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sympathy messages for a natural disaster

When there is a natural disaster, something like an earthquake or tsunami, the devastation can be massive. Sadly many lives are lost and homes destroyed.

It is a time of both national and personal loss, grief and sadness. To the people affected it will be heartbreaking to have lost their loved ones.

You may be wanting to reach out and offer your condolences after losing a loved one in such terrible circumstances.

If so then these sympathy messages for a natural disaster should help you to find the words to offer your condolences and say how sorry for their loss you are.

Sympathy Messages for Natural Disasters

These messages are for any disaster and should be suitable for all different types of catastrophe that has affected someone.


I was so worried when I heard about the disaster. I’m so relieved you’re ok but very sorry you’ve been hit so hard. I’m always here if you need anything


I can’t begin to know what you’re going through. My prayers are for you and your family during this terrible time


I was devastated to learn you had lost someone during the crisis. My deepest condolences and sending my love


You will find the way out of this darkness. There is light at the end of the tunnel. My thoughts and prayers go out to you


Please don’t give up. I know how awful things are now but they will improve. You can always turn to us


Please accept my deepest condolences for the loss of your loved one. This natural disaster has ruined so many lives and I can’t hope to know what you’re going through. Try to find some comfort amongst friends and family. All my love


In such difficult times we will be here for you and your family. Know we are thinking and praying for you


I am relived you and your family are safe but understand how difficult and frightening this must be for you. I pray you find the strength to face the challenges ahead


My sincerest sympathy for your tragic loss. To lose someone like this is utterly heartbreaking and I am so deeply sorry


You are in my thoughts and prayers as you recover from the damage and distress a natural disaster like this has caused. Stay safe and remember I’m always here

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Sympathy Messages for an Earthquake

Earthquakes are incredibly dangerous and can cause immense destruction. It’s not surprising then that many are affected in very severe ways by earthquakes. So use these sympathy messages to reach out to those dealing with the after effects of an earthquake.


My deepest condolences to you after the earthquake. May you find comfort in the arms of loved ones


The scale of the damage and losses was truly tragic. I am so sorry for the loss and pain you’re going through


I can’t imagine how frightening an earthquake must be but I’m sending my love and thoughts to you all


My most heartfelt condolences to you after losing someone so special in the earthquake. May their memory be a blessing


I am so relieved to know you are alive and well after the earthquake. It will take time to recover and the shock may last a while but you have made it through and that’s what’s most important


I can’t even try to understand how difficult it must be to cope after the destruction of an earthquake. Don’t lose hope though – you will get through it and there is light at the end of the tunnel


You have my most heartfelt sympathy to have to go through the terror of an earthquake. You made it through though and can be grateful for that. We will all be by your side as you put things back together again


I was praying for your safety and can’t tell you how pleased I am you were unhurt by the earthquake. Please stay safe amongst the destruction and get in touch when you can


Your safety is paramount and amidst the chaos an earthquake brings I hope you’re feeling ok. I’ll be thinking of you and everyone involved


Sending you love and positive thoughts after your experience of an earthquake. I’m so sorry for everything you lost and the hurt it has caused

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Sympathy Messages for a Flood

Floods can ruin peoples lives and cause real damage as well as being very dangerous. Many lives can be lost in severe flooding as well as the more commonly known ruining of homes and peoples belongings. The messages here will express your sadness and sympathy to those going through floods.


You have lost so much in this flood but you haven’t lost your friends. We will be there to help you recover and rebuild. All is not lost! Sending our love and support


Sending our sympathy during this incredibly difficult time. We wish you better days ahead and that you are able to rebuild your lives as quickly as possible


It was a huge relief to learn you and your family are ok after the floods. I know you’ve lost so much but the main thing is your all alright. If I can help with anything just give me a call


The flooding in your town is dreadful and has shocked us all. We were really worried about you but are extremely relieved to hear you’re safe. May you find the strength needed to get through such hardship and come out the other side


I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with flooding this bad. I am praying and hoping everything improves soon and the damage isn’t too bad


I know you must be dealing with so much right now but I just wanted to reach our and tell you you’re in my heart and I will be thinking of you. Please stay strong and look to us for support of you need it


We wanted to offer our support and sympathy after your were affected by the flooding. Having your life turned upside down by something like this must be awful and we are hoping you have better days in the future


All our sympathy after you were hit by the floods. You’re ok and that’s the most important part but I know you must be so devastated by the damage done. I really hope things aren’t too bad and you can start cleaning up soon

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Sympathy Messages for After a Fire

Fires are too common thankfully but they can be extremely dangerous. If you know someone that has experienced a fire reach out to them with these messages of sympathy.


I am praying for your whole family after the tragedy of your house fire. Please stay strong and know the community will rally around you for help


I was so relieved that you made it safely out of the fire. It was such a terrifying time and though the aftermath will be tough I’m just so pleased you’re alright. All my love


My heartfelt condolences for your loss in the fire. I don’t know what to say other than how sorry I am


The wildfires you’ve had to flee from have been so scary. I’m just so happy you have been evacuated and are safe. I hope the damage they cause isn’t too bad and you get home soon


Thank the Lord you are safe. The fire was so extensive I was fearing the worst. Thankfully you’re ok though! Let me know if there is anything I can do


Please accept my sympathy for the loss and hurt the fire has caused. I know how much you put into your house and so to lose it and all you worked for must be so hard


If you need any help with the aftermath of the fire I will be there for you. Don’t hesitate to reach out.


May my prayers and thoughts offer you some comfort as you recover from the shock of escaping a fire. I’m so sorry you had to go through something so awful

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Sympathy Messages for a Hurricane

A hurricane is one of the worst natural disasters and leaves a trail of destruction in its wake. Send your love and support to those affected by a hurricane with these messages.


You are in my thoughts after the devastation and loss caused by the hurricane. I can’t think of what to say other than how sorry I am


You must be distraught after such a frightening experience. Thankfully it’s all over now but I hope you’re recovering well


I heard you were affected by the hurricane and I was just so happy to learn you’re safe. My prayers were answered and I will be in touch to see if you need anything


I heard the awfulness about the hurricane and wanted to reach out to make sure you were ok. Stay strong


I’m beyond happy you’re safe. I know how dangerous hurricanes can be so I was really worried. I hope everyone else is ok and the damage done isn’t too bad


It’s not fair you have to go through this. If there is anything we can do to help you we will. Please stay as strong as you can


You are so brave! To go through something like a hurricane and come out the way you have is amazing. I’m so sorry it’s been so hard but if there is anyone who can turn things around it’s you


I am so sorry to hear of the losses caused by the hurricane. I am thinking of you and sending my love for you to find some peace after so much trauma


We are so deeply sorry for the devastation you have faced. I know there is light around the corner and you will see good times again

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Words of Comfort After a Shooting

There can be few things more terrifying than a shooting. Being caught in or affected by one must be so frightening. So it’s important to reach out to friends or those you know who have experienced a shooting in some way and try to comfort them.


There are no words to express how sorry I am to learn of your loss. I can’t understand how awful it must be. All I can do is pray for you to find some peace


Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss. Nothing I can say will make up for what has happened but please know you are loved and have those around you to lean on if you need them


I can’t understand or make sense of what has happened. It is beyond heartbreaking. I only hope you can find something to help you through this tragedy


We are praying for the memory of all those lost in the shooting. It’s is horrific and hard to fathom. May they all rest in peace


I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing could ever prepare you for something as devastating as this. I don’t know what else to say other than I will be thinking of you


You aren’t alone. We will be by your side to help you through this tragedy. If we can do anything then we will. I am so, so sorry


If I could I would take away your pain. Nothing could be worse than this. I will be praying for you and your entire family


There is nothing that could be crueller than to lose someone in a shooting. I hope you can find strength and peace in comforting memories

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We hope these condolence messages for natural disasters will have helped you to find the words to offer your sympathy to those going through such tough times.

Facing the consequences of a natural disaster, be that the loss of a loved one or the wreckage of property and your life, is unbelievably tough and will need the support of friends and family. So it’s a good idea to reach out, if only with a few words to comfort them.

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sympathy messages for acquaintances

When an acquaintance or someone we don’t know well suffers a loss it can be hard to know what to say to them. When reaching out to friends and family it’s a little more straightforward as your relationship is stronger.

But with someone you don’t know well, or an acquaintance, your relationship will be very limited. And so knowing how to express your condolences in an appropriate way when you aren’t close and don’t really know them becomes tricky.

Should you say anything? Do you send a card or flowers/gift? What sort of words are suitable?

It’s understandable to find yourself a bit lost and unsure.

So if you’re struggling then try these example condolences messages for an acquaintance or stranger.

Should I Send Condolences to an Acquaintance?

Yes. When it’s a close friend or relative then it’s a good idea to try and send your condolences or reach out as quickly as possible. With an acquaintance or someone you don’t know well there is less of a rush and it’s perfectly acceptable to send your condolences a little later or even after the funeral.

What do you Write in a Sympathy Card for an Acquaintance?

Your condolences to an acquaintance should be similar to those you would say or write to someone close to you. However, you should avoid going over the top or being too sentimental as you don’t know them as well. Stick to words and a message that isn’t too personal.

However, if the deceased was someone you were close to but never met their family, for example, then you may want to consider including a story or anecdote of the deceased on top of your sympathy message.

