sympathy messages for loss of ex husband

When someone loses an ex husband it can be a strange time. Although they may be separated there will still be a lot of feelings left over.

When you’ve been married to someone you don’t just stop loving or feeling affection towards them overnight. Even if years have passed since a divorce their death will still cause great hurt and sadness to their ex wife.

So if you know someone that has lost their ex husband then you may be thinking of reaching out with your condolences. But it can be hard to know how to approach it. What do you say to someone who lost an ex husband?

With the loss of a husband it is more straightforward. But how you say sorry for your loss to someone after the death of a ex husband can be tricky.

So if you’re struggling then use these example sympathy messages to help you

Sympathy Messages for Loss of Ex Husband


I’m very sorry for the loss of your ex husband. You will be in my thoughts


My condolences for your loss. When an ex passes away it can bring about confusing emotions. I hope you’re coping and have friends and family around you for support


I was really saddened to hear of your ex husbands death. He was a good man. May he rest in peace


I know you and your ex had your issues but I can only imagine how hard it is for you to lose someone you were so close to. My condolences


My deepest condolences for the loss of your ex. May you always have found memories of him


You have our sincerest sympathy after such a shocking loss. You will be in all our thoughts and prayers


To lose an ex is such a shock. I know you weren’t close anymore but it must still be very upsetting. I’m really sorry and hope you’re coping


I know that you and your ex husband didn’t part ways on the best of terms but it must still be deeply shocking to have lost him. I’m sending my love and sympathy to you

sorry for loss of ex husband


If you need anyone to talk to or just listen then you know I’m here for you. I’m so sorry for your loss


We will be remembering your ex husband today and how although you drifted apart he was a really good man. May he rest in peace


To lose someone that meant so much to you, even if it were a long time ago, is very sad. My most heartfelt condolences for your loss


Even if your love didn’t last your ex husband was such a big part of your life. I hope you’re feeling ok and have friends and family around for comfort


During such a terrible time try to remember the good memories you have and what a wonderful person your ex husband was. My condolences


My sincerest condolences for your loss. I’m always here if you need anything or someone to talk to


My deepest sympathy for your tragic loss. May warm memories bring you comfort through the difficult days ahead


I wish there I was more I could say to help but please know I’m thinking of you and sending all my love for you to get through losing someone so important

Condolence Messages for Death of an Ex Husband


I was lucky enough to know your ex and he was such a funny guy. I will really miss him. My condolences


I’m so saddened by ______’s passing. He was a generous and kind man who you could always rely on. I hope it hasn’t hit you too hard and you’re getting by. All my love


Your ex husband will leave a big whole in many lives. He can’t be replaced and it’s with such sadness we learnt of his death. I’m very sorry


You have all my sympathy after losing someone who was such an important part of your life. My condolences and thoughts are with you


I will be praying for you and hoping that you can find some peace after the sad news of your ex husband. May his memory forever be a blessing


I wish my words could do more to ease your pain and make things better, but all I can do is offer my condolences for your loss and let you know I’m always here if you need someone

condolence message for loss of ex husband


We should do all we can to remember what a wonderful person your ex husband was. He may be gone but his spirit will live on through us. My condolences


Sending my love and best wishes for you get through a difficult moment. Losing someone who you were so close to is always hard and I will be thinking of you and your family


I will always remember ______ as a warm and special man who made everyone feel welcome. He really was a gentleman and I am very sorry to learn he has passed away


You have my deepest sympathy for your loss. May you find peace and comfort amongst loved ones


I can’t begin to understand how hard a time this must be for you but I hope these few words will let you know there your friends are there for you should you need them


May the amazing memories you gave help to ease your suffering after the shock of your exes passing. My heart goes out to you


I will be there to support you all the way as you grieve the loss of your ex husband. At every step I will be by your side. All my love


My condolences and sympathy for your loss. Although your ex was your ex for a reason I know you shared a bond and connection that can never be truly broken. I hope you’re not too affected by his passing and wish you love and peace for the coming days


I am heartbroken by the news of your ex husbands death. As you mourn his passing I hope you will be surrounded by those who love you most and will provide the shoulder to lean on when it all gets too much. My deepest sympathy

Hopefully these example sympathy messages for an ex husband will have helped you to reach out to whoever it is that is grieving their loss.

Be respectful and kind when offering your condolences. Whilst an ex husband means they were no longer together that doesn’t mean they won’t feel strong grief and pain at losing someone who was at one point an incredibly special person to them.

sympathy messages for loss of ex husband

Letting go quotes

When we lose a loved one, be that a family member, close friend or pet, it’s so hard to say goodbye. But at some point we have to accept they’re gone and let go.

Letting go may seem like you’re giving up on that person or their memory. But nothing could be further from the truth.

It doesn’t help to be stuck grieving or mourning their loss. They wouldn’t want your life to stop or be limited because of their memory.

Yes, grieving and missing them is perfectly normal. And that can last a while. But it’s also normal to reach a point where you accept someone is gone and let go of the continued grief.

That doesn’t mean you aren’t sad about their loss. Nor does it mean your grief instantly stops. But it marks a shift whereby the pain that has been so overwhelming and hard to cope with begins to ease. You see there is life after death.

And so in order to help you get to that point we’ve put together this list of the best letting go quotes and sayings. Hopefully they will help you to let go of whoever you’re holding onto and allow you to begin moving on with your life whilst still remembering how special that person was.

Short Letting Go Quotes

the hardest part is starting over quote

“Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over” – Nicole Sobon

learn to move on quote

“Time doesn’t heal emotional pain, you need to learn how to let go” – Roy T. Bennett

embrace pain for fuel for our journey quote

“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey” – Kenji Miyazawa

Forget what hurt you but not what it taught you quote

“Forget what hurt you but never forget what it taught you” – Shannon L. Alder

knowing there's a future letting go quote

“Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future” – Daphne Rose Kingma

broken hearts make you strong quote

“Broken hearts hurt but they will make you strong” – Unknown

understanding to let go quote

“You don’t need strength to let go of something. What you really need is understanding” – Guy Finley

Life moves on and so should we moving on quote

“Life moves on and so should we” – Spencer Johnson

life moves forward quote

“Life moves forward. The old leaves wither, die and fall away, and the new growth extends forward into the light” – Bryant McGill

pain will leave when you let go quote

“Pain will leave you when you let go” – Jeremy Aldana

unable are the loved to die quote

“Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality” – Emily Dickinson

the beauty remains letting go quote

“The pain passes, but the beauty remains” – Pierre Auguste Renoir

“Thank God I found the GOOD in goodbye” – Beyonce Knowles

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Letting Go of a Loved One

  • “I just wanted to tell you that I understand if you go. It’s okay if you have to leave us. It’s okay if you want to stop fighting” – Gayle Forman
  • “When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight” – Kahlil Gibran
  • “When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure” – Unknown
  • “If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them” – The Crow
  • “Grieving is a necessary passage and a difficult transition to finally letting go of sorrow – it is not a permanent rest stop” – Dodinsky
  • “Grief is the price we pay for love” – Queen Elizabeth II
  • “Tears have a wisdom all their own. They come when a person has relaxed enough to let go and to work through his sorrow. They are the natural bleeding of an emotional wound, carrying the poison out of the system. Here lies the road to recovery” – F. Alexander Magoun
  • “We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us” – Joseph Campbell
  • “Love is stronger than death even though it can’t stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries it can’t separate people from love. It can’t take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death” – Unknown
  • “You don’t go around grieving all the time, but the grief is still there and always will be” – Nigella Lawson
  • “I still miss those I loved who are no longer with me but I find I am grateful for having loved them. The gratitude has finally conquered the loss” – Rita Mae Brown
  • “By accepting the process of letting go, we make people and things that we can’t stay with forever a part of our history” – Dr Prem Jagyasi
  • “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself” – Deborah Reber
  • “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward” – Steve Maraboli

you come through letting go quote

Sad Letting Go Quotes

  • “Some things in life cannot be fixed. They can only be carried” – Megan Devine
  • “You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly – that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp” – Anne Lamott
  • “The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you’ll learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
  • “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Unknown
  • “It takes strength to make your way through grief, to grab hold of life and let it pull you forward” – Patti Davis
  • “Everything that has a beginning has an ending. Make your peace with that and all will be well” – Buddhist saying
  • I know in my head that she has gone. The only difference is that I am getting used to the pain. It’s like discovering a great hole in the ground. To begin with, you forget it’s there and keep falling in. After a while, it’s still there, but you learn to walk round it” – Rachel Joyce
  • “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen” – Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
  • “The melody that the loved one played upon the piano of your life will never be played quite that way again, but we must not close the keyboard and allow the instrument to gather dust. We must seek out other artists of the spirit, new friends who gradually will help us to find the road to life again, who will walk the road with us” – Joshua Loth Liebman
  • “We must know the pain of loss; because if we never knew it, we would have no compassion for others, and we would become monsters of self-regard, creatures of unalloyed self-interest. The terrible pain of loss teaches humility to our prideful kind, has the power to soften uncaring hearts, to make a better person of a good one” – Dean Koontz

We hope these letting go quotes will have helped you to let go of after the death of loved one and realise it’s ok to move on.

