When offering your condolences to those who have suffered a loss one of the most common phrases is ‘you’re in my thoughts and prayers’ (or some variation of that).

It’s a lovely sentiment that may well be true. And it demonstrates understanding of their pain and empathy to the situation.

But you might want to say something else. Something that has been used less, that means more to you or them, or expresses your feelings in a better way.

What you say or write to someone whilst they are grieving can be powerful and important. For them to know friends and family are there with support and love is essential for getting through painful times.

The person receiving your words will appreciate you taking the time and effort to find something more than just ‘you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers’, and may even take greater comfort from them.

So if you’re looking for an alternative to ‘you’re in my thoughts and prayers’ then keep reading as the examples below should help you to offer your condolences with more heartfelt words.

These examples should allow you to express you feelings to friends, family or colleagues who are coping with their grief, or even at a funeral. And in turn offer them even more comfort when they need it most.

What Can I Say Instead of You’re in my Thoughts and Prayers?

  • I am so deeply sorry for your loss
  • I will be thinking of you and sending my love
  • We will miss them more than words can say
  • They touched are lives and so many others
  • Please know I’m always here for you
  • You aren’t alone, we are here for you whatever you may need
  • No words could fully express my sorrow
  • There is nothing more I can say then how deeply sorry I am
  • I love you, please accept my condolences
  • Nothing I can say will ease your pain, but I am forever sorry for losing someone so special

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‘You’re in my Thoughts and Prayers’ Alternatives for a Friend

It can be difficult to find the right words for a friend who has lost someone close to them. Say more than “you’re in my thoughts and prayers” with these alternatives.

  • I will always be there for you, no matter what
  • My heart breaks for you. I am so terribly sorry
  • There is nothing I can do to make this better, but I’ll be by your side all the way
  • Be strong my friend, and know you have the support and love of so many around you
  • Lean on us for comfort in your time of need. We will be there

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Phrases Instead of ‘You’re in my Thoughts and Prayers’ for Family Members

When talking to members of your family who gave lost someone you might struggle to express yourself properly. Hopefully these sayings will help you with what ti say instead of “you’re in my thoughts and prayers”.

  • Family will surround you with love and support
  • May angels bring you peace
  • I was utterly devastated to learn of your loss
  • I know how much you’re hurting and I want to be there to help
  • You won’t be alone to get through this. We will be by your side

For Loss of Parents

The loss of a parent is so tragic. If you know if someone who has lost their mother or father then you can reach out with these alternative phrases for “you’re in my thoughts and prayers”.

  • I hope the love of family and friends will bring you comfort through such tough times
  • May the happy memories you have provide some comfort
  • As you grieve please remember how much you are loved
  • I will always make time for you, if there is anything you need during this tragic time
  • I wish there was something I could do to help ease the pain

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For Loss of a Partner/Spouse

Comfort those who have lost their partner with these unique sympathy messages and sayings.

  • I love you and will be there to support you
  • Hold on to the memories of your loved one and they will never truly leave you
  • When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure
  • Losing a parent is heartbreaking and I am so very sorry
  • It is cruel to have someone so special taken from us. May they rest in peace

Ways to Say ‘You’re in my Thoughts and Prayers’ to a Coworker

Coworkers and colleagues become very close to us and so when they’re dealing with a loss it’s a touching gesture to send a card or gift. These messages will give you something else to say that isn’t “you’re in my thoughts and prayers”.

  • Wishing you love and hope
  • Sending loving hope and thoughts to you and your family
  • Offering my sympathy for your loss
  • I hope you’re coping ok after such an awful loss
  • May your treasured memories be forever held in your heart

‘You’re in my Thoughts and Prayers’ Alternatives for an Acquaintance

Even if you didn’t know someone that well that has suffered a loss it’s still important to express your condolences. These alternative messages will help you when attending a funeral or just talking to an acquaintance who is mourning a death.

  • My deepest sympathy for your loss
  • My sincerest condolence for a tragic loss
  • Wishing you find peace and solace to help you get through
  • What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes part of us
  • Wishing you loving memories to warm your heart, today sad always


Saying “you’re in my thoughts and prayers” may be overused but that is mainly because it’s a loving way of expressing sympathy for someone’s loss. So try not to feel bad or awkward about using it if you want to.

But these alternatives show there are other things you can say. Remember that what you choose to say or write will ultimately be insignificant compared to being there for those grieving, attending the funeral and offering your support. That is what they will appreciate and remember most.

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