  • I’m very sorry for your loss
  • I was deeply sorry to learn of your loss
  • My condolences and sympathy during this difficult time
  • You are in my thoughts and prayers
  • Sending my sincere condolences
  • Wishing you strength and support for the coming days
  • My most heartfelt condolences for your tragic loss
  • May you find comfort from the love of your family and friends

condolence message for acquaintance

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To a Family you Never Met

  • I was lucky enough to know your dad for many years and although we never met I wanted to reach out to say how sorry I am for your loss. He was a great guy and will be sorely missed
  • Your mom and I were colleagues and became a really good friend to me. We would always chat on our coffee breaks and moan about our boss! I’m really going to miss her
  • Having your husband and father as an employee was a gift. His hard work and dedication were second to none and he always looked after anyone struggling or that needed help. Everyone at the office was so deeply shocked when he passed away and we are all sending our condolences
  • I know we don’t know each other very well but your daughter was an incredibly gifted student who was a pleasure to teach. I know she will be dearly missed

What do you Write in a Sympathy Card for a Stranger?

When it’s a stranger you haven’t met or don’t know at all then what you write in a card or say to them should be straightforward. As you don’t know them at all stick to non-personal, common sentiments to express your sadness for their loss.

  • We are sorry for your loss
  • With sympathy and my best wishes
  • In memory of [name]
  • I will be thinking of and praying for you
  • Hoping you can find comfort amongst the pain
  • Sending our sympathy for your loss
  • May [name] rest in peace
  • My thoughts are with you. May you find some peace

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Condolence Messages for Acquaintances


My heart is breaking for you. What a terrible loss. Please accept my condolences


I can’t begin to understand how awful this is for you but I wish to send my sympathy and love


My deepest condolences for your loss of and I hope you can find some peace


I know we don’t know each other well but I wanted to send a brief note to say I how sorry I was to learn of your loss


We may not be well acquainted but I know how heartbreaking losing someone special is. You will be in my thoughts and I will be wishing you the best during this dark time


Even though we aren’t very close I can be there to help if there is anything you need. My condolences


Sending my sincerest sympathy for your loss. May [name of the deceased] rest in peace


We may not have ever gotten to know each other but your father/mother was a wonderful person who meant the world to me. I am so very sorry to hear of their passing


The memory of [name of deceased] shall never be forgotten. They were a truly special person who will be missed dearly by so many


My most heartfelt condolences for your loss. It is always so cruel to have someone taken from us too soon


To lose someone so special to you is tragic and though we may not be close friends I understand how tough this must be for you. I hope you find comfort and strength in your friends and family


With all my sympathy I wish you to get through such a painful loss


As a family we wanted to express our condolences and our sympathy for your loss. We may not be close but we know how awful it is losing a family member


Whilst we haven’t gotten to know one another very well yet I wanted to offer a friendly ear if you ever needed to talk. I know how difficult the grief can be after losing someone and talking can help


Hold on to the memories of those no longer with you. Keep them in your heart and that person will never truly be gone


My deepest sympathies to you and your family. May you support each other through what must be a tremendously difficult time

Knowing what to say to a stranger or acquaintance when they’ve experienced a bereavement is very tricky. So if you’ve felt unsure over how to approach it don’t feel bad.

But hopefully the example sympathy messages and ideas of what to say provided here will have helped you find the right words. Remember that reaching out to say something is always going to be appreciated even if your words aren’t perfect.

Keep that in mind and whatever you choose to write or say will be just fine.

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When you lose a father it is a pain like almost nothing else. Something that can compare though is the loss of a stepfather.

A stepfather may not be a direct relation but that doesn’t stop the real bonds that form with them.

So when one passes away it is understandably a period of grief and pain for the family and friends affected.

If you know of someone who has lost their stepfather then you are going to want to send or offer your condolences.

But knowing what to write or to say in a sympathy message is hard. You want to offer your condolences for losing someone so special to them whilst remaining respectful. Your words should be genuine and heartfelt.

So if you’re having trouble with finding the right thing to say then try these condolence messages for a stepfathers death.

Short Sympathy Messages for Loss of Stepfather

    My condolences for your loss

    I am dreadfully sorry to learn of your step fathers passing

    I will be thinking of and wishing you peace during this tragic time

    My sympathy for the loss of your stepfather

    If there is anything you need then I am here for you

    Sending my sincere sympathy for your terrible loss

    We will always remember your stepfather

    It was so awful to hear of your stepfathers passing. You will be in our prayers and our thoughts

    My heartfelt condolences for your loss. Don’t hesitate to get in touch if there’s anything I can do

    Whether you need someone to listen or talk to I can be there

    I’m really sorry for your loss. Your stepfather was a wonderful person

    The memory of your stepfather will always be in your heart. May he rest in peace

    My thoughts are with you and hope you are coping. I’m so sorry

    I just wanted to send a note to say I hope you’re doing ok and that I’m thinking of you

    We wanted to express our condolences for your loss. We are all here for you

    My deepest condolences for the loss of your stepfather

    I will never be able to understand what you’re going through but I can be there with love and support when you need it most

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Words of Sympathy for Loss of Stepfather

    I was terribly sorry to hear of your stepfathers passing. You will be in my thoughts and prayers in the coming days and weeks

    My sympathy for the loss of your stepfather. Sending warm and loving condolences to you and your family

    I wanted to send this note after learning of your loss to let you know just how sorry I am. I hope you’re getting by and have the support you need

    I am deeply sorry to hear of your stepfathers passing. I could see how close you were and had built such a strong relationship. You have my sympathy and condolences for your loss

    We were so shocked and saddened to learn of your loss. It’s so awful and your stepfather will be missed greatly. We hope you are coping and finding support amongst family and friends

    Losing someone so important is such a shock and if there is anything that you need, be it help with the funeral or just someone to talk to then please don’t think twice about getting in touch. All my love

    My deepest condolences for your loss. To lose such a loved member of the family is heartbreaking. May your stepfather rest in peace

    I hope during such a tough time your friends and family are by your side to help you through the worst of it. My warmest condolences

    My Sympathy for your heart wrenching loss. You are in my thoughts and I will pray for you to find some peace

    May the good times you and your stepfather had provide some peace and comfort as you mourn their passing. My condolences

    Always remember the wonderful memories you made with your stepdad. May they sustain you through the hardest moments. My sympathy and love after your loss

    Try to stay as strong as you can and hold on to the good memories you have. If you need me then I can be there for you

    My sincerest condolences for such a painful loss. I am praying you are getting by and want to make it clear that I’m only a phone call away if you needed me

    I was lucky to know your stepfather and what a great guy he was. He will be missed greatly. Sending my sympathy and thoughts

condolence message for loss of stepfather

    My heart aches for you after losing someone so important from your life. I don’t know how much it will help but I know your friends and family will be there to rally round you and help you get through the grief

    Your stepdad was a really brilliant man and he leaves behind such a wonderful legacy. My condolences

    I understand my words will offer very little to help your grief but I am here and thinking of you as you mourn your stepfathers death

    My prayers will be for you and the hope you will find some peace. Please accept my condolences for a truly sad loss

    I am thinking of you and your family as you go through the pain of losing your stepfather. I hope you are finding the strength to get by

    If you need a friend to talk to or shoulder to cry on then please turn to me. I can always be there for you, don’t hesitate to reach out

    May your stepdads memory and legacy last forever. His warmth and kindness will never be forgotten

    May the memories you and your stepfather made sustain you through the pain of his loss, and his spirit never leave you. My condolences and love

    I know your stepdad will be looking down from heaven and watching over you. He will always be with you. All my love

    When we lose someone truly special from our lives it is utterly heartbreaking. But you must turn to friends and family to help you through these incredibly hard times. Please remember we are all here for you

    May your stepfathers memory continue to bring you some relief even after he has gone. He was so proud of you

    I don’t think I can hope to understand how hard this must be but I will do all I can to be there and support you however you need me to. You gave my deepest and most sincere condolences for the loss of your stepfather

Hopefully these messages of sympathy for the loss of a stepfather will have given you some ideas of what to say to someone who has experienced a bereavement.

It can be tough to find the right words to express your sympathy. But if you make sure you believe what you say and are honest, talking from your heart, then those mourning their passed loved one will appreciate you kindness and knowing they are not alone.

Sympathy Messages for Loss of Stepfather

sympathy messages for loss of stepmother

Losing a mother is unbelievably painful. And losing your stepmother is no different.

Whilst she may not have been your birth mother she becomes just like one. You form a bond and relationship that is like no other.

So when a stepmother passes away it is an incredibly sad and difficult time. For the whole family.

If you know someone that has sadly lost their stepmother then you will probably want to offer your sympathy and condolences.

But knowing what to say or write isn’t easy. Coming up with the right words is hard, especially when you want to make sure you express your sadness for their terrible loss.

So if you’re struggling with knowing what to say then try these example condolences messages for the death of a stepmother.

