
More than you, it knows its way
And will find the right time
To pull and pull the rope of grief
Until that coiled hill of tears
Has reduced to its last drop.
    Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
With the invisible form of your departed;
And, when the work of grief is done,
The wound of loss will heal
And you will have learned
To wean your eyes
From that gap in the air
And be able to enter the hearth
In your soul where your loved one
Has awaited your return
All the time.

    By John O’Donohue

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    The Precious Gift

    One gift, above all others,
    God gives to us to treasure.
    One that knows no time,
    no place and one gold cannot measure.
    The precious, poignant, tender gift of memory –
    that will keep our dear ones ever in our hearts
    although God gives them sleep.
    It brings back long remembered things
    a song, a word, a smile and our world’s a better place –
    because we had them for awhile!

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    Ashes to Ashes Dust to Dust

    Forasmuch as it hath pleased almighty God of his great mercy to take unto himself the soul of our dear brother here departed, we, therefore, commit his body to the ground; earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust; in sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life, through our Lord Jesus Christ; who shall change our vile body, that it may be like unto his glorious body, according to the mighty working, whereby he is able to subdue all things to himself.

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    Peace Prayer
    
O God, let the peace of Jesus fill our hearts and this place. As we commit this body to the earth where it came from, let your unconditional love fill our hearts and let the peace that surpasses all understanding be with us to uproot fear and bitterness. Remind us of your great promises about eternal life that we may be strengthened. In Jesus’ name, we believe and pray, Amen.

    Our funeral prayers and prayers for the dead will help you with even more prayers for scattering ashes.

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    Poems to Say When Scattering Ashes

    A moving poem is also very common when scattering ashes. Try one of these poems to send off the deceased as you spread them over a chosen spot.

    An Irish Blessing

    May the road rise up to meet you.
    May the wind be always at your back.
    May the sun shine warm upon your face.
    May the rains fall soft upon your fields.
    And until we meet again,
    may God hold you in the palm of his hand

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    Let Me Go

    When I come to the end of the road 
And the sun has set for me 
I want no rites in a gloom filled room 
Why cry for a soul set free? 
Miss me a little, but not for long 
And not with your head bowed low 
Remember the love that once we shared 
Miss me, but let me go. 
For this is a journey we all must take 
And each must go alone. 
It’s all part of the master plan 
A step on the road to home. 
When you are lonely and sick at heart 
Go the friends we know. 
Laugh at all the things we used to do 
Miss me, but let me go. 
When I am dead my dearest 
Sing no sad songs for me 
Plant thou no roses at my head 
Nor shady cypress tree 
Be the green grass above me 
With showers and dewdrops wet 
And if thou wilt remember 
And if thou wilt, forget. 
I shall not see the shadows, 
I shall not fear the rain; 
I shall not hear the nightingale 
Sing on as if in pain; 
And dreaming through the twilight 
That doth not rise nor set, 
Haply I may remember, 
And haply may forget.

    By Christina Georgina Rossetti

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    A Life Well Lived 

    A life well-lived is a precious gift,
    of hope and strength and grace,
    from someone who has made our world
    a brighter, better place.
    It’s filled with moments sweet and sad,
    with smiles and sometimes tears,
    with friendships formed and good times shared,
    and laughter through the years.
    A life well-lived is a legacy,
    of joy and pride and pleasure,
    a living, lasting memory
    our grateful hearts will treasure.

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    The Star

    A light went out on Earth for me
    The day we said goodbye
    And on that day a star was born,
    The brightest in the sky
    Reaching through the darkness
    With its rays of purest white
    Lighting up the Heavens
    As it once lit up my life
    With beams of love to heal
    The broken heart you left behind
    Where always in my memory
    Your lovely star will shine

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    SEE MORE: Funeral Poems: 45 Beautiful Readings for Memorial Services

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    Bible Verses for Scattering Ashes

    If the deceased had a strong religious faith then an appropriate Bible verse would make a good choice when scattering their ashes.