Although it can seem like you never will get over losing someone so special with time we all find that we are able to let go of and say goodbye to those we loved dearly. That doesn’t mean we forget them – they will stay with us forever – but allows us to continue our lives with their memories always with close by.

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what to say to someone who is grieving

When someone you know suffers a loss you may want to reach out or talk to them. Offering condolences for a loss is a kind and natural reaction. But there’s a good chance you’ve hesitated before saying anything and thought “what to say to someone grieving?”.

Don’t worry. You’re definitely not alone. Knowing what to say when someone has died isn’t something you just have built in.

It can be so difficult trying to find the perfect words to comfort those grieving. So much so many will actually avoid doing so.

It’s not uncommon to see people do all they can to steer clear of what is an uncomfortable conversation. (It’s well established we find others grieving uncomfortable). Or with little empathy who will just say anything without caring how it sounds or the effect it has on those mourning a loss.

The fact that you’re reading this shows you’ve gone to the trouble of trying to say the right thing and avoid the wrong things that may cause more upset.

That’s good!

But everyone will respond to and need different things to help them when dealing with a loss.

So what we write or say when someone is grieving needs to take that into account. Think of the type of person they are, how they lost their loved one, what you know they like and dislike.

There are however some well known things you can say that should help to offer comfort and express your sympathy in any situation.

Use the examples provided here and this guide to help you with comforting anyone who is grieving a loss.

For some more ideas and help we reached out to 25 professional experts on grief for their advice for and tips

What to Say to Someone Grieving

If you would just like some examples of the sort of comforting words you can say when someone is grieving then the messages below should be perfect.

  • I am deeply sorry for your loss
  • You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers
  • If you need someone to talk to then I can be there for you
  • I wish my words could do more to help and take away your pain but I will be thinking of you
  • I was shocked and saddened to learn of your loss. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch if you need anything or are struggling
  • If there was anything I could do to help you know I would. I hope my words and knowing you aren’t alone will offer some comfort
  • You have all my love and support during such a difficult time
  • I am going to miss ______ so much. He/she was a wonderful and special person
  • I can’t begin to imagine just how hard this must be. I am always here if you need need me
  • ______ will be so very missed. They were such a warm and amazing spirit

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If you want a more thorough, in-depth guide of how and what to say, why you should say it, and what not to say, then carry on below.

Offer your Condolences

Probably the easiest but one of the most important things to do when someone is grieving is to show your sympathy by acknowledging their loss. You don’t have to go over the top or make any sort of grand gesture but just simply say how sorry you are for their loss. The examples above are a good place to start if you aren’t sure what to say.

Listen and Let Them Talk

Listening to those grieving is just as important as knowing what to say.

When you suffer a loss it leaves you bewildered, frightened and confused. Those swirling emotions can become unbearable and being able to talk and try to make some sense of what’s happening is hugely beneficial (and often vital).

So being the person who is there to listen without judgement and let the bereaved talk is an extremely important role. Let them pour out their fears, ask why it happened, go through the horrible thoughts they’ve been dealing with and generally try to get some understanding.

What you say can be as simple as “how are you feeling?” or “do you want to talk?”. Make it clear you’re happy to listen to whatever it is they want to talk about whenever they feel ready. It’ll be one of the best ways you can help them.

Share Memories

Depending on how well you knew the deceased sharing memories you have of them or anecdotes about their life can be a touching and uplifting way to talk and remember them.

It can be as simple as “I will never forget your mothers warmth and generosity” through to a longer story involving the deceased. Remember to stay positive though and talk about the good memories you have.

Reassure Them

Losing someone is scary. And so is grieving. These are emotions and feelings the bereaved may never have felt before.

Emotions that can feel overwhelming and terrifying. So having people around them for comfort and support is really important.

What you should do and say when they’re struggling with how they’re feeling and the grief they’re experiencing is to reassure them. Let them know what they’re feeling is normal and expected.

Grief affects everyone differently and there isn’t a right or wrong way to go through it. Being reminded or told that is in itself reassuring.

You can’t make the pain go away or bring back their loved one. But you can try to help them through the worst of their grief by being a reassuring presence who is there to tell them it’s ok to cry, to scream, break down or even feel nothing at all.

Offer to Help

When someone is grieving one of the most helpful things you can do is to offer to help in some way.

But a mistake that’s commonly made when talking to those grieving is asking what they need. On the face of it this might seem like the right thing to be doing – offering your assistance or support for whatever they’re struggling with.

The problem with asking someone grieving what they need or would like is it put the emphasis on them. A lot of people don’t like to ask for things or worry about coming across like they’re being a nuisance or burden to their friends and family.

So instead of being honest and saying they need help with something they suffer in silence instead. The way to avoid this is to be specific with your questions.

So if you were going to ask “is there anything you need?” or “how can I help” try saying “do you need any help with cooking? I’m making a casserole and would be happy to do some extra for you” or “I know how hard it’s been for you recently so if you needed the kids taking to or picking up from school I can easily help out” or “I’m going to the store for some groceries, would you like me to pick you up some things as well?”.

This makes it easier for the bereaved to say yes and get the help they really need.

If you are going to offer any help be absolutely sure you can and will do it. Having someone promise something then let them down is added stress and upset anyone grieving doesn’t need.

Be there for Them

Knowing you have friends and family there for you if you need them is a big part of coping with the grief after a loss.

So whatever it is you decide to do or say, make it clear you are there for the bereaved. Even when you know you can’t fix things or stop how much it hurts you can reach out to let them they aren’t alone.

And that makes a lot of difference to those who are doing their best to cope with their grief.

Stay in Contact

Grief lasts as long as it lasts. It may be weeks, months, even years. So those grieving need supporting and people around them throughout.

This means that you shouldn’t just think that by seeing them around the time of their bereavement, talking to them and maybe helping out that you’ve then done your bit and can sit back feeling good about yourself.

You need to be there for whoever it is grieving in the long term. So keep checking in on them, making sure they’re doing ok, talking and being there for them if they need you.

Basically – stay in touch.

Say Nothing

Sometimes it’s not about what you say but just about being there. Often when someone is going through the grieving process they might not feel up to talking but still want to spend time with a friend.

The presence of someone you know can be reassuring and calming amongst so much pain, even if you just sit quietly together.

So listen to and take your lead from them and don’t feel the need to fill silences or have to talk. What they’re comfortable with and prefer should be what you go along with.

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What NOT to Say to Someone Who is Grieving

When talking to someone grieving there are some specific phrases and topics you should definitely not say or talk about.

Anything Religious

Talking about religion in regards to a death is often fraught with possibilities to cause upset or offence. If you knew the deceased and their family well and that they were religious then you can use your own judgement as to whether it’s appropriate.

But if you are in any doubt then it’s best to avoid saying anything religious and stick with sentiments that don’t have the potential to be offensive.

‘I Know How you Feel’

Comparing your own loss with someone else’s is never a good idea. Whilst you may have experienced something similar each loss and the way we grieve and feel after it is very personal and individual. So you can’t know exactly how someone else feeling. It’s much better to either say or do something from the examples above or just listen.

‘Give it Time’

Whilst we do tend to move past the pain of losing someone eventually, it never really leaves us. And the grief lives on just below surface. So talking about moving on after a certain time or waiting for it all to just get better could be seen as insensitive and is probably best avoided.

‘At Least they had a Long Life’ 

This may be true but it shows a complete lack of understanding about losing someone. Yes, they may have lived to 120 years old and had a wonderful life. But for a family to lose a loved one at any age is going to be heartbreaking. Saying goodbye to your mom or dad, for example, is devastating no matter how old they are or long they’ve lived. So don’t say this to anyone grieving – it won’t help.

‘Everything Happens for a Reason’

This, sadly, is used all too often to say to those grieving. There is never a good reason to lose a loved one. Maybe you think that ‘the universe has a plan’ or something along those lines but to the people grieving their departed friend, relative, child etc. there can be no good cause or reason for them to be gone. All they know is they miss them and want them back. Understand that and offer sympathy and support rather than saying ‘everything happens for a reason’.

What to Write to Someone Grieving

If you prefer to send a card or note to express your condolences and sympathy, rather than seeing and talking to the bereaved in person, then the examples below of what you could write should help:

  • My deepest and most heartfelt condolences for your loss
  • We are so terribly sorry for such a tragic loss
  • You are always in my thoughts during these dark days. May you find comfort amongst friends and family
  • Wishing you love and sympathy after a truly shocking loss
  • May the memory of ______ always be with you, and may he/she rest in peace
  • Hold on to those treasured memories and remember the best times. Our condolences
  • My sincerest sympathy to you and your family
If you would like some more examples and ideas then try our guide for what to say to when someone dies or what to write in a sympathy card.

Conclusion

Knowing how to approach and what to say to someone who is grieving is very difficult. Although it may seem too hard at first it’s worth trying to figure what you’re going to say and how to talk to those grieving.