Short Sympathy Messages for Loss of Stepmother

My deepest condolences for your terrible loss

I am deeply sorry to hear of your stepmother’s passing

You are in my thoughts during a time of such a tragic loss

My most sincere sympathy for your stepmother’s passing

If you need me then I am here for you. My condolences

Sending my condolences and sympathy for your loss

Your stepmother will be remembered so warmly

It was shocking to hear of your stepmother’s death. You are in our thoughts and prayers

My heartfelt condolences for your loss. If you need anyone to talk to I am always here

If you need a shoulder to cry on or friendly ear I’m just a phone call away

I’m very sorry for your loss. Your stepmother was a truly wonderful person

Your stepmother’s memory shall always be with you, and the amazing memories you made

I can’t begin to understand how hard this must be but I am so sorry

This is just a note to say how sad I was to hear the news and that I’m thinking of you and your family

We wanted to reach out and express our condolences. We are thinking of you

My condolences for the loss of your beloved stepmom

I don’t know how difficult this must be for you but I wanted to offer my love and sympathy during such a hard time

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Words of Sympathy for Loss of Step Mother

I was terribly sorry to learn of your stepmother’s passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers during such a difficult moment and want you to know I am always there for you

My deepest condolences for the loss of your stepmom. I am sending warm and loving thoughts your way and hoping you can find some peace in the coming days

After hearing the news I wanted to reach out to you and send my condolences and my love. I really hope you’re feeling ok and coping

I am so sorry. I know you were so close to your stepmom. My condolences for your loss

We we’re deeply saddened when we learnt of your loss. It is such a tragedy to lose someone so special and we wanted to send our condolences and let you know you are in our thoughts

Please don’t think twice about getting in touch if there is anything you need. After losing someone so special I will make sure I’m there for you

To lose any member of the family is so awful. You have my most heartfelt condolences and I’m sending you my love and prayers

I hope the love and support of family and friends can help you find the strength to get through what must be such a devastating time. My condolences

My sympathy for your terrible loss. I won’t ever be able to understand how hard this is for you but I will be thinking of and praying for you

May the treasure memories of your stepmom offer you some peace and comfort during this awful moment. All my love and sympathy

Always remembered those amazing times you had with your stepmom abs what an incredible person she was. My condolences

Try to stay strong and think of only the good times. If you need me know that I will always be there

Sending my deepest and most heartfelt condolences for your tragic loss. I hope you are getting by and wanted to reach out to say that I am here if I’m ever needed

condolence message for loss of stepmother

Your stepmother was a truly special person and her loss will be felt by so many. We were lucky to know her and she leaves behind a hole that cannot be filled. My love and thoughts

Amongst the worst times your family and friends will rally around you for supper. My heart gives out to you and wishes you some peace after such pain

Your stepmom was such a brilliant person and their loss has shaken us all. Please accept our condolences

I understand there is little I can do to help the pain and that my words may mean nothing but I want to let you know just how sorry I am and that I’m thinking of you

I am praying you can find some peace and comfort after losing your stepmother. You have my most sincere sympathy

I am thinking of you and your family as you try to come to terms with losing someone so important. I am so deeply sorry

If you need a friend to listen or a shoulder to cry on then I will be there. You don’t have to face this alone and have all the love of your friends

May the spirit of your stepmother always be with you. Her warmth and kindness will forever be a reminder of what a wonderful person she was. My condolences

I really hope that the cherished memories you have of your stepmom will provide some comfort in the face of such pain. May her love and spirit sustain you as you mourn her passing

Your stepmother will be watching over and smiling down on you from heaven. If there is anything I can do please just ask

After losing someone so wonderful it is friends and family who will be there to help you through the grief. I will do all I anti be there for and comfort you. My sympathy for this devastating loss

May those touching memories of your stepmother be something you can hold onto as you mourn her passing. With loved ones support you will get through this

There is no way I can understand just how hard this is for you but I want to do all I can to share and help with the pain. No matter what I will always be by your side. You have my most heartfelt condolences for the loss of your stepmother

We hope the condolence messages for the loss of a step mother here have helped you to show your support and sympathy for those going through the loss of their stepmom.

Stepmother’s may not seem as important as regular mothers but that doesn’t mean losing one won’t cause real pain and grief. Reach out and offer a few words of sympathy and those suffering will appreciate you taking the time to show you care.

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condolence etiquette tips

Sending or writing condolences is an incredibly hard thing to do. You have to try and find the words to show how sorry you are for losing someone special to them.

And let’s be honest – what words could possibly hope to do that? It is impossible to think a few sentences expressing your sadness for someone’s loss and letting them know you’re thinking of them could alleviate any pain and anguish they’re suffering.

But that doesn’t mean it isn’t worthwhile. Whilst you can’t stop the pain and grief that losing someone brings, your words and the kindness you show will have more of an impact than you realise.

Which is why we offer our condolences, show sympathy and be there for those mourning a passed loved one.

So if you’re feeling nervous and aren’t sure about the etiquette surrounding condolences then keep reading. We’re going to go through how to write them, who they’re for, what to say, when to send them and where, and much more.

What does Condolences Mean?

Sending condolences is when you express your sympathy for someone’s loss. You send your condolences by offering sympathy and kind words to comfort them after losing a loved one. It shows you are thinking of and care about them as they mourn and grieve the loss of someone special.

Condolence or Condolences: Which is Correct?

Both are acceptable but the plural of the word – ‘condolences’ – is the much more commonly used term. You would probably say “please accept my deepest condolences” rather than “please accept my deepest condolence”. Condolences are like feelings – you have more than one, so we say and write it that way.

When to Send Condolences

You should try to send your condolences as quickly as you can. So send some flowers, a card or condolence message as soon as you learn of the death of their loved one. If you know when the funeral is then you can also send a card or note a few days before that as well.

If for some reason you are unable to send your condolences at the time of the passing then you can still do so at a later date. A late message is better than none.

For examples of what to say if you’re late with your message and the etiquette around it try our belated condolence messages.

Who Do you Say My Condolences to?

If you are sending a condolence message or card for someone you knew well but didn’t know their family then you should send it to the closest relative to the deceased. So their children or widowed partner.

If you are sending your sympathy card to the grieving family but didn’t know the deceased then you address it to them rather than whoever it was that passed away.

How to Send a Condolence Message

There are different ways you can send condolence messages:

  • The most usual is in a card, either on it’s own or with flowers/a gift. Condolence or sympathy cards can be bought in many places, both in store and online, or you could send an eCard. Whichever you choose there will be space or the option to include a condolence message
  • A note or letter is also an acceptable way of sending your condolences. This will usually be longer than a simple sympathy message and possibly include more personal details or memories of the deceased
  • You can also send a condolence email. An email is a good choice for different types of people that aren’t your close friends or family – your boss, for example
  • A text message may seem impersonal but as everyone uses their phones so much and texts for most things it’s not seem as being unusual or rude. If you can then a card or letter is preferable but if there’s no other option then a text is acceptable
  • Facebook is used to by virtually everyone nowadays so sharing a message of sympathy on there is also a good way to reach someone you don’t know that well
  • And of course you can always offer your condolences in person

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Appropriate Phrases to use as Condolences

  • I am so sorry for your loss
  • My deepest condolences to you and your family
  • You are in our thoughts and prayers
  • You have my most sincere sympathy for your tragic loss
  • My heart aches for you. I am deeply sorry
  • [names] memory will live on in our hearts, forever
  • My heartfelt sympathy for such a terrible loss
  • If there is anything I can do to help just let me know. I will be there for you
  • [name] will be remembered so warmly by us all
  • I just wanted to reach out and say I’m thinking if you during such a difficult time

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Can you Say Deepest Condolences

Yes. If you are trying to find the right words for a condolence message then saying something like please accept my deepest condolences for your loss is a good choice of words to comfort someone.

How Late can you Send a Condolence Card

It is never too late to send a condolence message or card to show someone you are thinking of them after a loss. Yes, it’s preferable to do it as soon as you can but it’s better to express those feelings belatedly rather than say nothing at all.

Do you Put Kisses on a Condolence or Sympathy Card

Yes, you definitely can do so if you think it’s appropriate and you know the recipient or family well. If they are more like acquaintances then you may think it a little too informal or inappropriate considering you aren’t close. Use your judgement on each case.

Is it Appropriate to Send Money in a Condolence Card

Giving money or a donation with a condolence card is a very thoughtful gesture. Sometimes people give charitable donations on behalf of the deceased or money to the family to help with the funeral costs. Whatever you choose you can include a short message letting the family know the money is for wherever they see fit.

You shouldn’t feel pressured into including money with your condolences but if you can, and you feel it’s appropriate, then it is a lovely thought and will no doubt be appreciated.

Do you Send Thank You Cards for Condolences

When you receive a sympathy or condolence card it is polite to reply or respond with a thank you note. This is especially true if someone has helped in some way, be that sending a gift or flowers, a donation or assisted with the funeral, for example.

Is Condolence only used for Death

The word condolence and it’s meaning can be used for anything where someone is suffering. It is an expression of sympathy and while mostly used when someone has suffered a loss it is also suitable when someone is unwell, lost their job or a relationship has ended. When you use it you are showing understanding of their situation and empathy, sharing in their pain.

For some examples of condolences being used other than for the death of someone see these articles:

Conclusion

Sending your condolences is a kind gesture when someone has suffered a loss. But it can be fraught with difficult manners and etiquette to navigate.

It’s no surprise many of us feel nervous about what to say and how to say it. Hopefully this guide will have answered any questions you have and made you a lot more comfortable when reaching out to friends or family to offer your condolences.

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how to respond to condolences and sorry for your loss

Knowing how to respond to condolences people have sent or offered can be difficult. Coming soon after losing someone means the pain will still be raw and the grief at it’s most powerful.

Which makes coming up with a response much tougher. Trying to decide what to say or write to acknowledge sympathy messages and show your appreciation probably sounds quite daunting.

Even more so when you have to do so whilst dealing with a recent bereavement.

In a time of such suffering how do you respond to ‘sorry for your loss’ or other fairly benign condolence messages?

Well hopefully this simple to follow guide and the tips provided here will take away some of the stress and help you with how to reply.

How to Respond to Condolences?