    • “Behold! I tell you a mystery. We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet.” – Corinthians 15:35-57
    • “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me so that you also may be where I am.” – John 14:1-3
    • “For none of us lives to himself, and none of us dies to himself. For if we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord. So then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s.” – Romans 14:7-8
    • “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” – Matthew 5:4
    • “Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble, and he delivered them from their distress. He brought them out of darkness and the shadow of death, and burst their bonds apart.” – Psalm 107:13-14
    • “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:  a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1-4

    We hope this guide has helped you with what to say when scattering ashes. Speak from the heart and remember all the good the deceased did, use that as an inspiration and whatever you say will be fine.

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    what to say to someone who lost a parent

    Losing anyone from your life is just awful. But when you lose a parent it is like nothing else and utterly heartbreaking.

    So what do you say to someone who lost a parent? How can you hope to offer any comfort through your words after something so tragic.

    It is extremely difficult to find something appropriate to say to those mourning the death a parent. If you are going to reach out it’s important that you say the right thing and don’t cause any extra upset whilst they are grieving.

    So if you’re struggling then the tips and examples here should help you to find the right words and offer your support when they need it most.

    What to Say to Someone Who Lost a Parent

    What you say to those grieving a lost mother or father should try to bring them some comfort. That’s definitely not easy but can be as something as simple as “I’m sorry for your loss”, “my deepest condolences” or “you’re in my prayers”.

    Those are fairly generic but they show whoever is mourning that you are thinking of them. You can say more though, perhaps sharing memories and stories of the deceased and letting the family and loved ones know just how special they were to you.

    So if you want to say something more, maybe more personal and with greater feeling then the following tips should help.

    Accept Their Grief

    The first thing you should do is recognize and acknowledge their loss and how painful it is to them. Your goal shouldn’t be to cheer them up but rather to be there for them as they grieve.

    That means avoid some of the cliches that people often say after someone has passed away like “they’re in a better place now” or “it was God’s plan”. These don’t help whoever has lost a parent and could make them feel worse.

    Also whilst you might have experienced a loss, perhaps even your parent or parents, the way we each deal with and feel grief after losing someone differs. That’s why it’s best not compare your situations or explain that you know how they feel.

    It’s much better to just accept their grief and offer your condolences. Be as warm and genuine as you can. Say something like:

    • I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. I’m always here if you need me.
    • My deepest condolences for your loss.
    • I can’t begin to understand how difficult this is for you. Please accept my sincerest sympathy.
    • Take as long as you need. It’s fine to need time to get through losing someone so important to you.
    • May you be comforted by those closest to you as you mourn the loss of your parent.

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    Reassure Them

    Being there for anyone who has suffered the loss of a loved one, be it a parent or someone else, is the most important thing. You should reassure them they aren’t alone and you are there for them.

    One of the best ways to do this is to offer your company and support. But don’t put the onus on them to ask you. Those grieving can find it difficult to reach out when they need help.

    So instead try saying something like the following examples. Although you should never offer any help that you can’t definitely come through on. Being promised something and then let down will only make them feel worse.

    • I’ll give you a call next week to check in and see how you’re doing.
    • This weekend I can come over and stay for a few days if you need the company or help.
    • I’m here if you need to talk or someone to listen. I’m always available.
    • I’m going to call you later and we can have a chat about anything you want.
    • Let’s pop out for a quiet coffee this week.

    Share Memories

    When you share memories of the deceased it can help those grieving to remember the good times. Celebrating all they did, what they achieved and the positive influence they had on your life will help them to focus on the joy of having had them rather than the pain of losing them.

    You don’t have to make what you say or the memory you talk about too long. But something that will make them smile or remember the deceased in the best way.

    Offer Support

    Quite often people grieving a loss need actual help as well as kind words. That’s why if you can then offer to do something for them while they deal with their grief.