Mainly because this is the time they will need people like you the most. And actually people are very forgiving and understanding. If you say something that is t quite right or awkward they will understand and not hold it against you.

In fact they will just appreciate you making the effort and being there for them. If you can manage that you will have already helped, and from there communicating and finding the right things to say will become easier.

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sympathy messages for acquaintances

When an acquaintance or someone we don’t know well suffers a loss it can be hard to know what to say to them. When reaching out to friends and family it’s a little more straightforward as your relationship is stronger.

But with someone you don’t know well, or an acquaintance, your relationship will be very limited. And so knowing how to express your condolences in an appropriate way when you aren’t close and don’t really know them becomes tricky.

Should you say anything? Do you send a card or flowers/gift? What sort of words are suitable?

It’s understandable to find yourself a bit lost and unsure.

So if you’re struggling then try these example condolences messages for an acquaintance or stranger.

Should I Send Condolences to an Acquaintance?

Yes. When it’s a close friend or relative then it’s a good idea to try and send your condolences or reach out as quickly as possible. With an acquaintance or someone you don’t know well there is less of a rush and it’s perfectly acceptable to send your condolences a little later or even after the funeral.

What do you Write in a Sympathy Card for an Acquaintance?

Your condolences to an acquaintance should be similar to those you would say or write to someone close to you. However, you should avoid going over the top or being too sentimental as you don’t know them as well. Stick to words and a message that isn’t too personal.

However, if the deceased was someone you were close to but never met their family, for example, then you may want to consider including a story or anecdote of the deceased on top of your sympathy message.

  • I’m very sorry for your loss
  • I was deeply sorry to learn of your loss
  • My condolences and sympathy during this difficult time
  • You are in my thoughts and prayers
  • Sending my sincere condolences
  • Wishing you strength and support for the coming days
  • My most heartfelt condolences for your tragic loss
  • May you find comfort from the love of your family and friends

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To a Family you Never Met

  • I was lucky enough to know your dad for many years and although we never met I wanted to reach out to say how sorry I am for your loss. He was a great guy and will be sorely missed
  • Your mom and I were colleagues and became a really good friend to me. We would always chat on our coffee breaks and moan about our boss! I’m really going to miss her
  • Having your husband and father as an employee was a gift. His hard work and dedication were second to none and he always looked after anyone struggling or that needed help. Everyone at the office was so deeply shocked when he passed away and we are all sending our condolences
  • I know we don’t know each other very well but your daughter was an incredibly gifted student who was a pleasure to teach. I know she will be dearly missed

What do you Write in a Sympathy Card for a Stranger?

When it’s a stranger you haven’t met or don’t know at all then what you write in a card or say to them should be straightforward. As you don’t know them at all stick to non-personal, common sentiments to express your sadness for their loss.

  • We are sorry for your loss
  • With sympathy and my best wishes
  • In memory of [name]
  • I will be thinking of and praying for you
  • Hoping you can find comfort amongst the pain
  • Sending our sympathy for your loss
  • May [name] rest in peace
  • My thoughts are with you. May you find some peace

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Condolence Messages for Acquaintances


My heart is breaking for you. What a terrible loss. Please accept my condolences


I can’t begin to understand how awful this is for you but I wish to send my sympathy and love


My deepest condolences for your loss of and I hope you can find some peace


I know we don’t know each other well but I wanted to send a brief note to say I how sorry I was to learn of your loss


We may not be well acquainted but I know how heartbreaking losing someone special is. You will be in my thoughts and I will be wishing you the best during this dark time


Even though we aren’t very close I can be there to help if there is anything you need. My condolences


Sending my sincerest sympathy for your loss. May [name of the deceased] rest in peace


We may not have ever gotten to know each other but your father/mother was a wonderful person who meant the world to me. I am so very sorry to hear of their passing


The memory of [name of deceased] shall never be forgotten. They were a truly special person who will be missed dearly by so many


My most heartfelt condolences for your loss. It is always so cruel to have someone taken from us too soon


To lose someone so special to you is tragic and though we may not be close friends I understand how tough this must be for you. I hope you find comfort and strength in your friends and family


With all my sympathy I wish you to get through such a painful loss


As a family we wanted to express our condolences and our sympathy for your loss. We may not be close but we know how awful it is losing a family member


Whilst we haven’t gotten to know one another very well yet I wanted to offer a friendly ear if you ever needed to talk. I know how difficult the grief can be after losing someone and talking can help


Hold on to the memories of those no longer with you. Keep them in your heart and that person will never truly be gone


My deepest sympathies to you and your family. May you support each other through what must be a tremendously difficult time

Knowing what to say to a stranger or acquaintance when they’ve experienced a bereavement is very tricky. So if you’ve felt unsure over how to approach it don’t feel bad.

But hopefully the example sympathy messages and ideas of what to say provided here will have helped you find the right words. Remember that reaching out to say something is always going to be appreciated even if your words aren’t perfect.

Keep that in mind and whatever you choose to write or say will be just fine.

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When you lose a father it is a pain like almost nothing else. Something that can compare though is the loss of a stepfather.

A stepfather may not be a direct relation but that doesn’t stop the real bonds that form with them.

So when one passes away it is understandably a period of grief and pain for the family and friends affected.

If you know of someone who has lost their stepfather then you are going to want to send or offer your condolences.

But knowing what to write or to say in a sympathy message is hard. You want to offer your condolences for losing someone so special to them whilst remaining respectful. Your words should be genuine and heartfelt.

So if you’re having trouble with finding the right thing to say then try these condolence messages for a stepfathers death.

Short Sympathy Messages for Loss of Stepfather

    My condolences for your loss

    I am dreadfully sorry to learn of your step fathers passing

    I will be thinking of and wishing you peace during this tragic time

    My sympathy for the loss of your stepfather

    If there is anything you need then I am here for you

    Sending my sincere sympathy for your terrible loss

    We will always remember your stepfather

    It was so awful to hear of your stepfathers passing. You will be in our prayers and our thoughts

    My heartfelt condolences for your loss. Don’t hesitate to get in touch if there’s anything I can do

    Whether you need someone to listen or talk to I can be there

    I’m really sorry for your loss. Your stepfather was a wonderful person

    The memory of your stepfather will always be in your heart. May he rest in peace

    My thoughts are with you and hope you are coping. I’m so sorry

    I just wanted to send a note to say I hope you’re doing ok and that I’m thinking of you

    We wanted to express our condolences for your loss. We are all here for you

    My deepest condolences for the loss of your stepfather

    I will never be able to understand what you’re going through but I can be there with love and support when you need it most

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Words of Sympathy for Loss of Stepfather

    I was terribly sorry to hear of your stepfathers passing. You will be in my thoughts and prayers in the coming days and weeks

    My sympathy for the loss of your stepfather. Sending warm and loving condolences to you and your family

    I wanted to send this note after learning of your loss to let you know just how sorry I am. I hope you’re getting by and have the support you need

    I am deeply sorry to hear of your stepfathers passing. I could see how close you were and had built such a strong relationship. You have my sympathy and condolences for your loss

    We were so shocked and saddened to learn of your loss. It’s so awful and your stepfather will be missed greatly. We hope you are coping and finding support amongst family and friends

    Losing someone so important is such a shock and if there is anything that you need, be it help with the funeral or just someone to talk to then please don’t think twice about getting in touch. All my love

    My deepest condolences for your loss. To lose such a loved member of the family is heartbreaking. May your stepfather rest in peace

    I hope during such a tough time your friends and family are by your side to help you through the worst of it. My warmest condolences

    My Sympathy for your heart wrenching loss. You are in my thoughts and I will pray for you to find some peace

    May the good times you and your stepfather had provide some peace and comfort as you mourn their passing. My condolences

    Always remember the wonderful memories you made with your stepdad. May they sustain you through the hardest moments. My sympathy and love after your loss

    Try to stay as strong as you can and hold on to the good memories you have. If you need me then I can be there for you

    My sincerest condolences for such a painful loss. I am praying you are getting by and want to make it clear that I’m only a phone call away if you needed me

    I was lucky to know your stepfather and what a great guy he was. He will be missed greatly. Sending my sympathy and thoughts

condolence message for loss of stepfather

    My heart aches for you after losing someone so important from your life. I don’t know how much it will help but I know your friends and family will be there to rally round you and help you get through the grief

    Your stepdad was a really brilliant man and he leaves behind such a wonderful legacy. My condolences

    I understand my words will offer very little to help your grief but I am here and thinking of you as you mourn your stepfathers death

    My prayers will be for you and the hope you will find some peace. Please accept my condolences for a truly sad loss

    I am thinking of you and your family as you go through the pain of losing your stepfather. I hope you are finding the strength to get by

    If you need a friend to talk to or shoulder to cry on then please turn to me. I can always be there for you, don’t hesitate to reach out

    May your stepdads memory and legacy last forever. His warmth and kindness will never be forgotten

    May the memories you and your stepfather made sustain you through the pain of his loss, and his spirit never leave you. My condolences and love

    I know your stepdad will be looking down from heaven and watching over you. He will always be with you. All my love

    When we lose someone truly special from our lives it is utterly heartbreaking. But you must turn to friends and family to help you through these incredibly hard times. Please remember we are all here for you

    May your stepfathers memory continue to bring you some relief even after he has gone. He was so proud of you

    I don’t think I can hope to understand how hard this must be but I will do all I can to be there and support you however you need me to. You gave my deepest and most sincere condolences for the loss of your stepfather

Hopefully these messages of sympathy for the loss of a stepfather will have given you some ideas of what to say to someone who has experienced a bereavement.