The most simple way to reply to condolences or someone saying “sorry for your loss” is with a few words of thanks. Try these quick and short thank you messages for condolences:

  • Thank you for thinking of me. I really appreciated your kind words
  • Your support has been invaluable during this difficult time. I am so grateful
  • Knowing friends were thinking of me was a real help when I was feeling low. Thank you all
  • We appreciate all the thoughts and prayers we have received. Thank you
  • Thank you to everyone who sent messages of sympathy. We were touched by the outpouring of support
  • Your kindness during such a time of pain didn’t go unnoticed. We appreciate it enormously
  • Thank you for your love and sympathy
  • I am very grateful for your prayers and thoughts

Those are just some very straightforward examples of what you could say. But depending on who you are replying or offering your thanks to what you say will change.

For specific wording ideas for responding in person, via email, with a card and even on Facebook keep reading.

How to Respond to ‘I’m Sorry for your Loss’?

Generally, when someone has passed away and people say I’m sorry for your loss, there are a few ways to respond:

  • Thank them for their message
  • Express your appreciation
  • Explain why you cannot at the moment
  • Do nothing

Most people will choose to send a quick thank you message. It doesn’t need to be more than a few words.

The recipient won’t be expecting anything more than a simple “thank you” and will understand how hard it is for you during such a terrible time.

Perhaps when you’re feeling a little better or have come to terms with your loss somewhat you can go a bit further than that. Express your gratitude for their message or support.

It needn’t be anything too wordy but perhaps a few more words than a standard thank you. This could be in the form of a thank you card.

Some people may choose to send a very short message explaining why they don’t feel up to replying to condolences properly at that time. That’s perfectly acceptable (and discussed in the etiquette of responding to condolences further down)

And many of those grieving just won’t feel ready to speak to anyone, full stop. They may want to be left alone completely, in which no response is acceptable as well.

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How to Respond to Condolences in Person?

After you’ve lost someone there will come a point where you will come face to face with people who will offer their condolences.

You might feel uncomfortable having to deal with and be expected to reply to their words of sympathy, however well meaning it is.

You shouldn’t feel guilty though. It’s understandable to want to avoid too much small talk or being reminded of your loss.

Grief takes a long time before it begins to pass. So whilst your still going through that process it can be extremely difficult to talk about the person you have lost.

But if you would like to say something then try the examples below of how to reply in person and choose a few to learn so that you’re prepared when meeting someone face to face.

  • Thank you for your message of sympathy and your ongoing support. We are very grateful
  • We appreciate you making the effort to be with us today. [deceased’s name] would have wanted you here
  • I was so touched by all the help and support you’ve shown. I won’t forget it
  • Having the love and support of friends like you has made getting through such a difficult time more bearable. Thank you
  • Thank you for the kindness when I needed it most
  • The flowers you sent were beautiful and I appreciated the gesture. It really brightened my day
  • Your generous donation and condolences were a huge help when I needed it most. Thank you for thinking of me
  • We were so touched by your sympathy, understanding and all the help you’ve offered. It has been such a relief to have you by our side

How to Respond to Condolences on Facebook

You may find people <reach out with their condolences by posting on Facebook. If so then this might be easier to reply to than in person.

A simple message of thanks to whoever has sent/posted some kind words of sympathy is fairly quick and simple.

You could also post an update that thanks everyone who has offered their condolences, meaning you don’t have to respond to each one individually.

This can save time and energy when you’re already feeling drained from grieving your loss.

Use these responses for a guide of the sort of things to say:

  • Thank you for your message of support. I really appreciate it
  • Thanks to everyone for the lovely messages of support. It means the world to me knowing all my friends are there if I need them
  • The support of those closet to us has really been a help in getting through such a tough time. Your messages were a big part of that and we are very grateful for your kind words
  • Thank you your lovely messages of sympathy. My whole family appreciates it so much
  • Seeing such an outpouring of support on Facebook has helped lift my mood on a day when I was really feeling down. Thank you all
  • Your kind words didn’t go unnoticed. Thank you, seeing all the messages is such a comfort

Responding to Condolences via Email

Replying to condolences you’ve received, be it from a card, message or email itself, can be time consuming.

Responding with an email is a good way to speed up the process. You can send a very similar email, maybe using a template, to every person who has contacted you.

This will make the process a lot simpler and faster but still let those kind enough to have sent their condolences know you really appreciated it.

Try these thank you email examples you can customize for your own circumstances:

Dear _______,

Thank you for your email and lovely words. It has been so comforting to have friends reach out to show they are there for me if I need them. I am coping ok and whilst not ready yet I look forward to seeing you in the near future.

All my love,

_______

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Dear _______,

Your flowers and card were a beautiful gesture and I can’t tell you how much I appreciated them. I am grateful for all the love and support you and others have shown. It’s amazing to see how much my friends care, and that I have them to rely on when times are tough.

Kind regards,

_______

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How to Respond to Condolences from your Boss

When your boss sends you a message of condolence it can be hard to know how to reply. But even though you might see your boss as someone important, respected and possibly even superior to your self, they are still like everyone else.

They are just another person feeling sorry for your loss and wanting you to know they’re thinking of you.

So how you respond to them needn’t be any different to anybody else.

SEE MORE: Condolence Messages for Boss

Sending a Thank You Card for Condolences

Responding to condolences with a thank you card is another good way to show your appreciation. You can find thank you cards that come with prewritten notes/messages but if you’d prefer to write your own here are a few ideas and templates of messages you can use:

Dear _______,

I appreciated your kind words at such a difficult time. It means a lot to know that friends are there for support when I need them most.

Sincerely,

_______

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Dear _______,

We are so grateful for all the help and support you’ve shown both with the funeral and wake. It has been such a blessing to have you with us at such a difficult time.

With love,

_______

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Dear _______,

I’m sorry this is late but I hope you can understand. Your prayers and comforting words were greatly appreciated and I hope we will see each other see under better circumstances.

Kind regards,

_______

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Dear _______,

Thank you so much for your card and flowers, they really cheered me up. It’s been a real help to know I have friends thinking of and there for me.

Yours sincerely,

_______

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Etiquette for Responding to Condolences

There are a few things you should remember when responding to condolences:

  • Some people do more than just offer their condolences. They may have sent money or a donation, provided help when you needed it with chores or at the funeral, cooked food for you etc. If so then make sure to mention and thank them for that specifically in your response
  • It’s better to send a card or note of thanks even if it’s late. People will understand you forgetting or not feeling ready so you shouldn’t feel embarrassed or put off from sending one even if it’s a later than you would have liked
  • Writing your thank you note or card by hand isn’t necessary but it is a nice touch. If you can do it and it isn’t too much hassle then it will certainly be appreciated
  • Not replying or responding is acceptable. Coping with a loss can be overwhelming so don’t feel pressured into quickly replying to every message you get. If you just don’t feel ready or capable then don’t. Everyone will understand and not judge you if that is the case

Conclusion

When dealing with bereavement it can be so hard to even function normally. So having to find the time and words to respond to condolences from well meaning people is often stressful and very difficult.

But you shouldn’t feel pressured to do so. Everyone will understand if you feel you can’t.

Hopefully the examples and tips provided here will have helped if you have decided to reply to express your gratitude abs thanks in the best way possible.

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condolence messages for boss

Knowing how to offer your condolences to your boss can be difficult. Or to those who have lost their boss. It’s hard enough finding the words to offer your support and comfort in a sympathy message for friends or family.

But bosses are the ones that lead. They are in charge, and so take charge. It can be odd to think of them as being vulnerable and in pain.

When anyone experiences a loss though it has a really dramatic effect. And your boss or their employees will be no different.

Which is why you should make the effort to reach out and show them you are thinking of them. A simple message of sympathy or few words to acknowledge their loss is a gesture that will be appreciated.

So use these condolence messages for bosses to show your sympathy to a manager for his or her loss. Or to an employee who has lost their boss and is grieving.

Short Sympathy Messages for your Boss

These simple and short condolence messages to your boss are perfect for a card or note with flowers.


I am so sorry to learn of your loss. Please accept my condolences


My thoughts are with you during this time of loss


I may never understand how difficult this is your you but I wanted to offer my sympathy and support


My most heartfelt condolences for losing someone so special from your life


We all wanted to extended our condolences to you during such a difficult time


This note is just to say I’m thinking of you and wishing you peace and better days ahead


It was awful to learn of your tragic loss. I can’t say how sorry I really am


I am praying for you to find some comfort after losing someone so special


Hold on to the memories you have and let them comfort you during this time of grief


I wanted to let you know I’m always there for you, no matter what. My condolences


I hope you can remember the good times that you had and hold those memories forever in your heart


My heart aches for you. I’m so sorry for your loss

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Condolence Messages to your Boss

These message are for when your boss has suffered a loss and you want to show your support and sympathy.