    It could be something as simple as doing some cooking for them, offering to do their grocery shopping, looking after their children etc. Anything that helps reduce some of the strain on them.

    Listen

    Sometimes it’s not what you say but what you don’t say. Listening is just as important as offering comfort and support.

    Those grieving a lost parent might want to talk or get how they’re feeling off their chest. Talking things through can help to make sense of what has happened or just be a relief and feeling like an unburdening.

    So make sure you give them time to talk and listen to what they say as much as you can.

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    Comforting Words for Someone Who Lost a Parent

    These examples should help if you’re not sure what to say after someone has lost a parent

    • I’m so very sorry for your loss. If there’s anything you need you know I’m always here for you.
    • My most heartfelt and deepest condolences. Losing a parent is utterly devastating and I’m so sorry you’re having to go through it.
    • To lost someone so special is tragic and you have all my sympathy and love.
    • May the amazing memories you have of your mom/dad bring you some comfort during this awful time.
    • My words can do little in circumstances like this but please know I’m thinking of you.
    • We are praying for you and your family. Stay strong.
    • I hope you can find strength with friends and family to get through the grief of losing a parent.
    • I am sending my most my heartfelt condolences for your loss.

    For Loss of Mother

    • My heart goes out to you. Your mother was a truly special woman who will be sorely missed. May her memory be a blessing.
    • I feel lucky to have known your mom and just how wonderful she was. I’m so sorry she is gone and am always here to help with whatever you might need.
    • No one was as amazing as your mom. She had such a loving and kind nature that made everyone feel special. If you need support or a shoulder to cry on then don’t hesitate to get in touch.
    • I know how close you and your mom were and so how devastating this must be for you. Please accept my deepest condolences and know I’m thinking of you.
    • I never got the chance to meet your mom but you spoke so highly and often of her that I feel like I did. She must have been such a brilliant mother. I’m very sorry you’ve lost her.

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    For Loss of Father

    • My thoughts and prayers go out to you. Your dad was an incredible man who loved you more than words could ever say. He will be greatly missed. My condolences.
    • No one could make me laugh as much as your dad. He was hilarious and he loved you so much. May the treasured memories you have of him bring you some comfort amidst the pain.
    • I am so sorry your father passed away. His warmth and generosity will be missed by everyone who was fortunate enough to know him. May he rest in peace.
    • I know that whatever I say could never make up for your dads passing but I am here for you if you need me. Whether it’s someone to talk to or just listen I can always be there for you.
    • I have such fond memories of your dad and how much fun he was. I can’t begin to understand how hard it must be for you. Please know I’m here and that I’m thinking of you.

    How to Comfort Someone Via Text Who Lost a Parent

    A condolence text message will be much shorter than what you say in person or write in a card. Try these examples if you’re not sure:

    • My condolences for the loss of your mom/dad.
    • Sending my sympathy for your loss. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.
    • I wish I could say more but please know I’m thinking of you.
    • I hope you you find the strength needed to get through. My condolences.
    • Sending you loving thoughts. Reach out if you need me.
    • I’m so sorry about your mom. I’m always here.
    • My heart us breaking for you. Stay strong.
    • You’re not alone and we will be here for you.

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    What do you Say to Someone Who Lost a Parent they Weren’t Close to?

    Sometimes parents and their children are estranged. So how you offer your condolences and what you say to someone who lost a parent they weren’t close to will be different.

    • I know you weren’t close to your mom but I’m still very sorry for your loss.
    • Even though you were estranged from your dad I understand it must still be a shock to lose him. My condolences.
    • I’m really sorry to hear about your mother. I’m not sure how you’re feeling but if you need to talk I’m right here.
    • I’m thinking of you as you go through such a difficult moment.
    • This must be a difficult and strange time for you. Your mother, even an estranged one, is still your mother. My sympathy for your loss.
    • I hope you find some peace after losing your father, however far apart you were.
    • Whatever I say won’t help but please know I’m just a phone call away.
    • Sending my condolences for the loss of your mother/father. You may not have been close anymore but to lose someone that important is always going to be a real shock.