It can be tough to find the right words to express your sympathy. But if you make sure you believe what you say and are honest, talking from your heart, then those mourning their passed loved one will appreciate you kindness and knowing they are not alone.

Sympathy Messages for Loss of Stepfather

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sympathy gift etiquette

When giving a sympathy gift after someone has suffered a loss you may find yourself worrying about the correct etiquette. What’s appropriate, what isn’t, can I give money, when should I send it etc.

Navigating what’s acceptable and what’s not can be difficult. Sending a gift after a loss is a lovely gesture but you don’t want to end up doing more harm than good.

That’s why we’ve produced this guide to sympathy gift etiquette. We hope to show you the right way to go about giving or sending someone a condolence gift that avoids any possible offence or upset.

Having said that, and not wanting to contradict ourselves, you can’t go that wrong. Just by acknowledging the loss and showing you care the bereaved are going to appreciate the effort you’ve made.

But if you want to be sure of any details or if you’re a bit worried you might get something wrong then the tips and advice below will help you to avoid any unintended mistakes.

Sympathy Gift Etiquette

These are the main things to remember when giving a sympathy gift.

  • The most important thing to takeaway from this is to make the effort.
  • Show you care by giving a gift, be that money (a minimum of $30 is recommended), a present or even something like your time – chores, cooking etc.
  • A gift of service – a cleaner, helping with chores, picking the kids up from school etc is often the most useful to those grieving.
  • Food is also a great choice for a gift that the bereaved can really use and benefit from.
  • A donation in the deceased’s name is a touching gesture.
  • If you decide on a monetary gift then don’t feel the need to tell the recipients about it, just put a check or cash in a card.
  • There’s no time limit but try sending it as soon as you can.
  • And don’t be put off sending a gift to a friend even if you didn’t know the deceased.
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    Is a Sympathy Gift Appropriate?

    Yes. When mourning a loss it can be comforting to have friends and family reach out with their sympathy and support in the form of a gift. Knowing there are people thinking of you as you grieve can provide real comfort. So it is appropriate to send a gift to the immediate family members, or in fact any members of the family of the deceased.

    The only time when it may not be inappropriate is if there is a specific religious custom that says gifts are unacceptable.

    If you need any help deciding on a gift then try our guide to sympathy gift ideas or some unique sympathy gifts.

    Who do you to send a Sympathy Gift to?

    Who you address and send your gift to will depend to some extent on your relationship with the deceased. If it’s a friend that has lost someone then you can address it to your friend ‘and family’. If you didn’t know the deceased or the family well – they were just an acquaintance for example – then it is probably best to address it to ‘the [name] family’.

    If in doubt though then just send and address your gift to the family in general of whoever it is that has passed away.

    When do you Send a Sympathy Gift?

    The best time to send a sympathy gift is as soon as possible. If you leave it too long it could seem like you have forgotten or don’t care enough. So try to act as fast as you can. If you’re sending flowers or a memorial gift for the funeral then they should be sent on the day of the funeral service.

    Whilst as soon as you can is definitely preferable don’t be put off sending a gift even if you feel you’re late. Any time is better than never at all.

    Sometimes larger or more personalized gifts require time and planning. If that is the case then you could send a smaller gift first – just something like a card and flowers – to acknowledge the death and then the more personal gift at a later date.

    What is an Appropriate Sympathy Gift?

    There is no wrong or right answer here. If you give any sympathy gift it is going to show you’ve made an effort and that’s the most important thing. Be it flowers for the funeral, a gift basket or even a simple card, the bereaved will appreciate the gesture and knowing you care.

    A card with a few words of sympathy or condolence is the simplest way to reach out to those mourning a loss. But you may feel that doesn’t constitute a gift and prefer something more substantial.

    Sending flowers is the most traditional way to say sorry for a loss. It’s probably the safest gift you can give as you can’t really go wrong with flowers. There are so many florists, both stores and online, that cater specifically for sympathy arrangements that it’s very easy to send the bereaved family a beautiful bunch of flowers with a note to say how sorry you are.

    Food is also a good and safe choice. There are many sympathy gift baskets that offer nourishing and appetising food to those grieving.

    A personalized gift is very popular as well. You can create a photo album of the deceased, a pendant or locket with their picture or a keepsake box with special memories are just a few good options.

    You should have known the deceased well if you’re going to personalize a gift though. Otherwise it could see a little odd and be uncomfortable for the family.

    What is Appropriate to Send to a Grieving Family?

    Sending a card or letter to the family with flowers is always an appropriate gift for those grieving. It’s the most common way to express your condolences and a touching way to demonstrate your sadness for their loss.

    A charitable donation in the deceased’s name is a great way to honor them. You can send a card or note to the family with the details of what you gave and to which charity.

    A sympathy food or gift basket that could contain things like nuts, fruit and dried fruit, baked goods desserts, chocolates and more is a touching gift that also provides sustenance to those who may not feel up to cooking whilst coping with their grief.

    For even more ideas we have a guide looking at the best sympathy gift ideas for every type of loss.

    Should I Wrap Sympathy Gifts? 

    If you’re sending flowers or a card then the florists or company will take care of the packaging and how they look. If you’ve bought a gift and are going to be sending it in the post or giving it in person then wrapping it in some tasteful and fitting paper would definitely add to and make it special.

    This isn’t a necessity though and the bereaved will appreciate your gift whether you choose to wrap it or not.

    Is it Customary to Give Money in a Sympathy Card?

    It is very much acceptable to give money as a gift but not necessary. Whilst it may seem like a bit of a non-gift, and an easy way to avoid choosing something meaningful, money often turns out to be the most helpful and appreciated gift.

    That’s because losing someone can cause financial hardships to the family. Funeral expenses can be very high and if the deceased was someone who contributed to the families income then to lose that leaves a hole behind that needs filling.

    When giving money do so in the most sensitive way you can. It can be embarrassing for families to need extra help in this way and a real hit to someone’s pride. So you should do all you can to make it less uncomfortable for them.

    Try to be discreet about it and just place the cash or cheque inside a sympathy card before sending or giving it to the grieving family member. Don’t make a big deal about or draw attention to it.

    How Much Money Should you Give in a Sympathy Card?

    There aren’t any rules around the amount of money you should give. The best way to decide is to consider the situation of the deceased’s family and how much they are going to need. And of course you need to keep in mind your own finances and what you can realistically afford.

    A close relative or friend of yours will warrant a greater amount than a casual acquaintance. And a family that is struggling financially will need more than a family that is obviously comfortable or well off.

    Should I Send a Gift Even if there isn’t a Funeral Service?

    Yes, absolutely. The lack of a funeral service doesn’t mean the family of the deceased aren’t grieving. People choose to honor and pay their respects in different ways and that may sometimes not include a service. But they are still coping with a loss and so will appreciate friends and loved ones reaching out with gifts to comfort them and show people care.

    So you should still send a gift and offer you condolences for their loss.

    Should I Send a Gift if the family Requested a Charitable Donation “in Lieu of Flowers”?

    When families ask not to have flowers sent and prefer a donation that doesn’t mean they wouldn’t want any sort of gift, full stop. In fact they may receive a touching and thoughtful gift with gratitude and appreciation.

    However, it is best to use your own judgement. Each situation will be different. Consider what the family are like and whether their request for a charitable donation is in keeping with their history. Are they a family that is very social conscious, do they request birthday and Christmas presents to be donations to charity?

    If there is a pattern then perhaps they would always prefer any gesture to be in the form of a donation rather than something for themselves. But in many instances you can both give a donation and a gift to the family without fear of upsetting them.

    Is it Appropriate to Send a Sympathy Gift After the Funeral?

    Yes. Whilst sending a gift as soon as you learn of the death is recommended it can be comforting for the family to receive something after the stress and pain of the funeral too.

    Grieving doesn’t end or stop after a funeral. It will continue on for however long is necessary and during that time the support and love of friends will be essential. So a gift to show your support and to lift the spirits of those mourning is a lovely gesture that will be appreciated regardless of it being after the funeral.

    Should I Send a Gift on the Anniversary of the Death?

    The anniversary of a death can be a really hard time for the grieving family and friends. It’s also something that isn’t discussed or considered enough about when we think of grief and his it affects people. So to receive a gift and know that others have remembered the anniversary can be a real comfort.