You have been our rock and leader, and now we will be there for you. It doesn’t matter what you need you can depend on us for support and love, hoping you find comfort in the memories of your departed loved ones. All our love and condolences


May you find some comfort in the wonderful memories you made and never forget the special times. Sending my love and sympathy


Losing a loved one is absolutely devastating, and I am thinking of you as you try to cope with such a terrible loss. I hope you can find some peace and turn to friends and family for comfort. My most heartfelt condolences


I can’t begin to understand how hard this is for you and your whole family. I only hope you can find the strength to get through it. Sending my most sincere loving sympathy for your loss


I am deeply sorry to learn of your loss. I know how special he/she was to you and the amazing person they were. If I can be there for you in any way I will do my best. You are in my thoughts and prayers


At a time like this the last thing you should be concerned about is work or the office. We will all pitch in and keep things running. Your focus should be on you and your family, and taking as long as you need to process and grieve a shocking loss. My condolences


May the memory of your departed loved on live on through those cherished memories you have. Sending my deepest condolences to you


I’m not sure what to say as I know nothing will stop the pain and grief or bring back your loved one. But I still wanted to reach out and offer my sympathy, and hope you always remember them and the happiness they brought to your life


Even though our loved ones are cruelly taken from us we must never forget the memories of them we have. May they bring you some solace and comfort amidst the terrible pain of your loss. My most sincere condolences


Saying goodbye to someone so important is one of the hardest things we ever do. May you find the strength and courage to let them go and the loving memories you made provide some comfort throughout this devastating time. You will be in my thoughts


Please accept my sympathy and condolences for such a dreadful loss. Take as long as you need to get through the grief and pain, and know that everyone will work tirelessly to keep the business running smoothly and without issues. I hope this can relieve any worries you have and allow you to focus on your family when they need you most


My heart aches for you. You have always been such a pillar of strength for us and the whole team will be there for you now that you need us. We send our most sincere condolences


I really hope that you can find love and support in the warm embrace of family and friends. I know it won’t take the pain of losing someone away but having those closest to you to help get through the grieving process can make it easier. You will remain in my thoughts and my prayers

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Short Sympathy Messages for the Loss of a Boss

If you know someone who’s boss passed away then try these sympathy messages for a card or note.


My condolences for the loss of your boss


So sorry to learn of your bosses passing


My sympathy for your bosses tragic passing away


Please accept my condolence for the loss of someone very special to you


I’m very sorry for your loss. I know how much you respected your boss


My heartfelt condolences for the loss of your manager


It was dreadful to hear of your bosses death. I hope you’re coping


You are in my thoughts and prayers after the shocking and sudden loss of your manager


You are in my thoughts during such a difficult time


If you need anything then I can be there for you. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch


Offering my condolences and support for your awful loss


My sincerest sympathy for your loss. I know your boss was very important to you

Words of Sympathy for the Loss of a Boss

Use these messages to offer your support to someone who has lost their boss and is dealing with the grief of not having that special person in their life and anymore.


I’m really sorry for the loss of your boss. I know how much you respected and thought highly of him/her. It’s not easy for someone important to be taken like this. You have my sympathy and I’m sending warm thoughts your way


May you always remember a manager that inspired and nurtured you at work. I’m sorry you had to lose him/her so soon and wish you comfort and support through this time of grief


My deepest sympathy for the passing of your boss. I know you saw him/her as a mentor and the guidance they gave you invaluable. May they rest in peace


You have said how much you got on with your boss and so to lose them in these circumstances is just awful. I’m so sorry and hope you’re coping ok. Please don’t think twice about reaching out if you need anything


Please accept my condolences for the loss of your beloved boss. He/she was a truly outstanding manager and inspired a fantastic work ethic amongst everyone they managed. It’s a sad day to have lost them


The office won’t be the same without your boss now, but try to remember those fantastic memories you have of all they did for you. My sympathy for losing a special person from your life


All my sympathy and love. Your boss was more than just the person in charge at work, but a friend. So losing them must be so sad. I am deeply sorry and hope you are able to find some solace from knowing how much he/she cared about you


My condolences for the tragic passing of your boss. He/she was a unique and inspiring force that I know really helped you in your career. I will be thinking of you as you grieve


To my friend – I wish you peace and sympathy whilst you grieve your lost boss. May the memories you have of them sustain you through this tragic time. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch if you need someone to talk to


I wish to express my most sincere sympathy for the passing away of your boss. May his/her legacy be the incredible workplace they left behind, and the success of the company. My condolences

Hopefully these condolences messages have been helpful in finding the right words to say or write to your boss.

Whatever you do decide on just reaching out and offering your sympathy, regardless of the words you use, will be warmly appreciated and received.

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condolence messages for loss of teacher

If you’ve lost a teacher, or know someone who has lost a mentor, you may be wanting to reach out with a condolence message to them or their family.

Some of the most important people in our lives are teachers. They help us to learn, grow and come of age.

Many of us will have those special teachers from our school or college days that made a subject come alive. Maybe even set us on the path to the career we now have.

So when a teacher sadly passes away it can be a real shock.

It might not seem like losing an educator would be as significant as losing a loved one or friend but it can have a real impact on people.

So use these sympathy messages to offer your condolences to the family of a beloved teacher or to support someone you know that is grieving the loss of a teacher.

Short Sympathy Messages for Loss of Teacher


I’m so sorry for the loss of your favorite teacher. You are in my thoughts


My condolences for the passing of your teacher


My sympathy for your beloved teachers passing


Offering my condolences for the loss of someone so special


If you need anyone to talk to then I will be there for you


Your teacher will always be in your heart


The lessons they taught you can never be forgotten. My condolences


Sending my love and support during this difficult time


My heartfelt condolences for the loss of your mentor


Just a quick note to say how sorry I was to learn of your teachers passing


I’m sure you teacher is looking down on you with pride. You have made them proud. My sincere sympathy


It was so sad to learn of your teachers passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers

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Words of Sympathy for Loss of Teacher


I know how special your teacher was to you and how much of an impact they had in your life. I’m really sorry you’ve lost them. Please accept my sincerest condolences


He/she was a wonderful teacher and inspiration to so many. It is with such sadness that I offer my sympathy your loss


Saying goodbye to someone so special is incredibly hard, and losing a teacher that helped you like he/she did must be devastating. I hope you can find comfort in the memories you have of him/her


The lessons you learnt will last forever, as will those treasured memories you have. I’m very sorry for your loss though and wish you strength and peace


Please accept my condolences for the loss of your teacher, someone I know you looked up to so much. May his/her teachings be a mark of their legacy and continue to inspire you


I can’t begin to understand what you’re going through right now but remember you are not alone. Everyone will be there for support and comfort. My condolences


My deepest sympathy for the loss of your mentor. I know how proud they were of you and all you’ve achieved


I wanted to reach out and let you know how sad I was to hear of your teachers death. Nothing can prepare you for losing someone like that. I hope you’re coping ok and if you need someone to talk to I’m always just a phone call away


I’m very sorry to learn of your teachers tragic passing. I know how much you looked up them. My condolences for your loss


May the lessons learned and knowledge taught by your teacher bring some light to this dark moment. You have my sympathy and I will be thinking of you


We were deeply saddened to learn
of your loss. It’s such a shame to lose someone so important. We just wanted to send our condolences and let know you are in our thoughts


Sending my sympathy and comforting thoughts your way after a really terrible loss

He will be remembered as a fine teacher and great person. We are all extremely sad to learn of his passing away. Our condolences

I understand you’ve lost someone very special to you and want to be there if you need anyone. Sending my love

My deepest sympathy for your loss. Losing a beloved teacher can hurt so much. I’m sending my best thoughts and prayers to you

I hope the people around you provide the support and comfort you need to help you through this dreadful time. My most heartfelt condolences

RIP Quotes for Teacher Who Passed Away


May he/she be looking down on us from a better place. Rest in peace


To an amazing teacher but an even better person. Someone you could call a friend as well as mentor. May his/her soul rest in peace


His/her advice and guidance were the cornerstones to help so many grow. He/she will never be forgotten


The wisdom he/she helped bring to so many will live on long after him/her. May they rest in heaven


Very few were able to make a subject as fun and accessible as ______. They were an amazing teacher and will be missed greatly. RIP


He was a brilliant and compassionate teacher who inspired me to achieve more than I thought possible. I will always be grateful to him. May his soul find peace


I will be indebted to ______ for as long as I live. I am the person I am today because of him. I pray that he is in heaven watching down on me, always


She was as a force of good in this world. So many young lives were lucky to have been influenced and shaped by her. It was a blessing to have worked alongside such a wonderful teacher. I will miss her so much


There won’t be a better teacher than Mr/Mrs ______. They were like no other: inspirational, down to earth and kind but with a passion so strong. Teaching has lost one of its best but we have lost a friend and shining star. Rest in peace


My favorite teacher from school has gone, and I am deeply affected by his passing. I owe him so much in igniting my passion for learning and helping me find my voice. We have lost someone very special


It feels so strange to not have him with us anymore. He was one of those people who it felt like would always be here. It’s such a shame and whilst we have lose a beloved teacher, future students have lost the chance to be taught by someone truly special

The loss of a teacher can bring up unexpected emotions and a grief that many may not be prepared for. So even if you don’t think of losing a mentor or teacher as all that significant you shouldn’t dismiss it too quickly.

Make sure you are there for a friend or loved one and be sure to give them all the support and love that they need.

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condolence messages for veterans and soldiers

Those who serve in the military, who put their lives on the line for our safety and freedom – they are heroes.

They deserve our utmost respect for what they do and the sacrifices they so often make or have made.

Unfortunately the biggest sacrifice they sadly make is giving their lives for us. Death as a result of military duty or as a veteran after having served is all too common.

So when it happens we should do all we can to reach out to the families and friends of those who have passed away.

Showing our support and that we are thinking of them, as well as honoring the deceased hero is important.

So if you’re having trouble knowing what to say in a condolence message for a veteran or soldier hopefully the examples below will help you find the perfect words.