    What to Say to Someone Whose Parent Has Died

    Hopefully the examples and tips you’ve found here have helped you to comfort a friend or loved one that has lost a parent. Finding the right words is never easy but you should try not to feel too much pressure.

    While it’s understandable to want what you say to someone who has lost a parent to be right as long as you are honest and speak from the heart they will appreciate you making the effort.

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    what to say to someone who is dying

    Knowing what to say to someone who is dying is extremely difficult. The last thing you want to do is say the wrong thing and upset them or cause offence.

    We tend to find talking about death uncomfortable. But when you find yourself talking to someone who is dying it’s easy to be anxious about getting it wrong.

    This in turn can lead your conversation to be stilted and awkward. That’s if you even have the confidence to begin talking to them (many people don’t feel able to).

    If you’re struggling with what to say to someone dying and are worried about saying the wrong thing and embarrassing yourself then the following advice should help.

    Whilst everyone is different and you can’t be sure they will respond positively to what you say there are certain things you can focus on that should work.

    So we will look at what you should and shouldn’t say to those dying, both in hospital and out, as well as in a card and how to comfort them if they’re scared.

    What to Say to Someone Who is Dying

    The following tips will help you with what to talk about with someone who is dying and how to do so without it being uncomfortable. After that there will be examples of what to say that you can use to help start a conversation.

    READ MORE: What to Say to Someone in Hospice: Comforting Words and Messages

    Start the Conversation

    Taking that first step can be the hardest part. But it’s important to get over any anxiety you have and just talk to them.

    You should always do so with care and understanding though. Try these tips for what to talk about at first and things you should try to remember to bring up:

    • Begin by talking to them in the way you usually would. They aren’t going to want special treatment or you to communicate in a different way. Ask them about their day, let them talk about how they’re feeling etc.
    • You could also ask them if there are topics or things they want to talk about. Let them be the one who decides where the conversation will go.
    • Ask them if there is anything you can do specifically for them or that they need.
    • Offer them reassurance if they’re feeling anxious or scared and let them know you’re here for them. Make it clear you’ll continue to be there with them throughout and that they aren’t alone.
    • If you can then ask what help they need. They may entrust to you plans they have or wishes for after they’ve gone.

    Follow their Lead

    When talking to someone who is dying it’s important to listen carefully. You need to pick up on what they are and aren’t comfortable talking about.

    Some people will be happy to go straight into talking about death and their own mortality without hesitation. If that’s the case then you can discuss it freely with them, albeit still with a degree of care.

    But if they aren’t talking about it that doesn’t mean they don’t want to. It may just mean they aren’t sure how to approach it or they’re aware that it might make others feel uncomfortable.

    That’s why you need to listen carefully and look out for any cues or signs they would like to talk about dying. If the conversation drifts into talking about their death indirectly – things like them not being around forever, their symptoms, how they’re feeling – this could be a sign they are looking to talk about dying.

    If so then approach it gently and ask them some questions to get a better idea of what they would like to touch on.

    But remember that some people will never feel comfortable talking about dying. So don’t push and let the conversation be guided by them.

    Be Honest and Clear

    There are some people who when they are facing the end of their life prefer not to talk about it. Even as they approach the end they still prefer not to dwell on or talk about the specifics of their death.

    And if that’s their choice then you should respect and honor it.

    But many people are happy and want to talk about death. It’s better to acknowledge that and discuss things openly and honestly with them. Avoiding doing so could lead to them feeling as if they’re being treated like a child or they’re not able to cope with talking about it.

    Instead wait for them to bring up their mortality in some form – via their symptoms, wondering about what death will be like, the afterlife etc. – and then try to engage with them. Don’t skirt around issues even if you feel uncomfortable talking about them.