    A memorial gift that commemorates the life of someone passed away is a wonderful gesture. Giving the family a gift like this on the anniversary of their death will be greatly welcomed and help them to remember their lost loved one.

    Should I Expect to Receive a Thank You Card for a Sympathy Gift? 

    The bereaved may send a thank you note or message but you shouldn’t expect one. Grief affects people in different ways. Some can cope and carry on their normal life without it causing too much interruption. Others struggle enormously. The grief can cause them to even function properly. Getting through each day is hard enough.

    So if someone is affected badly the last thing they are going to be thinking about is sending a thank you card for a gift they’ve received.

    But that doesn’t mean they aren’t grateful. And it certainly doesn’t mean you shouldn’t send one. The act of giving should be the reward, and knowing it may help those going through such pain to not feel as alone.

    Conclusion

    Knowing the correct etiquette for giving a sympathy gift can be tough, and the worry about getting it wrong all too real. Hopefully this guide will have helped to put to bed any worries you have and give you the confidence to show your support with a comforting and thoughtful gift.

    And really that’s the most important thing to remember. A gift will provide some comfort amongst the pain and grief of a loss. So the main thing to takeaway from this is that giving a gift is always a touching gesture and one you should try to do if you can.

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    sympathy messages for loss of stepmother

    Losing a mother is unbelievably painful. And losing your stepmother is no different.

    Whilst she may not have been your birth mother she becomes just like one. You form a bond and relationship that is like no other.

    So when a stepmother passes away it is an incredibly sad and difficult time. For the whole family.

    If you know someone that has sadly lost their stepmother then you will probably want to offer your sympathy and condolences.

    But knowing what to say or write isn’t easy. Coming up with the right words is hard, especially when you want to make sure you express your sadness for their terrible loss.

    So if you’re struggling with knowing what to say then try these example condolences messages for the death of a stepmother.

    Short Sympathy Messages for Loss of Stepmother

    My deepest condolences for your terrible loss

    I am deeply sorry to hear of your stepmother’s passing

    You are in my thoughts during a time of such a tragic loss

    My most sincere sympathy for your stepmother’s passing

    If you need me then I am here for you. My condolences

    Sending my condolences and sympathy for your loss

    Your stepmother will be remembered so warmly

    It was shocking to hear of your stepmother’s death. You are in our thoughts and prayers

    My heartfelt condolences for your loss. If you need anyone to talk to I am always here

    If you need a shoulder to cry on or friendly ear I’m just a phone call away

    I’m very sorry for your loss. Your stepmother was a truly wonderful person

    Your stepmother’s memory shall always be with you, and the amazing memories you made

    I can’t begin to understand how hard this must be but I am so sorry

    This is just a note to say how sad I was to hear the news and that I’m thinking of you and your family

    We wanted to reach out and express our condolences. We are thinking of you

    My condolences for the loss of your beloved stepmom

    I don’t know how difficult this must be for you but I wanted to offer my love and sympathy during such a hard time

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    Words of Sympathy for Loss of Step Mother

    I was terribly sorry to learn of your stepmother’s passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers during such a difficult moment and want you to know I am always there for you

    My deepest condolences for the loss of your stepmom. I am sending warm and loving thoughts your way and hoping you can find some peace in the coming days

    After hearing the news I wanted to reach out to you and send my condolences and my love. I really hope you’re feeling ok and coping

    I am so sorry. I know you were so close to your stepmom. My condolences for your loss

    We we’re deeply saddened when we learnt of your loss. It is such a tragedy to lose someone so special and we wanted to send our condolences and let you know you are in our thoughts

    Please don’t think twice about getting in touch if there is anything you need. After losing someone so special I will make sure I’m there for you

    To lose any member of the family is so awful. You have my most heartfelt condolences and I’m sending you my love and prayers

    I hope the love and support of family and friends can help you find the strength to get through what must be such a devastating time. My condolences

    My sympathy for your terrible loss. I won’t ever be able to understand how hard this is for you but I will be thinking of and praying for you

    May the treasure memories of your stepmom offer you some peace and comfort during this awful moment. All my love and sympathy

    Always remembered those amazing times you had with your stepmom abs what an incredible person she was. My condolences

    Try to stay strong and think of only the good times. If you need me know that I will always be there

    Sending my deepest and most heartfelt condolences for your tragic loss. I hope you are getting by and wanted to reach out to say that I am here if I’m ever needed

    condolence message for loss of stepmother

    Your stepmother was a truly special person and her loss will be felt by so many. We were lucky to know her and she leaves behind a hole that cannot be filled. My love and thoughts

    Amongst the worst times your family and friends will rally around you for supper. My heart gives out to you and wishes you some peace after such pain

    Your stepmom was such a brilliant person and their loss has shaken us all. Please accept our condolences

    I understand there is little I can do to help the pain and that my words may mean nothing but I want to let you know just how sorry I am and that I’m thinking of you

    I am praying you can find some peace and comfort after losing your stepmother. You have my most sincere sympathy

    I am thinking of you and your family as you try to come to terms with losing someone so important. I am so deeply sorry

    If you need a friend to listen or a shoulder to cry on then I will be there. You don’t have to face this alone and have all the love of your friends

    May the spirit of your stepmother always be with you. Her warmth and kindness will forever be a reminder of what a wonderful person she was. My condolences

    I really hope that the cherished memories you have of your stepmom will provide some comfort in the face of such pain. May her love and spirit sustain you as you mourn her passing

    Your stepmother will be watching over and smiling down on you from heaven. If there is anything I can do please just ask

    After losing someone so wonderful it is friends and family who will be there to help you through the grief. I will do all I anti be there for and comfort you. My sympathy for this devastating loss

    May those touching memories of your stepmother be something you can hold onto as you mourn her passing. With loved ones support you will get through this

    There is no way I can understand just how hard this is for you but I want to do all I can to share and help with the pain. No matter what I will always be by your side. You have my most heartfelt condolences for the loss of your stepmother

    We hope the condolence messages for the loss of a step mother here have helped you to show your support and sympathy for those going through the loss of their stepmom.

    Stepmother’s may not seem as important as regular mothers but that doesn’t mean losing one won’t cause real pain and grief. Reach out and offer a few words of sympathy and those suffering will appreciate you taking the time to show you care.

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    what to say at a funeral

    When you attend a funeral it can be incredibly hard to know what to say to the grieving family. You want to avoid causing any extra upset or sadness, as well as avoiding anything that might offend them.

    Trying to navigate what is and isn’t acceptable might feel a bit like going through a minefield. In turn that can mean that what you do say doesn’t fully express how you feel. Or you play it safe to guarantee you don’t cause any offence.

    But if you prepare beforehand, and take the time to find out what is acceptable to say to those grieving their loss at a service or memorial then you can be sure what you say reflects how you truly feel. You can also offer some comfort with your kind words and understanding.

    That’s why we’ve put together this guide to help with what to say at a funeral. Whilst making the effort and saying something rather than nothing is the most important thing, and speaking from the heart will always be appreciated, the tips and ideas found here will help make sure you can say exactly what you want without fear of offending or upsetting the those dealing with a loss.

    What to Say Before a Funeral

    The most important thing to do before a funeral is to acknowledge the loss of whoever it is and reach out to the family or friends that are grieving. That may feel awkward as it can feel like you’re reminding them of their loss. But they won’t see it that way and will be glad to hear from those wanting to offer their condolences.

    How you decide to get in touch is up to you. A sympathy card with a few comforting words is always a good option but a phone call is just as good.

    Depending on how close you are then you might prefer to visit those mourning in person. Be sure to check with them first rather than turning up announced though.

    Grief often leaves people wanting to be left alone and not feeling ready to deal with even the smallest social situation. So it’s essential you ask before visiting to avoid any further upset on there part and general awkwardness.

    When reaching out, be that in person or via a card/phone call, be sure to use the name of the deceased and talk honestly. It’s understandable if you aren’t sure exactly what to say in a situation like this, so it’s best to say that. They will understand that it’s tricky for you to find the right words and will appreciate the honesty, and the fact that you’ve made the effort.

    What to Say at the Funeral

    When attending the funeral you will be expected to talk to the family of the deceased. If you didn’t know him/her that well or weren’t that close then you may only have to say a few words to the family.

    If you were close then you may find yourself standing with the family and engaging for a longer period of time. Your support and just the act of being there and in attendance of the funeral service or memorial is going to be comforting to those grieving their loss. The actual words you say can sometimes pale in significance to the action of being beside someone or giving them a hug.

    Regardless of how long or short your time with the deceased’s family is you may find yourself feeling more comfortable about what you’re going to say if you have planned it somewhat beforehand. Just go through what it is you’ve chosen to say so you’re familiar with it and don’t make any mistakes.

    For some more help try some of examples of what you can say during a funeral:

    • I’m very sorry for your loss
    • You and your whole family are in my thoughts and prayers
    • I will always treasure the fond memories I have of [name]
    • He/she was loved by all and will be missed so much
    • If you need someone to talk to or just listen I’m always here
    • I’m deeply sorry you have lost your father. He was such a lovely man
    • Your mother leaves behind a huge hole that can’t be filled. She will be missed
    • Please know I’m always there for you. My condolences

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    When to Say it

    As well as being unsure of what to say, many people aren’t sure when you should speak to the deceased’s family.