Military Condolences for Lost Soldiers


Your son is a true hero and a credit to you. He brought honor to the uniform he wore and the sacrifice he made for what he believed shall never be forgotten


The loss of your son was not in vain. He gave the ultimate sacrifice for the country he loved. That makes him nothing less than a hero, and he will always be remembered that way. My deepest condolences


We are so sorry to learn of your loss. I don’t know how much it will help but your son/daughter will forever be known as a true hero. Their courage is a testament to the incredible person they were


Your sons patriotism was never in doubt. He is a true patriot and gave his life in service to his country. No greater sacrifice can be made nor demonstration of courage needed. He will always be our hero. Please accept our condolences


Although I’m sure this offers little consolation we, all of us, are in debt to your son and what he gave for our freedom. My deepest sympathy for your loss


We are mourning the loss of your courageous son. He was brave beyond words and an amazing soldier. We are all worse off without him in our lives


I am still in shock over your sons death. I was lucky enough to get to know him during training and he was one of the funniest and generous guys I have known. His loss is a tragedy and I’m so sorry


The country owes a huge debt to your son for his bravery and service. He was a remarkable young man and will be sorely missed

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You have my deepest sympathy for the tragic passing of your son. You should be immensely proud of all he achieved and the sacrifice that he made


No hero is greater than the one who gives their life for their country. Your son/daughter deserves our total respect. My condolences for your loss


Your son/daughter was a credit to the uniform. We are grateful for all they did on our behalf and putting the country before themselves. My heartfelt condolences


We lost one of the greatest men when your son died. He gave his all to everything he tried and always set an example incredible example. May he rest in peace


Today we raise a glass to our fallen comrade. He/she always had our backs and was a true friend. We will miss them like crazy. Rest in heaven


Our prayers and thoughts are with you during this terrible time. It feels ole such a senseless loss but we know your son/daughter was doing what they loved and believed in. If you need to talk please don’t hesitate to get in touch


Your sons valour and bravery will long be remembered. He was a fine young man and leaves behind a huge hole that shall never be truly filled

Condolence Messages for Veterans


The loss of someone who gave so much is so tragic. We are indebted to them forever. RIP


Veterans give up everything so that we can sleep soundly at night. They deserve our recognition and our respect. May you rest in peace and I’m so sorry for your loss


Hero’s take on many forms, but anyone who served their country with such pride and distinction is without a doubt a hero. May they never be forgotten

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Words can do little to truly express how important and brave ______ was. They laid their life on the line and did so without hesitation or fear. They are the embodiment of what it means to be a great man


To have served your country and given your life demonstrates a patriotism few have. We honor the veterans that have sacrificed all they have for us and promise never to forget them or let their death be in vain


The memory of ______ will be of someone who was courageous and heroic. Putting the needs of others before themselves and representing the best qualities a man can have. They will be missed greatly


I know that _____’s passing will have resulted in a huge outpouring of support and condolences. That will only demonstrate how special they were and the impact they had on so many lives. My sincerest sympathy for your loss


We mourn a loss that hits home so hard. I was fortunate enough to see the bravery and fortitude of _____ up close and it was as inspiring sight. To lose them feels so unfair. They will be remembered as a great soldier but even better person. My condolences


Any loss is a tragedy but losing someone as inspirational as ______ is heartbreaking. Getting to know them was an honor and their presence will be missed by so many


My prayers are with you as you mourn the loss of ______. He/she gave more than anyone for what they believed in. The ultimate sacrifice, and one that we will honor in their memory


The word “hero” is often overused, but in this case it couldn’t be more right. Your son was a true hero. Sending you my love and condolences


Serving your country is a great thing to do, but the risks that come with it are unavoidable. I wish you strength to get through such a terrible loss and comfort for the coming days and weeks


The whole nation, not just us, owes your son/daughter a debt of gratitude for what they did. We will grieve with you


Our servicemen and women are the backbone of this country. Your son/daughter stood tall and gave their life for a greater good. They were brave and true. We honor them today and keep their memory alive


I shall never forget your father. He was one of the kindest and warmest men I’ve ever met. To lose him so early in life is utterly heartbreaking. I salute everything he achieved and what he believed in. My sympathy for your loss

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Words of Sympathy for Loss of Brave Soldiers


Bravery and courage are just two words that spring to mind when I think of ______. I will probably never get over losing them like this. I am so sorry for your loss


You should be so proud of what your husband/son stood for. He represented the best in all of us and was a hero through and through. He may be gone but he will never be forgotten


To give your life for the freedom of others is the kind of person ______ was. He/she earned respect with all the good they did in this world. That’s why it makes losing them so painful. I am deeply sorry for your loss


We will never forget what your father did. Our only regret is not being able to say goodbye and thank him for giving up his life for others. His memory shall never fade

military sympathy quote


“This nation will remain the land of the free only so long as it is the home of the brave” – Elmer Davis


My condolences for the loss of your partner. He/she was red, white and blue through and through, and gave everything for this country.


I will remember all the good times I spent with your dad. He was such a wonderful man and I feel honored to have known him. It’s cruel to have lost someone so special so young, and tonight I will be raising a glass and thinking of him up in heaven. My condolences


“To me you can’t put a dollar amount on our servicemen and women who have given their all for our freedom” – Awa Reeder

We hope these messages will have helped you when trying to write or reach out to the families of those passed veterans and soldiers.

It’s difficult enough when expressing your condolences for any loss but losing a soldier or someone in the line of duty can make it even more tricky.

But if you are honest with how you feel and speak from the heart then the recipient will appreciate your kindness and sentiment, whatever it is you say.

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condolence messages

Offering condolences to a friend or loved one during their time of need is important. Finding the right words for condolence messages can be difficult.

You want to make sure you don’t say the wrong thing, or something that might be misconstrued as offensive. You also want to ensure that your words of condolence are heartfelt and meaningful, the sort of thing that would be comforting.

But expressing yourself through a short message this way requires thought and consideration.

The sympathy and condolence messages below will give you some inspiration and ideas, taking away some of the pressure you can feel when attempting to come up with the perfect words. Just know that the grieving will appreciate your message as long as it is from the heart and shows you have taken the time and consideration to think of them.

Use these condolence messages and examples as a guide for what you want to say in your sympathy or condolence card.

Table of Contents
Messages
Short
Quotes
Loss of Father
Loss of Mother
Loss of Sister
Loss of Brother
Loss of a Friend
Loss of a Pet
For Flowers
Religious Messages
Rest in Peace Messages
Miscarriage Condolences
Grief Quotes
Why do We Send Condolences
Should I Send a Condolence Message
How to Express Condolences
How to Write Condolences
When Should you Send Condolences
Offering Condolences via Text
Condolence Etiquette
Condolence and Bereavement Resources
Condolence Images

Condolence Messages

We can’t begin to imagine what you are feeling, but let us share our heart-felt condolence

Today and always, may loving memories bring you peace, comfort, and strength

I am at a loss for words during this sorrowful time. Please know that I am thinking of you and praying for peace and comfort

With our love and deepest sympathy as we remember __________

Please accept our most sincere sympathies for the loss of your __________. May the prayers of all people who love you bring solace to your soul

We can’t begin to imagine what you are feeling, but let us share our heart-felt condolence

Please accept my deepest condolences. I am praying for strength and comfort for you at this time

Thinking of you and wishing you moments of peace and comfort as you remember a friend who was so close to you

Thinking of your family with love and wanting to help out in any way I can

I know this must be a very difficult and demanding time for you all. We are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers

Short Condolence Messages

My heart is with you in your time of sorrow

Our deepest sympathy

With love and remembrance

Forever remembered, forever missed

Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time

You are in my thoughts and prayers

My prayers are with you and your family

Thinking of you during this difficult time

Words can’t express how saddened we are to hear of your loss

May God give you comfort in your time of grief

May the passage of time heal your grief

My family extends to you our deepest condolences

The news of __________ death brings much sadness

May the passage of time heal your grief

We know the day will come but death always leaves us with grief

We are thinking of you during these difficult times

My prayers are for you during this sorrowful time

I am sorry about your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers

When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure

May your memories give you peace and comfort

Sharing in your sorrow. With love and friendship

Gone from our sight, but never from our hearts

May your heart and soul find peace and comfort

May you be comforted by the outpouring of love surrounding you

We send you thoughts of peace and courage

We pray the love of God enfolds you during your journey through grief

With caring thoughts and love

Our family is keeping your family in our thoughts and prayers

Holding you close in my thoughts and hoping you are holding up well

Condolence Quotes

“It is not length of life, but depth of life.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

“Like a bird singing in the rain, let grateful memories survive in time of sorrow” ~ Robert Louis Stevenson

“When you lose someone you love, you gain an angel you know” ~ Unknown

“Some people come into our lives, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never the same” ~ Unknown

“For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity” ~ William Penn

“Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.” ~ Unknown

“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live” ~ Norman Cousins

“Those we love can never be more than a thought away, for as long as there’s a memory they live in our hearts to stay.” ~ Unknown

“When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” ~ Unknown

“Like a bird singing in the rain, let grateful memories survive in time of sorrow” ~ Robert Louis Stevenson

“There is no pain so great as the memory of joy in present grief.” ~ Aeschylus

“What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” ~ Helen Keller

“A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again.” ~ Maya Angelou

Condolence Messages for Loss of Father

Our fathers are the rocks in our lives. So when we lose our dad it is so devastating. Send your condolences with these sample messages.

Your father was a great man. Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss

The loss of your dad has come as such a shock to us all. He will be missed so deeply

I’ll never forget your father’s loving smile and generous spirit. Life won’t be the same without him. My thoughts are with you

We can’t begin to imagine how hard this is for you but please remember we’re here if you need anything at all.