    If they ask a direct question or want to talk in very direct terms then let them. Try things like:

    • “You can tell me about what you’re experiencing.”
    • “Are you afraid? You can talk to me about it.”
    • “How are you feeling?”
    • “What do you think is happening?”

    Make it About Them

    Even though you might be finding it hard dealing with their upcoming death you should be focusing on what they need. Don’t talk or only think of yourself.

    Ask them what they want and need in every regard. Do they want other people to visit? Would they actually prefer to have fewer at a time?

    Can you get them anything? Maybe a special item or memento they don’t want to be without.

    So focus on making sure they are as comfortable as possible. Your support in the regard will be greatly appreciated and let them feel in greater control of what is happening.

    Make your Peace With Them

    If you had any regrets or disagreements with whoever is dying that are on ongoing or haven’t been resolved then now is the time to put them aside. You can even apologize if you feel bad for something you’ve done and ask for forgiveness.

    This could lead to a deeper conversation that enables you both to share things you might not have in other circumstances. An impending death has a way of making you realize the things that seemed important were mere trivialities.

    Don’t be Afraid to Laugh

    A loved one who is dying is obviously an extremely sad and difficult time. But that doesn’t mean they want to spend their last few days/weeks/months in misery and feeling sorry for themselves.

    Laughter is important. And you can still laugh even when you’re nearing the end of your life.

    So don’t be afraid to have a joke with whoever it is and share in some laughter. Funny stories or hilarious moments from your past are a great way to remember better times and laugh together.

    Be Reassuring

    Being there to reassure someone that is nearing the end of their life is essential. Fear of what is to come will be a big part of how they are feeling so offering reassurance through what you say should be at the front of your mind when you talk to them.

    Make your words comforting and do all you can to keep them feeling relaxed. That might include reassuring them about family members and loved ones after they’re gone.

    Say “I Love You”

    For some people this can be difficult to say but there is no better time. Even if you’ve said it a a thousand times before it’s going to mean even more now.

    And if you haven’t said “I love you” before to the person dying or don’t feel comfortable doing so then you should try to overcome it. You won’t get another chance and will regret not doing so once they are gone.

    Say “Thank You”

    When you are facing the end of your life it can help to know that you were appreciated and made a difference. That’s why you should make time to say “thank you” for everything they have done and for being such an important part of your life.

    There might be specific events or reasons that you can talk about and be thankful for. Or just say thanks in general for being such a wonderful friend/family member.

    To be loved and remembered is all many of us wish for once we are gone. So it will provide them with some comfort amongst the other emotions they are experiencing.

    Reminisce With Them

    Remembering the good times you spent with loved ones and looking back on accomplishments and experiences of your life is important to those facing death. So it’s a good idea to reminisce with and allow them the chance to remember those special moments.

    Sharing anecdotes and stories is a good way to take a happy trip a trip down memory lane. So encourage them to be open and share whatever memories they want to.

    Try asking “what are some of your favorite memories” or “which were the experiences you remember most fondly?”.

    Use Touch

    Words and talking are vital when someone is dying but physical touch shouldn’t be ignored. There is nothing quite like holding someone’s hand to provide comfort when distressed or afraid.

    Try various different forms of contact whilst you’re talking to them: hand holding or a hand placed on theirs, a hand on the shoulder or rubbing their back.

    Keep doing this even if they are unresponsive or unable to respond as your words will still be heard and your touch will be felt.

    Say Goodbye

    When someone is nearing the end of their life it’s good to keep in mind that each time you say goodbye it could be the last. Which makes saying it even more important.

    So every time you part be sure to end your conversation with a proper, meaningful goodbye. One that if it were to be your last you both would be happy with and that would have shown just how much you cared for each other.

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    What to Say to Someone Who is Dying Soon

    When someone is going to pass away soon what you talk about may be quite different to those with longer time left. Some of the advice above is appropriate for anyone who is dying, regardless of how near it is.

    But these few extra tips may help when talking to someone who is close to the end.