    It’s probably best to wait until after the funeral rather than during it to approach anyone to offer your condolences. The visitation or reception is also a good time to reach out to the bereaved with a few words of sympathy.

    At some funerals the family will make a special effort to greet those attending at the beginning or before it starts. If that’s the case then this would also be a suitable time to offer any condolences or comforting words

    To the Family or Friends

    If you are a close friend of the family of the deceased then they will probably be expecting to talk to you at some during it after the funeral.

    Knowing them well can put some added pressure on you. You might feel like you have to come up with something really profound, or comforting, or remember a story that encapsulates the deceased in the most positive way.

    If you can do any of those then great. But realistically the family aren’t going to be expecting nor necessarily wanting that.

    A simple few words that express your sadness and maybe hug is all that’s needed. Be genuine and speak from the heart, and the family will appreciate it more than you know.

    A few ideas of what you could say:

    • You have my deepest condolences for your loss
    • We have lost someone truly survival with [name]’s passing
    • I shall never forget [name] and just how much laughter and kindness they brought to us all
    • He/she will be so sorely missed by everyone
    • You have my most sincere sympathy for such a tragic loss
    • I know my words can offer little in the way of comfort but please know you are in my thoughts
    • It is with such sadness we say goodbye to [name]. I shall never forget them
    • The memories I have of [name] will remain with and remind me of how amazing they were

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    To Colleagues or Acquaintances

    If you didn’t know the deceased or their family very well then you will probably still want to say something. Remember to introduce yourself first and make it clear how you knew the deceased.

    As you aren’t close then it’s probably a good idea to keep whatever you say brief and move on. The bereaved family will appreciate any kind words but will probably want to spend longer with those they or the deceased the knew well.

    What to Say if it’s your Family Member or Loved Ones Funeral

    We’ve looked at what to say when you’re talking to the family and friends of the deceased, but what do you say if you’re the family or friend and receiving the condolences. If your loved one has passed away how do you react or reply to those words of sympathy?

    Much like when planning what to say to the bereaved you can practice how you will respond. Think about a few phrases you can easily go to when dealing with lots of condolences and people offering their sympathy.

    • I was very close to [name] and will miss them dearly
    • The whole family are going to miss [name]. They were loved by us all
    • [name] was one of my best friends, I can’t imagine life without them
    • It’s with such sadness we have to say goodbye to [name]
    • There will never be anyone like [name]. They were so special

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    What to Say After a Funeral

    The funeral is the place where we say goodbye, but that doesn’t mean the grief and pain ends there. The family and friends who lost their loved one will continue to deal with the grieving process from some time afterwards.

    So if you can you should try to check in with them in the following days and weeks. You don’t have to do too much but asking how they are coping and offering any support you can will be

    That might be in the form of meeting them for a coffee or lunch, helping with some small chores or jobs they have – anything that shows you care and are there for them even after the funeral has been and gone.

    Whatever it is or you choose to do try to do something. Keep in contact and be there for whoever it is. Continued support after losing a loved one is really important. It helps those grieving to feel less alone and able to get through the difficulties of their loss.

    What NOT to say

    Whilst it’s always good to reach out to those suffering and offer your support and condolences after a loss, there are some things you should avoid saying:

    • ‘I know how you feel’ – whilst you may have experienced a similar loss that doesn’t mean you understand their situation. Everyone grieves differently and by making yourself central it puts the attention on you and away from them. Which when it’s a funeral for their passed loved one is definitely not a good idea.
    • ‘He/she lived a full life’ – this may be technically true but it isn’t appropriate to say at a funeral. No one ever feels like a loved one is ready to go and even if they’ve had the most incredible life, for those closest to them it won’t be enough.
    • ‘You’ll meet someone else’ – if it’s a husband or wife that has lost their partner then this is deeply inappropriate. I tune they may well want to move on and meet someone new but that will be a long time in the future and certainly not something they will be even considering during the funeral.
    • ‘In time you will get over this’ – while this may also be true it isn’t right to say at a funeral. Let people grieve and take as long as they need to get through a loss rather than pushing them towards acceptance.
    • ‘They’re in a better place’ – no they aren’t. The place their family and friends would want them is by their side and with them.

    For more ideas see our guide on what NOT to say to someone grieving.

    Anything that might seem judgemental, joking or lacking respect should be avoided. If you aren’t sure what to say then just stick with something tried and tested – “I’m sorry for your loss”. Try to imagine yourself in their shoes and what you would like to hear from people. But above be kind and thoughtful.

    Conclusion

    Knowing what to say at a funeral is challenging for most of us. So if you are struggling or feeling anxious then you aren’t alone.

    The main thing to remember is that what you say doesn’t have to be particularly special. Don’t think you need to come up with something unique or profound. A few words or sentences that shows you sorry you are for the family or loved ones loss is perfectly acceptable, and all that’s expected.

    Just by being at the funeral and making the effort to offer your condolences will be warmly received and enough to let the family know you care.

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    sympathy messages for loss of granddaughter

    Granddaughters are one of the greatest joys in their grandparents lives. Very little can bring such happiness as playing with and seeing your granddaughter.

    So losing one is beyond devastating. Not just for the grandparents but even more so for the parents and siblings left behind.

    If you know someone who has sadly lost their granddaughter then you may be considering offering your condolences.

    But what is the right thing to say to someone who has lost their granddaughter? It can be difficult finding the correct words of sympathy in such an awful moment.

    Saying sorry for your loss is important but it must be done with the proper respect.

    If you’re struggling with what to say then try these example condolences messages for a granddaughters death.

    sympathy message for loss of a grandchild

    Short Sympathy Messages for Loss of Granddaughter

    • My most heartfelt condolences for your loss
    • I am dreadfully sorry to hear of your granddaughter’s passing
    • You are in my thoughts during such a terrible time of loss
    • My deepest condolences for your granddaughters passing
    • I can be there for you if you need someone. My sympathy for your loss
    • Please accept my sympathies for your loss
    • Your granddaughter was a wonderful girl and will be remembered so fondly
    • It was absolutely awful to hear of your granddaughters death. You are in my thoughts and prayers
    • My most sincere condolences for your loss. Don’t hesitate to reach out if you need to talk
    • I can be there if you need somebody. It doesn’t matter when or where, I’ll always be available for you
    • I’m incredibly sorry for your loss. Your granddaughter has been taken far too soon
    • Your granddaughters memory will never leave you. Hold on to those wonderful memories you have
    • I’m deeply sorry, my heart aches for you
    • I just wanted to send this note to let you know I’m thinking of you as you go through such a difficult time
    • We want to express our sympathy for such a tragic loss. We will be thinking and praying for you
    • My condolences for the loss of your beloved granddaughter
    • I can’t begin to understand how tough this must be. But I wanted to offer my support and condolences

    condolence message for loss of granddaughter

    Words of Sympathy for Loss of Cousin

    • I was utterly devastated to hear of your granddaughters passing. You are in my prayers and my thoughts as you grieve her loss
    • My most sincere condolences for the loss of your granddaughter. Sending loving thoughts and sympathy your way and hoping you can find some peace
    • I just wanted to reach out and send a message to let you know I’m thinking of you after such a tragedy. I hope you’re feeling ok and if you need to talk you know I’ll always be there for you
    • I’m terribly sorry to hear of your granddaughters awful passing. I saw how close you were to her. My condolences for your loss
    • We were so shocked to learn of your loss. We can’t offer much but wanted to send our sympathy and make sure you know your friends are here fir and thinking of you
    • I understand how tough it must be after losing someone so special to you and so if there is anything I can do to help please let me know. My condolences
    • My deepest condolences for your loss. To lose someone so young is always a tragedy and your granddaughter was the sweetest girl in the world. Please know I’m always thinking of you
    • I hope you can find strength from family and friends around you, and that they will help you through such a difficult time. My sincerest condolences
    • My condolences for a loss so tragic. Words can’t describe how shocking it is to lose someone so beautiful. You are in my thoughts and prayers
    • May the cherished memories you have of your granddaughter provide some comfort in the coming days and weeks. She will never be forgotten. My condolences

    granddaughter sympathy message

    • Always remember the treasured memories and time you spent with your granddaughter. All my condolences and love
    • Whatever you need I can be there to help. After such an awful loss let friends and family be there to support you through the grief
    • My deepest and heartfelt condolences for a truly terrible loss. I hope you’re doing ok. Please know I’m here and just a phone call away if they’re anything you need
    • Your granddaughter was a really special woman and shall be greatly missed by so many. Please accept my condolences for her passing
    • To lose someone so special is such a shock but your family and your friend will be there for you. My heart aches for your loss
    • Your granddaughter was a really great person and the huge hole they leave behind in so many lives can’t be understated. My sympathy for your loss
    • I can’t come close to understanding how hard this must be for you, and my words can do little to ease your pain, but I still wanted to reach out to say I will be thinking of you
    • My prayers are for you to find some comfort after what must be a heartbreaking loss. Please accept my deepest and most sincere condolences
    • My thoughts are with you and your entire family. To lose someone so important is unfair and cruel. You have my sympathy
    • Please remember you aren’t alone as you go through this. All your friends, including me, will be there
    • May your granddaughters beautiful smile and kind spirit be something to hold on to and bring some warmth amongst such pain. My condolences
    • I hope that the memories of your granddaughter can provide you some comfort in the coming days. May her memory never be forgotten, and may she rest in peace
    • Try to stay strong and remember how special your granddaughter was. Her life and all she accomplished should never be forgotten
    • When we lose someone so special from our lives it creates a void that can never be filled. I hope you can find comfort and support on those close to you and they help you navigate the grief. My condolences
    • May the wonderful thoughts and memories of your beautiful granddaughter bring some light to the darkness her loss has caused. You have us, your friends, to help you get through this
    • I will never be able to understand how difficult this is for you but I will do all I can to share the pain you’re going through. You have my deepest condolences

    We hope these sympathy messages will have helped with showing your sadness and condolences for someone that has lost their granddaughter.