Please accept our condolences for the loss of your father. He will live on forever in our hearts

He may be gone but your dad would have been so proud of you. Let’s celebrate his life and remember the good times. Our condolences go out to you

I know how close you and your dad were. I’m wishing you strength and love to get through this awful time

He may be gone but he’ll be smiling down on you. Let’s make a toast to him and remember what an incredible man and father he was

Deepest condolences for your father’s passing

Your dad touched everyone who knew him. Life will be a little less bright and fun without him. You’ll be in our prayers.

More examples can be seen with our words of sympathy for loss of father

Condolence Messages for Loss of Mother

Losing your mother is one of the most heartbreaking moments in anyone’s life. Having people around you when you face such difficult times is incredibly important. So be there for whoever has lost their mom and show them how much you care with comforting words.

I know there is nothing I can say to ease the pain but you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Your mother was one of the most amazing people I ever met. Her warmth and generosity was unrivalled. Her loss has shocked everyone and we’re all sending you our love. Stay strong.

Words will mean very little but your mom touched me like very few could. Her spirit will live on in you. My condolences on your loss

A mother’s place can never be filled, and her loss will be with you forever. But her memories should be treasured and her life celebrated for the amazing woman she was. I’ll be here for you whatever you need

If there’s anything you need to help get through this awful time, just ask. We’re wishing you strength and love

You have my deepest condolences for the loss of your mom. She was a truly special woman.

The memories of your mother will never fade. She had such a positive impact on everyone who knew her that they will live on forever in our hearts. My deepest sympathy for your loss

Our thoughts go out to you in this trying and difficult time. Your mother was such a good friend if ours we want to be there to help in any way we can

We will miss your mom so much. You’re in our thoughts and anything we can do to help please don’t hesitate to call

Keep strong and remember how proud your mom was of you

If you need some extra help try our guide to the best words of sympathy for the loss of a mother

Condolence Messages for Loss of Sister

Siblings are often very close so when one passes away it can have a really profound impact on the others. Reach out to and be there for those who have lost their sister with a message of sympathy and love.

I was so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. She was a wonderful person and will be missed greatly. Please accept my condolences

I know how close you and your sister were and how much her passing will have hurt you. I’m here to talk or listen if you need me

Your sisters warmth and charitable spirit was an inspiration to us all. We are so sorry for your loss

My thoughts and prayers go out to you during this terrible time. Your sister was an amazing person and will be missed greatly

We send you our deepest sympathies for the loss of your sister

The memories of your sister will never fade. She was one in a million. Please accept my deepest condolences

“My sister may not always be at my side, but she is always in my heart” ~ Unknown

I know my words won’t offer much in the way of relief from the grief but I wanted to offer my condolences. Your sister was a fantastic person and will be missed so much

Your sister was such a kind, loving girl that I can’t imagine a world without her. My prayers go out to you and hope you find strength in family and friends

I feel blessed to have known your sister and the time we spent together. I will never forget the wonderful memories I have of her. I hope your keeping strong and you know I’m here if you need me

Find more examples messages with our sympathy messages for loss of sister

Condolence Messages for Loss of a Brother

The loss of a brother is devastating to the siblings. Reach out to them with some warm memories you have of their brother.


It was so upsetting to learn of your brothers passing. You have my deepest condolences


There are few people who were as amazing and fun as your brother. I’m going to miss him so much. May he rest in peace


I can’t understand how you must be feeling and I know you are your brother we’re so close. If there is anything I can do to help then I will be there. You are in my thoughts


Getting to know your brother was one of the greatest privileges and to lose him so young feels so cruel. I won’t ever forget him though and his legacy will live on


Sending my condolences for your tragic loss. I will be thinking of and praying for you and your family

See our loss of brother quotes for more examples.

Condolence Messages for Loss of a Friend

Losing a friend is utterly heartbreaking. Send some condolences and be there for whoever it is that is grieving.


My heart goes out to you as you grieve a truly terrible loss. My condolences


I know my words can’t take away your pain or hope to make things better but I wanted to reach out to say how sorry I am


I’m always here for you. I hope you can find comfort in friends and family and it brings you some light amongst the darkness


I will be praying for you and to find the strength to cope with the loss of someone so important to you


I will be thinking of you as you mourn a tragic loss. If you need someone to talk to or listen then I’m only a phone call away

Try our condolence messages for friends if you need some further ideas.

Condolence Messages for Loss of a Pet

Pets are just as important to their owners as family, so when they lose one it can be an incredibly hard time for them. Be mindful of their grief and approach them as you would with any other loss.


I’m very sorry for the passing of your beloved pet. My condolences


I know your furry friend was more to you than ‘just a pet’. She was like a member of the family. I’m deeply sorry about her passing


Hold on to those cherished memories of _____ and remember the good times. My sympathy and love


It’s so heartbreaking to say goodbye to such a special companion. I will be thinking of you


Losing a true friend is always so hard. May you take comfort in knowing they had a wonderful live with you and the love you gave them. My condolences

Our pet condolence messages and pet loss quotes will help you with even more examples.

Condolence Messages for Flowers

Sending flowers after a loss is a lovely way to offer your sympathy. A beautiful bouquet of flowers can really cheer up and let those mourning know you are thinking of them. Include a few words of condolence on a note with the flowers to show they are in your thoughts.


My condolences and love to you and your family


May these flowers mean more than any words ever could


May your dad rest in peace and forever be in our hearts


With love and heartfelt sympathy


May these words and beautiful flowers remind you of your departed loved one

Religious Condolence Messages and Bible Verses

The Bible and other religious texts can be a huge comfort to some when they are grieving. A well chosen verse or faith based message would be an appropriate choice for someone who you know is religious and has a strong faith.


“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted” – Matthew 5:4


“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble” – Psalm 46:1


“The memory of the righteous is a blessing” – Proverbs 10:7


“And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” – Philemon


“I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you” – John 14:18

For more verses and quotes see our sympathy religious quotes or Bible verses for loss.

Rest in Peace Messages

Saying ‘rest in peace’ is a traditional way of saying goodbye to someone. It conveys your sadness at their passing and let’s you wish your condolences too.


You were my world. I will cherish every second I spent with you. Rest in peace


No words can describe how sorry I am for your loss. My sincerest condolences to you and your family


Goodbyes are not forever, and not the end; It simply means I’ll miss you until we meet again. RIP


It’s so hard to forget someone who gave you so much to remember. Rest in peace


RIP to my truest friend. I’m lost without you

Say ‘rest in peace’ with our rest in peace quotes.

Miscarriage Condolences

The loss of a child is something only few can imagine. It is hard to even think of the pain it must bring. No words can ever make up for such a loss but it’s important to reach out and let the bereaved mother or father know they have the love and support of their friends.


I know how little these words mean but if you need to talk I’m always here


Nothing I could hope to say to ease your pain but I’m constantly thinking of you


Sending our most heartfelt condolences and hoping you find strength to make it through this tragedy


All I can offer is a friendly ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on. I’m so very sorry this has happened


We are so saddened by your loss. Your baby girl was the sweetest angel and she touched so many lives. We will never forget her

Use our guide to miscarriage condolences and words of sympathy for the loss of a child to help you even more.

Grief Quotes

Grief affects us all in different ways. Dealing with it can be very hard but knowing others have gone through the same can help us to not feel alone.


“Grit your teeth and let it hurt. Don’t deny it, don’t be overwhelmed by it. It will not last forever” – Rabbi Harold Kushner​


“So it’s true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love” – E.A. Bucchianeri


“Perhaps they are not the stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy” – Inuit Proverb


“What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes part of us” – Helen Keller


“When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure” – Unknown

A greater range of quotes can be found at our grief quotes.

Why do we Send Condolence Messages

Simply: because we care. After losing someone close to you the world becomes a very lonely, quite often scary place. Having friends, family and even strangers offering their condolences and thoughts can provide comfort amongst the grief.

Knowing you’re not alone, that people are there for you if you need them – that makes a big difference. So if you’re looking for a reason to send someone your condolences, that should be enough.

There are other reasons too. If you’re hesitating about sending condolences then there are a few things you can consider.

  • Condolences help to bring comfort to those grieving. They offer support, love and the knowledge they aren’t alone. Whilst words may not seem like much they can have a much greater impact than we are aware.
  • When dealing with a loss it can be difficult for the family and people closest to the deceased to communicate. Grief is overwhelming. It can make just the thought of talking to people seem like an impossible task. But they can read and appreciate the condolences of others in their own time. So sending condolences is a great way to let them know they are in your thoughts without putting any additional pressure on to them during such a tragic time.
  • If you are a long distance from those coping with a loss or are unable to attend the funeral or memorial then sending condolences allows you to express your sympathy from afar.
  • When you write condolences about the death of someone you knew it gives you the opportunity to grieve yourself. You can think about what the deceased meant to you and remember some warm memories you have of them. You may even want to include those thoughts in your condolence message.
  • If you can then you can use your condolence note to offer help. That might be things like running errands for them, cooking some meals, picking up their kids from school etc. Whatever you can do will be greatly appreciated and a condolence card is a good time to offer it.
  • From a personal perspective if you have not made any effort to get in touch with and send condolences then at a later date when you see those who lost their loved one you may feel embarrassed or regret not doing so.

Whilst writing such a personal message may not come easily it’s still a touching gesture and one you should try to do. If you’re struggling then the messages we have here should help you to find the right words to properly express how you’re feeling.