    • Accept that they’re not going to make a recovery. It’s better to be honest about the situation and face up to it.
    • Reassure them that their loved ones will be ok after they have gone.
    • If you can then inject some humor into your conversation. It won’t be easy but they won’t want to focus only on the negative and depressing aspects of what’s happening and will appreciate a little light relief.
    • Talk about their legacy and all they achieved. Make them remember the amazing life they’ve lead, what good they leave behind and the positive impact on others lives they’ve had.

    What to Say to Someone Who is Dying and Scared

    It’s important to be reassuring and comforting when talking to anyone who is dying. But especially when someone is visibly frightened of dying and death.

    It’s completely understandable to be afraid when facing the end of your life.

    Reassure Them About Pain

    One of the main reasons for the fear of dying is the possibility of pain. Thankfully pain relief and management is a part of terminal care by hospitals.

    So if whoever you’re talking to is worried about experiencing pain you can let them know they won’t have to (unless they choose to forego the pain relief).

    Be With Them

    The fear of death can be less about the death itself and more about being alone as it happens. Facing something so unknown without anyone by your side is bound to cause anxiety.

    So visit often and get others to visit too (although don’t exhaust them with too many people). Reassure them that you will be there throughout and will guarantee that someone will be with them whenever they want or need it.

    Comfort Them About Their Loved One’s

    Often it’s fear of how family and loved ones will cope and deal with death rather than the passing away itself. That worry about what will happen to your family after your gone and who will look after them.

    So it’s important for someone to reassure them that their family will be fine, will be looked after and that it’s not something they need to be worried about. You can even talk to them about what they would like to happen after their gone in relation to their family and maybe plan something out.

    Explain Their Legacy

    Some people worry they’ve lead a pointless life. Or one where they didn’t achieve enough.

    So let them know just how special they were to you and others. Go through their achievements and remind them of everything they have done throughout their life.

    What to Say to Someone Who is Dying and Unconscious

    The person you talk to who is dying might be in a coma or unconscious because of the severity of medication. So how do you approach talking to them?

    It’s quite possible that whatever you say may be heard even if they can’t communicate. So it’s recommended that you talk to them as normally as you can.

    Go through your day, things you think would interest them, events that have taken place etc. Incorporate touch as well – hold their hand or brush their hair.

    It’s also recommended that you engage their senses so bring in their favorite music or flowers they really loved the smell of.

    What to Say to Someone Who is Dying from Cancer

    Cancer is one of the biggest killers and affects very many of us. When talking to someone dying of cancer much of the advice already recommend here will apply.

    But also don’t be afraid of not knowing what to say. They will understand this if difficult for you too.

    Instead let them talk and try to listen as much as possible. Quite often those dying will have a lot on their mind and will appreciate those who just sit and listen as they work through it.

    READ MORE: Encouraging Sympathy Messages for a Cancer Diagnosis

    What Not to Say to Someone Who is Dying

    Understandably you want to avoid saying the wrong thing and potentially making them feel worse. While you should judge each situation individually there are a few things it’s always best to steer clear of talking about:

    • Religion – this is always a tricky one so unless you’re absolutely sure about their religious beliefs it’s best to avoid it.
    • Make it About Yourself – losing a loved one is so heartbreaking. But you shouldn’t make their dying about you. As hard as you’re finding it that doesn’t compare to what they’re going through.
    • Push your Feelings About Death – even if you have very strong views or opinions on death it’s best not to get into them at this time.
    • End of Life Plans – yes, it’s important to discuss them but let them lead the way. Don’t push to talk about their plans for after they’ve passed away if they aren’t ready.
    • Compare How You Would Feel – it’s very insensitive to talk about how you would feel or cope if you were in their position.

    How to Write to Someone Who is Dying

    If you can’t visit the person dying to talk to them in person you could write them a letter or card.