    It can be tricky to find the perfect words to express the way you feel and show your support and sympathy for those who have suffered a loss. Try to be genuine, speak from your heart and whatever you say will be appreciated by those going through the pain of grief.

    sympathy messages for loss of granddaughter

    funeral poems for grandmother

    The funeral of a grandmother is incredibly sad. So often it’s our grandparents, specifically grandmother’s, who become such important parts of our lives – easy to talk to and turn to when we need some advice or wisdom.

    So your grandmothers funeral is the time to say goodbye and remember how special she was, even though it will be so hard and heartbreaking for you.

    And even more so if you are planning on paying tribute to your gran or giving a reading at the funeral. But a really good way to express your feelings for her is with a moving poem.

    These funeral poems have been chosen as we feel they are perfect for a memorial reading or eulogy for your grandmother. Many will succinctly sum up how much she meant to you whereas others will celebrate all she did and how important she was to those who knew her.

    Whichever way you choose to pay tribute to your grandmother using one of these funeral poems will be a great way to remember her legacy in a moving way.

    Funeral Poems for Grandmothers

    Grandma

    You fed me well, you made me strong.
    You taught me to know right from wrong.
    You made me feel that I belong.
    You showed me the value of a song.
    You gave me life, you gave me love.
    You always knew the way I feel.
    You used the words you thought might heal.
    You convinced me it was no big deal.
    Your advice would keep it real.
    You gave me life, you gave me love.
    Broken hearts you liked to mend.
    It was not in your nature to offend.
    Birthday cards you’d always send.
    You knew the value of family and friends.
    You give me life, you give me love.
    You left me now, you’ve gone away.
    I’m left behind, I have to stay.
    So I’ll just have to pray.
    I’ll meet you again another day.
    You always had that ‘special touch’.
    I loved you so very, very much.
    You gave me life, you gave me love.
    Please watch over me from above.

    By Unknown

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    The Magic of a Grandmother’s Touch

    There’s magic in a Grandmother’s touch,
    and sunshine in her smile.
    There’s love in everything she does
    to make our lives worthwhile.
    We can find both hope and courage
    Just by looking in her eyes.
    Her laughter is a source of joy,
    her works are warm and wise.
    There is a kindness and compassion
    to be found in her embrace,
    and we see the light of heaven
    shining from a Grandmother’s face.

    By Unknown

    the magic of a grandmother touch poem

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    She Is Gone 

    You can shed tears that she is gone
    Or you can smile because she has lived
    
You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back

    Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left

    Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her

    Or you can be full of the love that you shared

    You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
    
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday
    
You can remember her and only that she is gone

    Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on

    You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
    
Or you can do what she would want:
    smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

    By David Harkins

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    Nanny

    Such wonderful memories of Nanny
    The Nanny we all used to know
    We kept you too long and there waiting
    The angels have said you can go
    Bright golden gates that are shining
    Full of family to bid you hello
    So blow us a kiss as you’re leaving
    Our sadness we’ll try not to show
    Such wonderful memories of Nanny
    We all have our favourites you see
    As you enter those gates you’ll be thinking
    They’re all there thinking of me!

    By Laura White

    nanny funeral poem

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    Grandmother

    God looked around his garden
    and found an empty space.
    Then he looked down upon this earth
    And saw your tired face.
    He put his arms around you
    And lifted you to rest.
    God’s garden must be beautiful
    He only takes the best.

    Author Unknown

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    Legacy of Love 

    A wife, a mother, a grandma too,
    This is the legacy we have from you
    You taught us love and how to fight
    You gave us strength, you gave us might.
    A stronger person would be hard to find,
    And in your heart you were always kind.
    You fought for us all in one way or another
    Not just as a wife not just as a mother.
    For all of us you gave your best
    And now the time has come for you to rest.
    So go in peace, you’ve earned your sleep,
    Your love in our hearts we’ll eternally keep.

    By Unknown

    legacy of love memorial poem

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    My Loving Grandmother

    When I had no shoulder to lean on,
    and my eyes were filled with tears.
    I had my Nana to count on,
    to drive away my fears.
    Despite all the wrong I’d done,
    when the light I couldn’t see,
    Nana was my shining sun,
    who gently consoled me.
    She always encouraged and inspired me,
    to follow my every dream,
    she’d tell me that I was not alone,
    cause she was my team.
    She’d tell everyone about me,
    what I was doing, when and how,
    she preserved everything I ever gave her,
    from the time I was little till now.
    Without you nana I am so lost,
    my tears just won’t dry,
    but I believe your one of gods angels,
    you spread your wings and fly.
    We are sure you are around us,
    in every thing we do,
    your one of Gods angels we do trust,
    we can see all are wishes come true.
    Dear Nana we really miss you,
    and wish with us you’d always be,
    but since God wants you too,
    I’ll keep your memories alive in me.

    By Nivedeeta Pereira

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    Gone From Us

    Gone from us that smiling face,
    The cheerful pleasant ways,
    The heart that won so many friends,
    In bygone, happy days.
    A life made beautiful by kindly deeds,
    A helping hand for others’ needs.
    To a beautiful life,
    Comes a happy end,
    She died as she lived,
    Everyone’s friend.

    By Unknown

    gone from us funeral poem for grandmother

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    A Tear for Nana

    Grandmother, when I think about you being gone,
    My heart is saddened, and I don’t know how I’ll go on.
You always had time to listen to my complaints,
I’ve said so many times, “That woman’s a saint.”
    You taught me more about life than anyone at all.
And were always available, anytime I would call.
I shed a tear because my “Nana’s” gone.
Now somehow I’ll find the strength to go on.

    By J. Allen Shaw

    a year for nana memorial poem

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    God Saw You Getting Tired

    God saw you getting tired and a cure was not to be
    so he put his arms around you and whispered,
    “Come to Me”
    With tearful eyes we watched you
    and saw you pass away
    and although we love you dearly
    we could not make you stay.
    A golden heart stopped beating
    hard working hands at rest.
    God broke our hearts to prove to us
    He only takes the best

    By Unknown

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    Her Smile

    Though her smile is gone forever
    and her hand I cannot touch
    I still have so many memories
    Of the one I loved so much.
    Her memory is now my keepsake
    Which with I’ll never part.
    God has her in his keeping
    I have her in my heart.
    Sadly missed but never forgotten.

    By Unknown

    her smile grandmother funeral poem

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    As We Look Back

    As we look back over time
    We find ourselves wondering..
    Did we remember to thank you enough
    For all you have done for us?
    For all the times you were by our sides
    To help and support us
    To celebrate our successes
    To understand our problems
    And accept our defeats?
    Or for teaching us by your example,
    The value of hard work, good judgement,
    Courage and integrity?
    We wonder if we ever thanked you
    For the sacrifices you made.
    To let us have the very best?
    And for the simple things
    Like laughter, smiles and times we shared?
    If we have forgotten to show our
    Gratitude enough for all the things you did,
    We’re thanking you now.
    And we are hoping you knew all along,
    How much you meant to us.

    By Clare Jones

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    A Wonderful Grandmother

    We had a wonderful grandmother
    One who never really grew old
Her smile was made of sunshine
And her heart was solid gold
Her eyes were bright as shining stars
And in her cheeks fair roses you see.
We had a wonderful grandmother,
And that’s the way it will always be.
But take heed, because
She’s still keeping an eye on all of us,
So let’s make sure
She will like what she sees.

    By Unknown

    a wonderful grandmother memorial poem

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    You Only Have One Grandmother

    You can have one special grandmother
    Patient kind and true;
    No other friend in all the world,
    Will be the same to you.
    When other friends forsake you,
    To Grandma you will return,
    For all her loving kindness,
    She asks nothing in return.
    As we look upon her picture,
    Sweet memories we recall,
    Of a face so full of sunshine,
    And a smile for one and all.
    Sweet Jesus, take this message,
    To our dear Grandma up above;
    Tell her how we miss her,
    And give her all our love.

