Losing someone you love is hard enough without everything you have to take care of afterwards. Once the funeral is done you will probably start thinking about all the people who helped you get through it – and those who served as pallbearers deserve a special thank you. Being a pallbearer is an honor but … Read more
There is no loss quite like it. A parent is never meant to outlive their child. And when someone loses a son the grief is going to be more than most of us can ever really understand. I’ve unfortunately had to find the words more than once for a friend in this situation and felt … Read more
Being asked to say a few words at the graveside is daunting. It’s not quite the same as a eulogy. The eulogy usually comes earlier and inside the church or at the service. It’s also generally longer. The graveside speech is shorter. It’s the final words that are spoken as your loved one is laid … Read more
Picking a reading for a funeral isn’t as easy as you might first think. You want reading that fits with the person whose funeral it is and that reflects them. If needs to be work when read out lot and doesn’t fall flat to a quiet room full of people who loved them. From the … Read more
Losing a grandmother means losing someone uniquely special from your life. For many of us a grandmother is incredibly important and a treasured family member. When someone you care about loses their grandma you want to say something that shows you care. But it’s hard to know where to start. You want to offer your … Read more
There’s something about a grandfather that’s hard to put into words. When my grandfather passed away it left a hole in my world that will never be filled. So when someone you care about loses their grandfather you already know it’s a big deal. Even if the rest of the world is only treating it … Read more
Picking the hymns for a funeral is never easy. It doesn’t help that there are so many of them. Many of which you’ll probably only remember from a wedding or maybe school. And the rest you’ve never heard of. But it matters more than people let on. The right hymn can hold a room together. … Read more
Writing a celebration of life speech is hard. It’s not the kind of hard where you just need a good template and you’re done. It’s going to be something that you struggle with and can’t find the right words for because nothing you say feels like it’s good enough. If that’s where you are right … Read more
Choosing the music for a funeral a job that may feel like it shouldn’t be difficult. But when you come to do it you’ll probably find it’s a lot harder than you first thought. You might find yourself wondering how on earth one song is supposed to hold everything a person was. It’s something I … Read more
Your pastor is probably a lot more than the just that person who stands at the pulpit on Sunday morning. Pastors are people we look to for comfort, wisdom and more. They help get us through the hardest times, pray for and with us and are there so we never have to feel alone. For … Read more