    • If you haven’t been in contact with whoever is terminally ill then maybe ask someone who has how they are feeling. You want to get some idea of their state of kind before writing anything so you can avoid saying the wrong thing.
    • You don’t have to mention or be too specific about their condition. Just a friendly letter from you will likely lift their spirits.
    • If you can find a way to inject some humor into your writing then do so. A joke that you share or funny story will be a welcome change for them.
    • Don’t be too sentimental. This can make them feel worse and only increase their sadness at what is happening.

    What to Write to Someone Who is Dying from Cancer

    It’s probably better to write a shorter letter or note rather than a longer one. Cancer and the treatment or medications can lead to fatigue so the recipient may not want to read something too lengthy.

    Don’t focus on the negatives in what you write. Stay as upbeat as you can and talk to them like you normally would.

    Tell them you’re thinking of them and how much you care. Be honest and speak from the heart.

    Whatever you decide to write it will be difficult. Sending a letter to a loved one who is terminally unwell is always going ti be emotional. But they will appreciate you rescuing out at such an incredibly tough time for them.

    Conclusion

    Finding what to say to someone who is dying is so tough and requires tact and sensitivity. Hopefully the tips provided here will have helped you feel more comfortable when talking to someone who is dying and let you communicate with them properly before they pass away.

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    what to say to someone going to a funeral

    Knowing what to say to someone going to a funeral may seem difficult at first but it doesn’t have to be. When someone is attending a funeral it can cause strong emotions.

    Funerals are when we remember and say goodbye to our loved ones. This can be difficult for many people, so keep that in mind when they’re about to attend a memorial.

    This means finding the right words to say to someone before they go to a funeral and offering your support is important. For those attending knowing that friends and family are there to help them get through such a tough event is only going to make it easier.

    So if you know someone attending a funeral then use this guide to find exactly what to say to them. The encouraging words to say on the day of a funeral below should help you to offer support and comfort to whoever is it attending the memorial.

    What to Say to Someone Going to a Funeral

    Make it clear from your words that you are there for whoever it is going to a funeral. Offer your support and understand that it will be very difficult for them whatever you say. Just be there for them when and if they need you.

    • This must be really difficult for you but I’m here if you want to talk.
    • If you need some support or want to be with someone after the funeral give me a call.
    • I hope you find the strength to get through the funeral and it brings some closure.
    • This must be so hard for you but know that we are all here for you if you need us.
    • May you never forget [deceased’s name] and that their memories live on. All the best for the funeral.
    • I’m deeply sorry you’re having to face going to a funeral soon. My condolences and thoughts are with you.
    • Thinking of you today and sending hugs.
    • May you get through today and begin to heal.
    • Sending my love and thoughts for today and hoping you cope with the grief.
    • I will be thinking of and praying for you on such a hard day.

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    What to Text Someone on the Day of Funeral

    Sometimes all you can do is send a text message to someone before a funeral rather than talk to them in person. If so then these example messages should help with what to say.

    • My thoughts are with you and your family.
    • Thinking of you today and here if you need me.
    • Good luck today and I hope it goes as well as it can.
    • Stay strong and know I’m always here for you.
    • Wishing you strength to get through today.
    • I will be praying and thinking of you.
    • I hope you get through today as best as you can.
    • With loving thoughts on such a difficult day.

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    What to Say to a Friend Attending a Funeral

    A close friend will be expecting your support more than acquaintances. When it comes to friends you should show them just how you will be by their side and there for them during such a difficult time.