Should I Send a Condolence Message

This is a personal decision but there aren’t many reasons why you wouldn’t want to. The relationship and how well you knew the deceased will play a part in your choice of whether to reach out, but offering your condolences is always going to be appreciated.

Regardless of how close you were the family and friends of the departed will be grateful to anyone who sends their love during such a tragic time.

If you still aren’t sure then think of the types of people you know that might suffer a loss and how you would feel about reaching out to them ave what you might say.

  • Losing a family member is the hardest bereavement and so when offering your sympathy try to be as understanding as you can. Perhaps share a happy memory or story of the deceased that the family will find comforting.
  • A coworker is someone you may get to know very well despite only seeing them at work. When reaching out to the bereaved you can let them know just how close you became and how much you enjoyed working with them.
  • Friends we lose cause real grief but the comfort and support of others can help to ease that pain. Share your memories of them to bring some solace to those mourning their friend.
  • Acquaintances or strangers still deserve condolences but keep your wording less personal and more general.
  • The loss of a pet may not seem like they are that important to you but to their owners the loss can be just as devastating as a family member. Keep that in mind when considering whether to and what to say to those mourning a passed pet.

Ultimately whether you send condolences and what you say is your choice but it is a kind gesture to show you’re thinking of those grieving.

How to Express Condolences

It can be daunting knowing the right way to reach out with your condolences to those mourning a loss. There are so many different ways we communicate nowadays.

Do you send a card, an email, text message, make a phone call or visit/talk to someone in person? All are acceptable and the main thing isn’t so much the method but to show you care and are thinking of those grieving.

In Person

Talking to someone in person is always going to be more comforting than a card, email or text message. There’s nothing better than having a friend or loved by your side to help you through the hardest moments.

But before you rush out to see your mourning friend keep in mind that grief affects people very strongly and differently. Many will want to be left alone to grieve on their own or just with family. And the thought of talking to lots of people would be overwhelming whilst coping with the pain of a loss. So be careful.

If you do decide to see them then be sure to let them know when you are going to be there and also to give them the chance to say no or back out eg. “I’d really love to come over to see you and help with anything you need. Or just to talk. But if you don’t feel up to it then I completely understand and won’t be offended at all.”

Remember that actions can often be more powerful than words. Just listening, holding their hand or giving them a hug may be all they need.

Related: What to Say to Someone Who is Grieving

What to Say

  • I’m so sorry for your loss
  • You are in my thoughts
  • You will be in my prayers
  • An offer of help/support – I’m here for you if you need anything
  • My deepest condolences
  • My heartfelt sympathy
  • Sweet stories or anecdotes, beloved memories – anything positive about the deceased to remember them well
  • Just being there for them

Don’t Say

  • “They are in a better place now” – no one who has lost a loved one ever thinks this. Even if they’ve been suffering before passing away the family and friends never want to say goodbye to those special people. So this isn’t appropriate to say.
  • “Everything happens for a reason” – losing a loved one doesn’t have a good reason. It only causes sadness and pain. Avoid saying this to those grieving
  • “I understand what you’re going through” – whilst you may have lost someone too each persons grief is different. You can’t know what they’re feeling and should only try to support them rather than make it about yourself.
  • “Life goes on” – this is true, but not what someone wants to hear just after they’ve lost someone they love.
  • “Try not to be too sad” – let them grieve how they want to. If they want to be sad that’s fine and all you should do is support and comfort them.
  • “They lived a full life” – this also might be true but even if they lived to 120 years old and achieved everything they could have ever wanted it won’t make their death any less painful.
  • “Try to move on” – let people grieve at their own speed. Just because you think it’s been long enough doesn’t mean they are ready to move on.

See our guide to what not to say to someone grieving for more help.

A Card

The most traditional and usual way of expressing your condolences is with a card. They are readily available to buy in many places or you can even make your own if you’re the crafty type.

A card is a lovely gesture after a loss because it shows a certain amount of effort has gone into it. A text message or post on social media is good for its ease and speed but doesn’t require much thought.

Sending a card with a handwritten sympathy note shows some real care and attention has been taken. It means a little bit more.

You may even want to include a gift or put your card and note with some beautiful flowers. We have a full guide for good gift ideas.

A Condolence Letter/Email

You can go one step further than a card and send the bereaved a letter to offer your sympathy for their loss. This is usually longer than a standard note or condolence card.

A letter can be sent either directly after learning of the loss or some time after the funeral. You may also want to send a note or letter at major milestones – anniversaries, Christmas, birthdays etc. – that the deceaseds family will find hard.

How to Write a Condolence Message

Writing your own meaningful condolence message isn’t easy. Finding the words that offer the bereaved support and properly express your sadness and sorrow for their loss isn’t easy.

If you do decide to write your message rather than using the examples provided here then there are a few ways to make it easier and things to keep in mind.

Firstly it’s important to think about is who the message is for. If it’s a close friend or family member then your message will be very different to an acquaintance, for example.

The words you use with people your close to can be a lot more personal, emotional and informal. You can talk about shared experiences, memories you have of the deceased, funny stories etc.

For those you don’t know as well it’s better to keep it as a simple and short condolence. Stay quite formal and don’t over elaborate – just say how sorry for their loss you are.

You may also want to think about the cause of death. The way in which someone died may influence the way you write your message. A suicide or the loss of a child is going to be very different to an elderly relative passing away.

Don’t overlook religious beliefs either. Some people are very religious and you may want to make what you write reflect that. Others may be the complete opposite and would find any religious overtones unacceptable.

And you might be considering offering help in your message. This again would only be appropriate if you knew the person well. If you think they might want some assistance with the funeral or their children picking up from school, as examples, then you can include that in a condolence card or note.

If you need some ideas to get you started or help with the right words then use our example condolence messages as a starting point. You can even take parts of multiple messages and mix them up to create one that fits your situation.

When Should you Send Condolences

The sooner the better. If you can reach out to whoever it is that has suffered a loss instantly then do so. They will appreciate any and all messages of condolence.

As we are all connected in ways we didn’t use to be it means we learn of news faster and can reach people more easily. So there’s nothing holding you back from quickly sending a text message or commenting on social media.

This can be followed up later with a card or gift if you feel like you want to express your condolences in a more traditional way.

A Card, Flowers or Gift

A card with flowers or gift can also be sent very quickly. You can go online and buy a card this instance if you wanted and either have it sent directly to the grieving or send it yourself when it arrives.

Many florists are online as well and will deliver the flowers directly to whoever you request.

All of these can be sent as quickly as you like. If you have to wait a little while for whatever reason that’s fine too. There’s no real specific timeframe for sending condolences, but aiming for sooner rather than later is probably for the best.

A Letter

If you opt to send a letter of condolence then you can either send it right away or maybe wait a while. A letter allows you to write more than a simple card and really open up about the deceased.

This can be great as a way of saying how sorry you are for their loss straightaway. But you could also think about sending a card with a simple condolence message and then waiting until after the funeral before sending your letter. That way you can check in with them to make sure they’re coping ok.

At the Funeral

When you attend the funeral then you express your condolences as soon as you greet the family of the deceased. It’s likely you will feel awkward at first but that’s perfectly natural.

The family will appreciate your kind words and the conversation will quickly settle into something more normal and less uncomfortable. Try to follow their lead and talk about what they want to.

Don’t only focus on the deceased or the funeral (unless they choose to). But also don’t try to avoid any talk of it either as that will come across as a little odd.

Offering Condolences via Text

You may be wondering if it’s acceptable to send your condolences via text? The answer is yes, it’s a convenient and simple way to send your condolences via a text message if you choose.

It may also be the only way you can communicate with the deceased in some circumstances. But there is also the generational divide to consider – your grandparents may not be quite as used to texting as your friends.

So it’s best to use your own judgement and decide whether to text or not depending on who the recipient is.

Condolence Text Message Examples

  • You will be in my thoughts and prayers after such a terrible loss
  • My deepest condolences to you and your family. Your mother will be missed so much
  • I just wanted to reach out to say how sorry for your loss I was. I’m always here if you need me
  • Please accept my condolences during this tragic time. My heart goes out to you
  • I am praying for you and your family. May you find some peace at such a difficult time
  • Your dad was a wonderful man who I as lucky to call a friend. May he rest in peace
  • My sincerest sympathy to you for the loss of your sister
  • I can’t begin to understand how hard this must be for you but if there’s anything you need I can be there

For more help with the etiquette and how to send your message we have a guide to offering condolences via text.

Condolence Etiquette

There are a few more things to consider when sending a condolence card. Follow these guidelines to avoid getting anything wrong:

  • You should send your card or address it to the closet relative of the deceased if you knew them. If it’s a friend or colleague that has lost someone but you didn’t know them then address your card to that person.
  • If you aren’t sure what the bereaved feels about religion it’s best to avoid anything religious as part of your condolences.
  • Remember to include your last name when signing your sympathy card. The bereaved may receive multiple cards from people with the same name so will want to be able to know who sent what.
  • Write your address on the envelope when you send a card. This allows for the bereaved to send you a thank you note for your condolences if they wish
  • For people you don’t know that well it’s best to keep your message short and simple, and probably quite informal too.

For more help with the etiquette of expressing condolences see our condolence etiquette guide or etiquette tips for sending a sympathy card.

Condolences and Bereavement Resources

For more information on coping with bereavement or how to be there for those going through a loss these resources are helpful and cover a lot of questions you may have:

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