    By Unknown

    you only have one grandmother poem

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    If Flowers Grow in Heaven

    If flowers grow in heaven,
    Lord, then pick a bunch for me.
    Then place them in my grandmother’s arms
    and tell her they’re from me.

    Tell her that I love and miss her
    and when she turns to smile,
    place a kiss upon her cheek and hold her for awhile.

    Because remembering her is easy,
    I do it every day,
    but there’s an ache within my heart
    that will never go away.

    By Unknown

    if flowers grow in heaven funeral poem

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    A Poem for Grandma

    Grandma, you were just a girl, So many years ago.
    You had your loves and had your dreams,
    You watched us come and go.
    You watched us make the same mistakes,
    That you had made before,
    But that just made you hold us tight,
    And love us all the more.
    We haven’t always thought about
    The things that you have seen.
    To us you’ve just been ‘Grandma’,
    No thought of who you’ve been.
    But we remember now in love,
    Your life from start to end,
    And we’re just glad we knew you,
    As Grandma, and as Friend.

    By Unknown

    poem for grandmothers funeral

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    She’s in the Sun, the Wind, the Rain

    She’s in the sun, the wind, the rain,
    she’s in the air you breathe
    with every breath you take.
    She sings a song of hope and cheer,
    there’s no more pain, no more fear.
    You’ll see her in the clouds above,
    hear her whisper words of love,
    you’ll be together before long,
    until then, listen for her song.

    By Christy Ann Martine

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    The Watcher

    She always leaned to watch for us
    Anxious if we were late,
    In winter by the window,
    In summer by the gate.

    And though we mocked her tenderly
    Who had such foolish care,
    The long way home would seem more safe,
    Because she waited there.

    Her thoughts were all so full of us,
    She never could forget,
    And so I think that where she is
    She must be watching yet.

    Waiting ‘til we come home to her
    Anxious if we are late
    Watching from Heaven’s window
    Leaning from Heaven’s gate.

    By Margaret Widdemer

    the watcher funeral poem grandma

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    My Grandmother

    In my Rose Garden of memories
    I see you standing there
    An angel in disguise
    Who taught me how to care
    I long to hear your voice
    for real not in my dreams
    I am missing you so much these days
    how empty my world seems
    People say time heals all wounds
    that someday the pain will subside
    But Grandma I can tell you
    I think they must have lied
    The emptiness I am feeling now
    is strong and I am weak
    These days go by without you
    so dreary and so bleak
    In my Rose Garden of memories
    I know you’ll always be
    for though you’re gone
    from this mortal world
    In my heart you’ll always be

    By Victoria L. Payne

    my grandmother funeral poem

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    Grandma

    The words you spoke so wisely
    Have never been so clear.
    All the lessons that you taught me
    Still remain right here.

    I am left here wishing
    To hear your voice one last time,
    Once more to hear you sing
    That I am your sunshine.

    You told me it would be all right,
    But I feel that isn’t true.
    The only thing to make this better
    Is if I was there with you.

    I know this isn’t possible,
    But it’s hard to think it so.
    I know you’re now not suffering,
    But I hate to see you go.

    I’d let you wear that fanny pack,
    I swear I wouldn’t care,
    Just to have you back one more time,
    Just to have you there.

    I’d give a million dollars,
    To read one last email,
    To decode that secret message
    About treasures from a sale.

    I know the pain will slowly leave,
    And your memories will stay,
    Your time with us was special,
    And it is often replayed.

    My sunshine was taken,
    Now my skies are left grey.
    Oh, the things that I would give
    For only one more day.

    You were more than just a Grandma,
    You were my best friend.
    My life has changed forever,
    But I’ll still love you ’til the end.

    By Rob

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    Richer Than Gold

    You may have tangible wealth untold;
    Caskets of jewels and coffers of gold.
    Richer than I you can never be –
    I had a Grandmother who read to me.

    By Strickland Gillilan

    Modified

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    Away

    I cannot say and I will not say
    That she is dead, she is just away.
    With a cheery smile and a wave of hand
    She has wandered into an unknown land;
    And left us dreaming how very fair
    Its needs must be, since she lingers there.
    And you-oh you, who the wildest yearn
    From the old-time step and the glad return-
    Think of her faring on, as dear
    In the love of there, as the love of here
    Think of her still the same way, I say.

    By James Whitcomb Riley

    away funeral poem

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    Unknown Title

    Grandma, your life was full of loving deeds,
    forever thoughtful of our special needs.
    Today and tomorrow, my whole life through,
    I will always love and cherish you.
    There was magic in grandmother’s touch,
    and sunshine in her smile.
    There was love in everything she did
    to make our lives worthwhile.
    We found both hope and courage
    just by looking in her eyes.
    Her laughter was a source of joy,
    her words warm and wise.
    There was a kindness and compassion
    found in her embrace,
    And shining down from Heaven above
    we see the glow of Grandma’s face.

    By Unknown

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    Light After Dark

    As I sat by my window,
    Looking out at the grey sky.

    Tears rolled down my cheeks,

    As its finally time to say goodbye.

    Goodbye to a friend
    Who was always there.

    Goodbye to a family

    Who always showed care.

    Someone whom I turn to,
    I don’t know how to move on.
    
Someone whom I relate to,
    
But now you’re gone.

    But then a blue bird came,
    And sat by my window.
    
The sun starts shining,
    
And evaporated all my sorrow.

    Good memories came
    To wash away the sadness.

    Mended my heart

    And filled it with gladness.

    I wiped away my tears
    And now that you’re gone.

    I can’t give up now
    
I have to move on.

    By Nurul Naiimah

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    From a Grandmothers Perspective

    Remember me with smiles not tears,
    For all the joy through all the years.
    Recall the closeness that was ours,
    A love as “sweet” as fragrant flowers.

    Don’t dwell on thoughts that cause you pain,
    We’ll see each other once again.
    I am at peace, try to believe,
    It was my time, I had to leave.

    But “what a view”, I have from here,
    I see your face, I feel you near,
    I follow you throughout the day,
    You’re not alone along the way.

    And when god calls you, you will be ,
    Right by my side, right here with me.
    Till then, I’ll wait by heaven’s door,
    We’ll be united… evermore!

    By Unknown

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    Weep Not For Me

    Weep not for me though I have gone
    Into that gentle night
    Grieve if you will, but not for long
    Upon my soul’s sweet flight
    I am at peace, my soul’s at rest
    There is no need for tears
    For with your love I was so blessed
    For all those many years
    There is no pain, I suffer not
    The fear is now all gone
    Put now these things out of your thoughts
    In your memory I live on
    Remember not my fight for breath
    Remember not the strife
    Please do not dwell upon my death
    But celebrate my life.

    By Unknown

    weep not for me memorial poem

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    Last Journey

    There is a train at the station
    With a seat reserved just for me
    I’m excited about its destination
    As I’ve heard it sets you free

    The trials and tribulations
    The pain and stress we breathe
    Don’t exist were I am going
    Only happiness I believe

    I hope that you will be there
    To wish me on my way
    It’s not a journey you can join in
    It’s not your time today

    There’ll be many destinations
    Some are happy, some are sad
    Each one a brief reminder
    Of the great times that we’ve had

    Many friends I know are waiting
    Who took an earlier train
    To greet and reassure me
    That nothing has really changed

    We’ll take the time together
    To catch up on the past
    To build a new beginning
    One that will always last

    One day you’ll take your journey
    On the train just like me
    And i promise that I’ll be there
    At the station and you will see

    That Life is just a journey
    Enriched by those you meet
    No one can take that from you
    It’s always yours to keep’

    But now as no seat is vacant
    You will have to muddle through
    Make sure you fulfill your ambitions
    As you know I’ll be watching you

    And if there’s an occasion
    To mention who you knew
    Speak kindly of that person
    As one day it will be you

    Now i can’t except this ending
    And as it’s time for me to leave
    Please make haste to the reception
    To enjoy my drinks, they’re free!

    By Timothy Coote

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    To Those Whom I Love and Those Who Love Me

    When I am gone, release me, let me go
    I have so many things to see and do
    You must not tie yourself to me with tears
    Be happy that I have had so many years
    I gave you my love, you can only guess
    How much you gave me in happiness
    I think you for the love each have shown
    But now it is time I traveled on alone
    So grieve a while for me, if grieve you must
    Then let your grief be comforted by trust
    It is only for a while that we must part
    So bless the memories in your heart
    I will not be far away, for life goes on
    So if you need me, call and I will come
    Though you can not see or touch me, I will be near
    And if you listen with your heart, you will hear
    All of my love around you soft and clear
    Then, when you must come this way alone
    I will greet you with a smile and a
    “Welcome Home”

    Mary Alice Ramish

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    These are just some of our favorite funeral poems for grandmothers that are out there.

    We hope you liked them and that they have give you a way to remember or say goodbye to your grandmother after she has passed away.

    funeral poems for grandmother