    • I’m so sorry for your loss. Your mom was such an incredible woman and she will be missed by so many. May her funeral be the perfect way to say goodbye.
    • The memories of your father will never fade. May he be with you always. I hope he has the send off he deserves.
    • Today is going to be unbearably tough but you know I’ll be with you, no matter what. I’m by your side and together we’ll get through it.
    • I’m going to miss your brother so much. He was a great guy and always made me laugh. May he rest in peace and his funeral be a fitting tribute to his memory.
    • Your grandmother was a woman of such kindness and love. Today will be a day of sadness and I hope you have the strength to get through it.
    • If you’d like to stay with me tonight or have someone to talk to tomorrow then I will always be there for you.
    • I will forever remember your dad and his practical jokes. He was a one in a million and can never be replaced. I hope that his funeral isn’t too tough for you. I’ll be thinking of you.
    • No one could ever forget your uncle – he was such a character. May he rest in peace and we will all miss him.
    • Everyone who knew your aunt thought she was the most amazing woman. Losing her must have been so hard. May today be one filled with her memories and not the grief of her passing.
    • If you need someone to support you through this time I’m by your side.

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    What to Say to a Coworker Going to a Funeral

    When it’s a colleague or boss that is going to a funeral it’s still a good idea to offer a few words. You obviously shouldn’t speak in the personal way you would with a close friend or family member. But just a simple message to acknowledge how attending a funeral is tough.

    • We may not be that close but I understand how hard a funeral can be. I’m sorry for your loss.
    • Don’t concern yourself with work, I’ll make sure I cover for you. All the best for the funeral.
    • I didn’t know [name of the deceased] but I saw how close you were and I’m very sorry for your loss.
    • I’ve attended funerals before and understand the turmoil they cause. I’ll be thinking of you and hoping it goes well.
    • Very sorry to learn of your loss. Take all the time you need today at the funeral and beyond.
    • I was lucky to meet your mom a few times and she was a lovely lady. My condolences and wishing you the best for the funeral.
    • My sympathy for your loss and all you’re having to go through.
    • I’m really sorry and thinking of you as you attend the memorial.
    • If you need someone to talk to or listen I’m here.
    • At times like this it puts our work in to perspective. My condolences for the funeral.

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    What Not to Say to Someone Going to a Funeral

    When someone is attending a funeral there are certain things you should avoid saying. Try to be mindful of how difficult this is for those in mourning and remember their is etiquette around what you should and shouldn’t say.

    The following examples are just a few ideas of what not to say to someone attending a funeral:

    • At least [name] is in a better place now.
    • It was God’s plan.
    • Everything happens for a reason.
    • I understand what you’re going through
    • With time you will feel better, just give it time.
    • It’s been a while now, try to move on.
    • They led a full life.
    • Keep busy and it’ll take your mind off of it.
    • It’s good they are no longer suffering.
    • I’m sure they wouldn’t want you crying over them.

    Don’t Compare Your Experiences

    It’s understandable to want to share your own experiences with loss and grief. While some will find this helpful and let them see others have gone through similar not everyone responds well to it.

    It can come across as like you’re downplaying their grief or experience and making it about yourself, however unintentional. So it’s probably best to avoid sharing too many details of you’re own experiences of funerals.

    Don’t Put a Positive Spin on it

    As much as you want to help and make whoever is grieving feel better it’s important to let it happen naturally. You can’t find the positives in losing a loved one because there aren’t any.

    So don’t look for the good in this situation, just let them grieve and mourn. Being there for them as they do and offering support is the best way you can help.

    It Doesn’t Have to be Words

    Sometimes silence or listening is as helpful as what you say. Making an effort to be with them and maybe a physical gesture like an arm around them or hug can be as comforting as kind words.

    So don’t feel like you absolutely have to say anything.

    What You Can Do to Support Them

    Words can only do so much. If you really want to help them there are some extra things you can do.

    Drive Them to the Funeral

    If you can then offering to drive them to the funeral is a gesture they will definitely appreciate. It gives them more time to prepare and get comfortable with the idea of attending the funeral.

    See Them Afterwards

    For some people it’s how they feel after the funeral that is the hardest to deal with. So make sure you let them know you’re available to talk or be with with them once the funeral is over.

    Offer to Help

    You can offer some practical help like looking after their kids or cooking food for them on the day to make everything a little easier. Anything that reduces the stress on the day of the funeral will help.

    We hope these funeral day messages have helped you when choosing what to say to someone going to a funeral.